Would you continue to be with someone if they never wanted marriage?

[DerBear]

This is purely for curiosity purposes. It actually arose from another topic me and a dozen people were debating on during our lunch hour today.

So would you continue to date someone if they did not believe in marriage and never wanted to marry?

Personally I would. I mean if you love someone you would respect there wishes correct? So I mean I suppose I would and of course I would discuss this with them but I would respect there choice.


P.S I did not know where to post this and this seemed like the best place. I considered the ROTW but then again while there is a debate aspect of this post I thought that it is also a simple discussion/view point. So move it as you please mod's.

[Kaius]

I would. To be honest i don't regard marriage as anything more than a ring and a piece of paper, it shouldn't affect the relationship you have with that person just because the name and legality of it has changed. I don't need marriage, sure it'd be nice to show off the fact you love them and they love you but ultimately, its not important.

[Jet.]

Well I think first of all, I'd like to know their reasons why. I know my Dad won't marry his girlfriends because he's afraid that that will make it official, that it will somewhat be worse when he cheats on her. He will have a ring on his finger to 'prove that he isn't free'. Really, he doesn't like her enough but doesn't have the guts to say it, because of everything that she does for him.
^That makes me wary of people who don't want to marry. However, if i knew that there was mutual love in our relationship, and understood his reasons to why he didn't want to marry, i would respect that.

[Smeagol]

I would want to know why the person didn't want to marry, but honestly, as long as I understood why I wouldn't mind.

[Hermes]

Answering the original question, yes I would have a long term relationship with someone even with no prospect of marriage.

Attitudes to marriage vary so much. In one way marriage, and in particular the making of the vows, should make the two people both think really hard about how committed they are so people only marry when they are prepared to work at making it work and be disciplined enough not to ruin it.

Some people see marriage as having locked one's partner in so they no longer work at their relatiknship. Divorce is common. Marrying in itself does not prevent one's spouse being tempted by pastures new and, should that happen, invites a third party in the form of the courts into settling the material possessions.

[Efflorescence]

I would be thrilled. It would be pretty fuckin great. I don't want to marry either mate so we would be perfect for each other.

[Buranri]

Yeah, same. I'm not against marriage, but I think it's not something to rush into. People change, it's just a fact of life. Not everyone is going to stay in love for their entire lives, and marriage just complicates that if it it happens.

[obsessivedisorder]

Depends on how old we are. If we are in high school, sure, why not? It may be iffy in college... but after college, probably not. I want to be with a guy who is serious about things. And if he doesn't want a marriage, or doesn't see himself getting married, I am wasting my time.

[Solvez18]

I feel marriage is the right thing to do. But i guess i wouldn't mind as long it was a legitamate reason to my concern.

[BFG9001]

Marraige is a waste of time and money.

[FullyAlive]

At this age yes, future isn't too important to me right now. If I like someone and want to date them then I will regardless of their views on things such as marriage. Especially as I don't even have a set opinion it changes all the time.

However maybe in my late 20's when I'm actually looking to settle down then I wouldn't date them, i want to have fun when I'm young, but then when I want to start my life with someone I don't want to be wasting my time with someone who doesn't want the same things as me.

[Mortal Coil]

I would; I don't ever want to get married.

[Eric57]

As someone who has never and most likely never will see marriage as a necessity or even something that is remotely important, yes, I would date someone who didn't want to get married.

For me, marriage has never really been all that important. I'm not going to say that I know for sure I will never getting married, but to me, marriage isn't important and it's not something I look for or want to rush into. The way I think about it, being married and being in a committed relationship are essentially the same thing. I don't need to have a ring on my finger to tell my partner how much I love them and how dedicated I am to them.

Like I said, I would never rule out marriage, but it's not something I am really looking for.

And to answer your question, yes, I would be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to get married.

[Alexander The Great]

I would, I wouldn't really have a problem with it at all

[Error 404]

Yes i would.Personally, i don't see whats the big deal about it.It's just a piece of paper.

[Kanindrum]

Honestly, it highly depends on if not being married allows them the right to go be with other people while still with you. I'm a jealous person so it doesn't fly too easily with me. However, if there is true trust involved, I see nothing wrong with it. Marriage these days are seriously beginning to become not as they use to be anyway... most marriages end in divorce which is quite sad.

[Alduin]

Yes I would, you won't find me after marraige either :P

[Angel Androgynous]

Yeah, I'd actually prefer a person that's not diving into marriage...

[Short Circuit]

Yes I would, you do not need to marry someone to prove you love them

[GodFire64]

IDK i think if i was old (like 29-33+) I would brake things up, but until like 26, you don't really need to be in s serouse relationship

[Highschool1995]

to answer this question watch how i met your mother