Telling parents...

[BringMeTheHorizon018]

I've been self harming for two years now and I've avoided check ups for that long. But, my mom wants to take me for one soon.... I have cuts and many scars on my thighs and stomach, also some on my wrists. I've tried cover-up but it doesn't work well with the ones on my thighs... so I know the doctor will see them and she will know what they are from. I want to tell my mom before I actually see the doctor... I just don't know how. I can't see myself saying, "Mom, I cut myself." She is very against it and I just really need some advice on how to bring it up and tell her... thanks.

[Ravenous1]

If it helps i told my mom through a note i left on her dresser

[Desuetude]

Deciding to tell her is great. You could get the help you need to be able to stop if that's what you want and it's always nice to have someone to talk to about things anyway.
How do you know she's against it? Has she actually said to your face that she doesn't like it, not that anyone does like it but you're her daughter, she wants to be there for you no matter what the problem is. Im sure she wouldn't want you to think that you can't talk to her.
I say your options are, sit her down when it's just the two of you and just try to explain the best you can, it might be hard and intimidating but the longer you wait to tell her the more nervous you will get about it. Another option is to write it in a letter, leave the letter somewhere that she will find it and you could even go out for a while to let her think about it.
It will be better for her to know before you go to the doctors because if you're there and she finds out that would be worse and everyone would just get more angry, especially if there is another person in the room. You being honest with her and telling her yourself Im sure she'd appreciate a lot more out of the two. Good luck with it :)

[BringMeTheHorizon018]

Thank you for all your advice, it really helped me. Yea, she said it flat out, "That's sick, I don't understand why people do that. I don't know what I would do if one of my kids did that." So that's what makes me worried about telling her. Even though her reaction might not be good, I'm going 2 tell her before my doctors appointment. Thanks again for your help. :)

[Desuetude]

Thank you for all your advice, it really helped me. Yea, she said it flat out, "That's sick, I don't understand why people do that. I don't know what I would do if one of my kids did that." So that's what makes me worried about telling her. Even though her reaction might not be good, I'm going 2 tell her before my doctors appointment. Thanks again for your help. :)

I'm sorry about that. Maybe she might change her opinions on it because of you, lets hope she does. Most of the time people just don't understand the logic we have behind it. I suppose there isn't much but you know what I mean.
It's good that you're going to tell her still, again, good luck.

[Carly011]

Its good that you are going to tell her. Your stronger then me! i just make sure the doctors dont see my scars in whatever way i can :)

Good luck!

[FullyAlive]

However you decide to tell her a good idea would be to arm yourself with factsheets and information, sit down when it's just the two of you so you can properly talk. Tell her what's going on, then hand her the information and let her read through it. Maybe prepare what you want to say to make sure you get it all out.