Judgement

[Wolverine.]

Hey hey,



I was at McDonald's today. When I payed for my food and I was walking away, the girl at the counter said, quite loudly to her co-worker, "Haha! Hey, did you see that girl's scars on her hands? What an emo cutter freak!". And then the laughed as I left the shop.

Yes. I am aware that I have scars, and yes, it is pretty obvious where they come from. But what I don't understand is how people like that point it out, and belittle you clearly in front of everyone. Do there girls not understand that I am a person, with real feelings? Do they not understand that words do hurt? I am used to being put down and scrutinised by society. I've been doing it for 5 and a half years. I've heard everything. And you know what? It doesn't shock me.

The general public are like vultures, picking and tearing down the weak, innocent and different. I think it is sad that this world has diminished in kindness and empathy so much, that I am used to being outcast for my self harm. I think that it is sad that people think that it is Ok to stereotype people as "emo cutter freaks" or anything else that diminishes someone as a person.

I don't know. Maybe it is just me. But surely, I can't be the only one who has a problem with being harshly judged.

[Desuetude]

No, of course it's not just you. I'm sorry that you had to go through that, it's not right for people to judge when they don't know you or anything about your life but unfortunatley that's how it goes.

I think the reason people make fun and are so harsh about it is because they don't understand. I mean, how can they when they've been brought up in a society where depression and mental illnesses are things that are joked about in primary schools. It's not right that people point it out and it hurts. 3 times in the past fortnight people have joked about it and made the actions right to my face. Someone even said that's what I'd be doing in a few years, no one even knows I'm doing it now, which actually just made me want to punch him.

They probably don't know how much what they say or how they react affects you. It's not like cutting is well known and taught about like drugs and alcohol from an early age and I know they're not the same things but it could be included in there somewhere. They associate it with emos and because of that it's degrading to people that actually have a problem with self harm.

I'd like to say there was something to do about it but those that are so closed minded that they can't even take the time to think about what they're saying are unlikely to change their opinions even knowing the real reasons. With everything you're bound to get people that don't understand or have different opinions about it but you just have to cope with them in the best way possible.

[Maiden]

it's a shame that people can't understand the situation that some people are in.
as Oblivion said it's the lack of knowledge,and people are judgemental and will allways be, especally if they havent experienced anything similar.

i can't say i ever been in the same situation as you. Only person that have seen my scars is my best friend, but he have never mentioned it. I don't know if he don't know how to cope with it or if he just can't imagine me cutting myself, eventhough the scars are obviously self made.

[StoppingTime]

Hey hey,



I was at McDonald's today. When I payed for my food and I was walking away, the girl at the counter said, quite loudly to her co-worker, "Haha! Hey, did you see that girl's scars on her hands? What an emo cutter freak!". And then the laughed as I left the shop.

People are extremely stereotypical. They automatically think, "scars=emo cutter."
Emo itself I find incredibly stupid, since there is no true meaning to it, or at least never used how it should be.
They don't understand. They think it's a joke, and you'll just laugh it off.
Instead, they don't realize the actual meaning behind it. They judge right on the spot.


Yes. I am aware that I have scars, and yes, it is pretty obvious where they come from. But what I don't understand is how people like that point it out, and belittle you clearly in front of everyone. Do there girls not understand that I am a person, with real feelings? Do they not understand that words do hurt? I am used to being put down and scrutinised by society. I've been doing it for 5 and a half years. I've heard everything. And you know what? It doesn't shock me.

Of course, you aren't the one causing the trouble. They don't think about "cutting" as they do about drugs and alcohol. It's always considered that taboo, outcast-like action that is wrong. But if people actually understood it, instead of blindly joking about it, this would never happen. Sadly though, most of them won't change. They won't recognize the real problem, and just makes jokes out of it.


The general public are like vultures, picking and tearing down the weak, innocent and different. I think it is sad that this world has diminished in kindness and empathy so much, that I am used to being outcast for my self harm. I think that it is sad that people think that it is Ok to stereotype people as "emo cutter freaks" or anything else that diminishes someone as a person.

You are absolutely right. All I can suggest is to go up to someone and say something like, "Look, do you even understand what you just said? Why am I an "emo cutter freak"? or something like that. There really isn't any good way to cope with it except to ignore them, and understand how close minded they are being.


I don't know. Maybe it is just me. But surely, I can't be the only one who has a problem with being harshly judged.

It isn't just you. I have friends that'll say, whenever someone doesn't do something they want, "Shut up and go cut yourself." There are people who laugh, because they don't want to be singled out. Others don't know the difference, and don't really care.
Just be the one who stares them right in the eye, and do nothing at all.