Your life isn't over...

[elemental06]

I lost my younger brother at the age of 8 from a bone cancer. At the age of 12 my mother past away from a car accident. At the age of 14 i lost my best friend to a drowning incident. Right after my 15 birthday the girl i wanted to marry when i was older died. and now my dad is fighting for his life with cancer of his own.

It just seems pointless to me, that so many people think there life is over. Think there life sucks or believe they shouldn't be alive. If you want to continue to complain about your absolutely pathetic problems go ahead. Your boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with you, wow such a big deal. Its not like your going to go out with another guy in the next month.

I'm sorry for posting this or even if it insults you, yet i had to say something or i'd drive myself crazy. I'm still alive after every single thing in my life went to dust, and i am still looking for that ounce of happiness everyone wants to achieve. Death is like a friend to me by now...

[Bath]

Ramblings Of The Wise :arrow: Family & Friends

[iallen]

im sorry to hear about your losses :(

[Stryker125]

Sorry to hear about what's happened to you..but thanks for staying strong. Just keep on living dude. You'll be okay.

[DerBear]

I lost my younger brother at the age of 8 from a bone cancer. At the age of 12 my mother past away from a car accident. At the age of 14 i lost my best friend to a drowning incident. Right after my 15 birthday the girl i wanted to marry when i was older died. and now my dad is fighting for his life with cancer of his own.

It just seems pointless to me, that so many people think there life is over. Think there life sucks or believe they shouldn't be alive. If you want to continue to complain about your absolutely pathetic problems go ahead. Your boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with you, wow such a big deal. Its not like your going to go out with another guy in the next month.

I'm sorry for posting this or even if it insults you, yet i had to say something or i'd drive myself crazy. I'm still alive after every single thing in my life went to dust, and i am still looking for that ounce of happiness everyone wants to achieve. Death is like a friend to me by now...

I am sorry for your loss however what I am going to say, might not be what you want to hear.

There is no comparison.

To explain this I will use you and a made up person called Joe.

Like you said you lost family and friends at a young age and right the way through until your older. Now your dad is battling cancer. It's not great.

Now take Joe he has just had a terrible break up with his girlfriend. Joe is depressed. and considering self harming.

Now you are depressed and he is depressed and both of you are upset.

You both deserve sympathy, compassion and help.

You see you can't compare your life with others and go "My life is worse than yours, stop complain g"

Sure it can be obvious that you and Joe both have problems that need solved.

But everyone deserves help and support even if you feel the other persons problems are trivial.

Therefore you can't compare as everyone is human and when someone want's help they deserve it.

Everyone has there own stuff to deal with. You just got to learn to respect and deal with that.

This is not something of a complaint but an attempt to make you see you cannot compare your life to others because we are all equal and well all deserve the same help and support.

Thanks for reading.

Derri

[Fractured Silhouette]

I am sorry for your loss however what I am going to say, might not be what you want to hear.

There is no comparison.

To explain this I will use you and a made up person called Joe.

Like you said you lost family and friends at a young age and right the way through until your older. Now your dad is battling cancer. It's not great.

Now take Joe he has just had a terrible break up with his girlfriend. Joe is depressed. and considering self harming.

Now you are depressed and he is depressed and both of you are upset.

You both deserve sympathy, compassion and help.

You see you can't compare your life with others and go "My life is worse than yours, stop complain g"

Sure it can be obvious that you and Joe both have problems that need solved.

But everyone deserves help and support even if you feel the other persons problems are trivial.

Therefore you can't compare as everyone is human and when someone want's help they deserve it.

Everyone has there own stuff to deal with. You just got to learn to respect and deal with that.

This is not something of a complaint but an attempt to make you see you cannot compare your life to others because we are all equal and well all deserve the same help and support.

Thanks for reading.

Derri

Agreed, you shouldn't try to make people feel bad for complaining. Complaining is just something we do so that we can get help. It's not something that should be considered a bad thing to do.

I'm sorry for your losses.

[Dreaming Cannibal]

I am sorry for your loss however what I am going to say, might not be what you want to hear.

There is no comparison.

To explain this I will use you and a made up person called Joe.

Like you said you lost family and friends at a young age and right the way through until your older. Now your dad is battling cancer. It's not great.

Now take Joe he has just had a terrible break up with his girlfriend. Joe is depressed. and considering self harming.

Now you are depressed and he is depressed and both of you are upset.

You both deserve sympathy, compassion and help.

You see you can't compare your life with others and go "My life is worse than yours, stop complain g"

Sure it can be obvious that you and Joe both have problems that need solved.

But everyone deserves help and support even if you feel the other persons problems are trivial.

Therefore you can't compare as everyone is human and when someone want's help they deserve it.

Everyone has there own stuff to deal with. You just got to learn to respect and deal with that.

This is not something of a complaint but an attempt to make you see you cannot compare your life to others because we are all equal and well all deserve the same help and support.

Thanks for reading.

Derri

I get it, the pain that both people feel might be comparable but I really don't think that it was the intention of Mike to say it's an equal kind of pain, but rather that life is not over when it becomes hard to deal with…*

Also, apart from certain kind of situations, the breakage of a romantic relationship isn't comparable to the death of 4 people and having to deal with the fight two cancer patients go through. I haven't personally dealt with it, but two of my dearest friends (who also happen to be my cousins) have, and well you can see how it changes a person.

Yes it's not proper to compare a life with another and I agree, but it is much more harder to deal with death than a break up.

Keep being strong Mike.

[Desuetude]

I'm really sorry for everything you have been through and are having to through. You must be so strong, try not to lose that because it really is a great quality.

I agree with Derri with the fact that you cannot compare two peoples feelings because they have both been through different things in their lives and brought up differently. You could say that in some cases losing a girlfriend/boyfriend could metaphorically feel as though they've lost them for good. Relationships can mean a lot and they can hurt more depending on the people involved and the reasons as to why they broke up.

Everyone has the right to express what they're feeling and if it makes them upset then they should be treated the same way. Everyone should have someone to talk to or some way to express themseves whatever the situation and the outcome. Some people unfortunatley resort to self harm or have depression and suicidal thoughts because some people get hurt very easily. Everyone is different and I feel no one should be judged in this way if you don't know the background story and information to go with the breakup then you shouldn't have the right to label it as a "pathetic problem".

[Alexander The Great]

I am sorry for your loss however what I am going to say, might not be what you want to hear.

There is no comparison.

To explain this I will use you and a made up person called Joe.

Like you said you lost family and friends at a young age and right the way through until your older. Now your dad is battling cancer. It's not great.

Now take Joe he has just had a terrible break up with his girlfriend. Joe is depressed. and considering self harming.

Now you are depressed and he is depressed and both of you are upset.

You both deserve sympathy, compassion and help.

You see you can't compare your life with others and go "My life is worse than yours, stop complain g"

Sure it can be obvious that you and Joe both have problems that need solved.

But everyone deserves help and support even if you feel the other persons problems are trivial.

Therefore you can't compare as everyone is human and when someone want's help they deserve it.

Everyone has there own stuff to deal with. You just got to learn to respect and deal with that.

This is not something of a complaint but an attempt to make you see you cannot compare your life to others because we are all equal and well all deserve the same help and support.

Thanks for reading.

Derri

These are VERY wise words. You definitely seem to have seen a LOT of shit :'( but you can't go about and say "pity me, my lifes worse"

[Smeagol]

I'm sorry to hear this happened to you, but it is true that you can't compare your life with somebody else's.

[Destructive Impulse]

Sorry to hear about that man but I don't agree with everything ya said. For one if I don't go to college which I can't afford as it is my parents will kick me out of the house and give me no financial support whatsoever. I really do hate my life and it ain't something as stupid as I broke up with someone. I don't constantly complain about how much I hate my life but I do for many reasons. Sorry bud

[Jen'ari]

Anything can be an issue all depending on whether it's happening to you or not.. To him/her (sorry I honestly didn't look :/) it is the biggest issue they are having in their life right now.. And I'm pretty sure it's their right to complain about whatever.. It's kinda what the sites for.. I agree with what your saying cuz I'm personally the same way.. But ya gotta see it from their side..

Also to person above me whom I just forgot yur name.. Ummm anyway lol.. I've been on my own for years and never seen a dime from my rents.. You could always get a job and save up on your own?..

[Destructive Impulse]

I have a job and I'm saving up already...

[Jen'ari]

Ahh then as far as college is concerned I'd be going for grants or student loans.. Grants are great but hard to get.. But student loans are usually pretty good anymore and they help you out a lot and intrest is pretty low.. Then there's always military for 4 years... After that you get college..

[Destructive Impulse]

Can get loans or my parents will disown me. Also I can't join the military because of my ADHD anxiety depression and I'm suicidal. However the topics not about me so let's just stop.

[DerBear]

I get it, the pain that both people feel might be comparable but I really don't think that it was the intention of Mike to say it's an equal kind of pain, but rather that life is not over when it becomes hard to deal with…*

Also, apart from certain kind of situations, the breakage of a romantic relationship isn't comparable to the death of 4 people and having to deal with the fight two cancer patients go through. I haven't personally dealt with it, but two of my dearest friends (who also happen to be my cousins) have, and well you can see how it changes a person.

Yes it's not proper to compare a life with another and I agree, but it is much more harder to deal with death than a break up.

Keep being strong Mike.

The only thing I am truly saying is one should not compare as if you returned and said "I lost 2 people from my family and you have only lost your boyfriend" it does not solve or comfort anyone two people are still going to be ultra sad.

Overall I am just saying please do not compare two lives as both people are asking for help and both people deserve it. Comparing just leads it to being like who's life fucked up the most and does not get to the heart of the issue.

That's all I was saying.

[therunaway]

My condolences to you my friend, a wake up call for many!

[jjsmitty]

I'd like to think I partially know where you are coming from due to a couple of very close deaths, just make sure you dont do anything stupid like I did. I wrote this awhile back and I think its kind of relates to this;

When people say just forget about your problems or your problems are nothing compared to other peoples problems, it annoys me. Nobody would be depressed if that was the case. You can't just switch depression off. My problems would be nothing to some people but they are everything to me. That is why it's a problem. I hope that makes sense.
Think about where you want to be in 10 years, Aim High buddy, message me if you want to talk. I hope there's something in here you can use.