Lonely Yet Desperately Looking

[Japadict]

Okay, I'll cut to the chase if you people don't mind. For well over a year now, I've been dealing with depression problems. If I think back, it was probably first set off by a hard crush on a girl and a rejection I took badly. This, I later found out from her friend, was because she was secretly dating someone else and she didn't want anyone to know (which DID turn out to be true). Of course, I was over it within a week and everything was cool between me and the girl who are still friends, which is good.

However, since then, I've been growing more and more lonely - wanting to find a 'significant other' if that's the correct term, or in other words, someone to have a relationship with. Well since then I've been constantly gaining crushes on people who were already taken or else liked somebody else (found out for sure) - all of these nice people, but without even asking I managed to crush each one back into friend status.

I did ask out another girl who's a good friend of mine but she basically changed the subject and somehow I never got an answer, yet recently she's been acting more friendly than usual and coming up along to say hi. I'm unsure if this is a good sign, I've received advice to ask her out for coffee perhaps and ask her casually if she doesn't bring it up herself.

Well obviously I just gave my own advice to myself, however, if anyone could give me tips on how to find someone to fill that empty space if this fails, it would be deeply appreciated. I know I've still got plenty of time ahead of me as a 15 year old, however, I would at least want to see if I can fill this empty space just once during High School, even if it makes it worse I want to know I had a go at a relationship. Obviously I'm not being very clear here and sorry for the long read, so basically I'm asking:

What is a good strategy to minimize friendship trouble and find a girl who would go out with me? Where can I find her (like school)? How and where is a good place to ask if she likes me or else if she'd go out with me?

I'm obviously only going to be looking for someone I already get along well with, or will probably get along well with, so I can basically say I'm a quiet, silent achieving type who does well in school yet has plenty of friends. I'm the person who listens in to the conversation rather than joining it.

Thanks lots in advance whether or not I get advice for this ;)

[Everglow]

Just gotta be you man. Don't try to be someone you're not. Relationships are :scratchchin: interesting to say the least. All you can do is ask someone if they fancy you like you fancy them. If you get rejected, yeah, it hurts, but don't give up. One day you'll find someone who is just right for you. Let love find you. You'll know it when it hits you.

So you want to minimize friend troubles? Well, just for advice, don't ask, in your group of friends, one girl out over another. That calls for unwanted bitchyness and could split the group up.

You could find her at school, though I wouldn't recommend it. You don't need other people trying to tell you what the relationship is or isn't at school. People at school will make the relationship what they want it to be, not what you want it to be. You have to put yourself out there if you want to find someone.

For the how and were, just ask right in front of her. You could pull her aside and do it privately, which helps, but you could literally ask her anywhere anytime when you are with her. It's best if you develop a friendly relationship with each other before you rush into a loving relationship. Be honest about your feelings and hope that she feels the same way.

[Sage]

If you can't be casual don't even bother.

[marine_sniperman35]

Dude i'm feelin the same thing. But just remember...BE YOURSELF!!! Don't be someone you aren't just to get a girl because if you do get her you are going to talk to her about everything and she'll realize that u weren't being ur true self.