Does My Friend Like me? (bi/gay/straight)

[Zach_14]

I'm 15 and Bi/curious and i like my friend a lot.


me and my friend have always been comfortable talking about weird things like wanking techniques and stuff like that. recently we have talked a lot more about this kind of thing, and he admitted he anally masturbates. so i thought nothing of it he is probably just doing it cos it feels good. he also sent me a picture of his penis (i asked him to) and we always tell each other we love each other "as friends". he said if he was gay he would pick me to be gay with. i'm not sure if he is bi or straight but he said he is 1/4 curious. and i dont know what to do.

I like him as more than a friend and i have for a few years and he doesn't know this, if i tell him he might fall out with me and not trust me. then he wont want to experiment with me or send me more pictures.

im fairly sure he is straight but what do you think?

WHAT SHOULD I DO...?

[Lights]

Judging from how open you two seem to be with each other, I highly doubt you guys would fall out after you telling him that. He probably is a little curious at the very least, because most teenage boys are! After all, he is happy to talk with you about sexual topics, and he even showed you a picture of his downstairs and told you if he way gay, you'd be the one he wanted to be with.

If you feel like you want to tell him, you should. I think you're probably dying to, seeing as you've said you've had your feelings for years. I'm guessing that keeping those feelings inside will only eat you up more and more as time goes by. But y'know, you don't have to be all like 'YO I LIKE YOU, BRO', you can be a lot more subtle about it. You can sort of say 'I've been having a few feelings lately', and if you look at him while you say that, he'll probably cotton on to what you're meaning. That's just one way of doing it in person, anyway.

Don't worry, though, I really don't think he's going to desert you or anything. Your friendship seems pretty strong from what I can tell, and you're clearly very open with each other. If anything, you confessing your feelings will be a sign of great trust, which he might appreciate quite a lot. Friendships and relationships are built on the foundations of trust at the end of the day, after all.

Although, in the end, you should only do what you feel comfortable doing. I'm just saying that from my perception of what you've said, I don't think your friend is going to have any problem with you having a few feelings for him.

[Midland]

Like Lights said, I would do it subtly so that he come to that conclusion instead of you blurting it straight out.

I doubt it would change much as long as you don't push it or say it unless he asks directly.

[Ambrosia]

P101:arrow:Teen Sexuality

[whiteyrhys]

Hay Zach!

You both are incredibly open which is a great thing to have between friends. From what you've mentioned in your post too I'd be surprised if you telling him anything would affect your friendship, it may even strengthen it! He seems to be the same himself in a way, curious that is which at your age is absolutely normal for teenagers going through puberty. He's happy to talk to you about sex and the fact he showed you a picture of his penis and mentioned he'd want you if he was gay reinforces this opinion.

Do you genuinely feel as if you want to tell him? If you feel like you do want to tell him, you should. You don't want to keep your feelings for him trapped any longer as mentioned above they will eat you up if you keep them inside you. You could be so subtle about it and lead into it without emptying eggs out of the basket all at once. As mentioned above, look at him - make some time alone, somewhere quiet and tell him.

Trust me though, my three straight best friends are over while I'm on here and I asked them and they are seriously so cool so I wouldn't worry they don't think you will lose him as a friend either. If you let him know of your feelings he will see that you can instil a hell of a lot of trust within him and things like that strengthen a friendship/relationship. He may even be the same, you'll just never know!

Take your time and good luck :)

[loganbenson]

Take it slow...bring it up to him in a unique way

[Rashard1997]

Judging from how open you two seem to be with each other, I highly doubt you guys would fall out after you telling him that. He probably is a little curious at the very least, because most teenage boys are! After all, he is happy to talk with you about sexual topics, and he even showed you a picture of his downstairs and told you if he way gay, you'd be the one he wanted to be with.

If you feel like you want to tell him, you should. I think you're probably dying to, seeing as you've said you've had your feelings for years. I'm guessing that keeping those feelings inside will only eat you up more and more as time goes by. But y'know, you don't have to be all like 'YO I LIKE YOU, BRO', you can be a lot more subtle about it. You can sort of say 'I've been having a few feelings lately', and if you look at him while you say that, he'll probably cotton on to what you're meaning. That's just one way of doing it in person, anyway.

Don't worry, though, I really don't think he's going to desert you or anything. Your friendship seems pretty strong from what I can tell, and you're clearly very open with each other. If anything, you confessing your feelings will be a sign of great trust, which he might appreciate quite a lot. Friendships and relationships are built on the foundations of trust at the end of the day, after all.

Although, in the end, you should only do what you feel comfortable doing. I'm just saying that from my perception of what you've said, I don't think your friend is going to have any problem with you having a few feelings for him.



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