Feeling Unwanted by My Dad

[HealingScars]

For the past week and a half almost two weeks I have felt completely unwanted by dad. He won't even look at me. Even when I try to tell how school is going he looks at me with a blank stare. Or the, "Why are telling me this I don't care" look.
It seems nothing is ever good enough for him. Guess this is apart of growing up. I didn't think it would hurt this bad.

[Desuetude]

Have you tried talking to him, telling him how you feel? Maybe if you sit down with him and talk things out it will change things. He might not even know what he's doing is hurting you, if you don't communicate then neither of you will understand and it could create tension and misunderstandings that really don't belong.

If it's only been two and a half weeks then something much have changed in his life. You're 18 and he's never treated you like this before? Try asking him if anything is wrong because it could be that there is something more behind the change in attitude.

No, it's not a normal part of growing up. For some, yes it is something that unfortunatley does happen but "usually" parents are supportive and encouraging. He shouldn't put you down in any way, even if he's are unaware of what he's doing he should be able to figure out something is wrong.

It hurts but keeping it to yourself does no good either. I know you've shared it here but it's likely that it will still be eating you up inside. Write everything you're feeling down or tell someone (a friend or someone you feel close with) about it. It helps sharing, doesn't feel like such a big weight on your shoulders. Hopefully things will get better for you, don't give up on him just yet because the situation can change you just need to make the first move to try and fix it.

[ColourMeScarred13]

At some point in life your parents and family have to realise that you have grown up and they need to let you go. Sometimes people take it to the extremes to try and make you become more independent maybe. Try talking it over with him, or maybe just sit down by yourself and think could anything have triggered this? Like a bad event, a loss or something going on in his life that he's keeping bottled up. Maybe it's just his way of coping with life, but I agree this shouldn't be a normal occurrence of growing up as it obviously affects you but remember even if it doesn't show directly on the surface, your dad loves you and would hate to let you go. So my advice to you would be try and be patient, listen to him and any signs of something that might have caused this. Has he been like this before to you? If so it's most likely just a change in his attitude but if not there may be some problem he's just not telling you about. Be strong for the amazing person you are and he has no reason to get you down or treat you this way otherwise, and I agree try letting out this bottled up emotion. I always find it helps me to overcome hurdles like this in life and even just talking about it to someone I trust has helped. Even if they can't help you, having someone physically there can make you feel wanted. I wish you all the best with him, and please don't give up. Best wishes :) xxxxxxxxxxxx

[Strawberrie]

Your dad sounds like my dad. Even though I'm not sure it'll mean much to you, I want you to know that this is not your fault. It is nothing you have done wrong. Your dad has issues within himself that he won't work on, so he's taking them out partially on you. I know how much it hurts. He probably won't come around til he's ready, but there is nothing you can do, so don't let his problems capture you too. Try to keep things civil with your dad and don't waste your time and energy on someone who doesn't care. One day he will realize what a mistake he's made, and if he doesn't, then you were better off without him anyways. Try putting your energy into your friends who care about you and don't focus too much on your father.