I was so close!

[Green Arrow]

First of all I would like to apologise for the long post I just need to tell some people. :S

Today I plucked up the courage after roughly a year of knowing that I am gay to try and tell one of my friends. I was inspired after watching some old episodes of Glee as I hadn’t watched them in a while. If you don’t know the story line Kurt a boy in high school is gay and feels as though he is all on his own and is bullied. Kurt then meets the boy of his dreams, Blaine, and then in a later episode Blaine sends a text message saying “Courage” and then Kurt stands up against the bully. At first I decided to write something on Facebook about courage and how it affects people you can read what I said at the bottom of this post. I then decided to take the message “Courage” in a different sense, courage to tell someone as I had been on the forever long see-saw that is coming out.

I was then wondering who to tell, then out of the blue as though someone up there wanted me to tell one of my best friends, a friend started to talk to me on Facebook chat. I then started to chat to him as I usually would, he said something like how are you? And I replied saying Meh alright I suppose, which then he replied with “what’s up?” so i said “exams, revision and other stuff” then he just said “I hear you man” So then after about 5-10 minutes I said “can you keep a secret?” He says “Yeah of course it’s me” so I was literally typing “I’m gay” and about to press enter when suddenly in a sitcom/TV drama style moment I was called for dinner so I decided to say “I need to go have dinner brb wait for me pls” to which he replied with “yes of course”. I then return after I had my dinner for him to have disappeared and my “buzz” gone. I just don’t know what to do now, my confidence seems to have been blown by this I don’t know why. :(


Help!

[StoppingTime]

It all depends on how you want to do it. I would definitely try to tell the same person, via whatever way you are most comfortable with. Whether that be face to face. I think this is better, because there really is no turning back once you sit down with him. While over Facebook, this isn't the case. However, there's nothing at all wrong with Facebook as long as you were as confident as you were before.
Maybe you could kind of say, after the usual "what's up?" stuff, say, "remember what I was trying to tell you before...." and go on from there if you'd like. This way, it feels like you never had a break in between.
Anyway, hope I helped, and good luck! If he's a true friend, you have no need to worry, he will accept you for being you. :)

[Desuetude]

Sometimes it's an "in the moment" thing. You build up enough courage and if you're distracted from that it then that's just unfortunate because it's hard to get back into that mode. At least you're set on telling him now, you just have to find that right moment again and make sure you go for it.
How do you mean your confidence is blown? I'm sure it's still there you might just have to wait until you're both together and you're in the right mood that it comes back full force again.

[Green Arrow]

It's just so frustrating :(

[Smeagol]

Well I'm sorry to hear that it didn't go as planned and hopefully there's another moment to come out in soon!

[Lyra Heartstrings]

Prepare yourself. It isn't an easy moment, but you just have to be ready. There's nothing wrong with it. Just..build yourself up to not get hurt.

[itsjustme9000]

all sorta will come together when fate allowsit you'll be able to tell someone. your doing a really really good job dude you've got curage

[Loverocksyah]

i wish i had the courage to tell a guy friend.

[pineinchneis]

I know how you feel. Sometimes i feel like 'why don't i just tell everyone' but then others im like 'there's no way im telling anyone else' you just gotta take a deep breath and carry on and tell them if you feel you want to

[johnnyd]

Don't let the burden eat away at you! If you feel like you really need to tell someone, tell your best friend. Tell him that you really need some support, and if he's truly your friend, he'll give it to you. While not personally gay, I had a close friend who came out and says it was the best decision of his life. Obviously, there are going to be some close-minded idiots who harass you about it, but most people, including myself, respect those who have the courage to do something like that. But again, only come out when you really feel comfortable and confident about it.

[jjsmitty]

I came out as bisexual at age 15, seeing as i'm really straight acting (competitive athletic mechanic type guy) it was one hell of a shock to alot of very straight guy friends, two of which I havent spoken to since, one (which I really fancied) actually turned around and said he was curious and we got together for about a year and a half and now are very good friends. The rest of the year were like "meh." So its up to you, but it does feel really good when you finally get out.

[Skyhawk]

You have plenty of time to come out. Remember, if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Maybe that just wasn't the right time to tell your friend.