Asking on like

[RCT109]

Hey guys. I am a firm believer that nothing should ever asked or said online. What I mean is that no one should ask someone out or break up with them online.

Here is my dilemma. The girl I like, the same one ive been posting about, and I talk alot on facebook but not alot in person. Ive been wanting to ask her out for about two months now but never had the chance. So I have come to the decission that i should do it through fb, but IDK what to do

PLEASE HELP
SHAWN

[Desuetude]

I think it's better if you do it face to face, then you can see how she reacts to it and it's a lot more honest and the way a relationship should start. You could always try tinychat/skype/over the phone, I suppose those are better than just IM.

If you're doing it through facebook then just say "I have something serious to ask you" because I can just imagine her thinking that you're joking (awkward). Then just come straight out with it something like "I really like you and I was wondering if you want to go out sometime/with me?" However if you don't see each other or speak to each other off of facebook is it really the best idea to start a relationship?

[Dimitri]

I would say if you are a firm believe in doing these things in person why change...

But then again, doing something like this over Facebook is easier, you have the protection of begin behind the computer and if nothing good comes of it then when you see each other at school you can talk if you like or you can both act like nothing ever happened.

All in all, it is your choice.

[RCT109]

I think it's better if you do it face to face, then you can see how she reacts to it and it's a lot more honest and the way a relationship should start. You could always try tinychat/skype/over the phone, I suppose those are better than just IM.

If you're doing it through facebook then just say "I have something serious to ask you" because I can just imagine her thinking that you're joking (awkward). Then just come straight out with it something like "I really like you and I was wondering if you want to go out sometime/with me?" However if you don't see each other or speak to each other off of facebook is it really the best idea to start a relationship?

well I see her in Japanese and talk to her in there but thats it and I see her around school durring some passing periods

[kenoloor]

If you never have the chance to talk face-to-face, how do you expect to maintain a relationship with her?

[RCT109]

If you never have the chance to talk face-to-face, how do you expect to maintain a relationship with her?

Well after I ask her I plan on seeing her more

[kenoloor]

Well after I ask her I plan on seeing her more

You should see her more before you ask her out. That way, you know for sure that you want to go out with her. Oftentimes, someone's personality can be portrayed differently online as opposed to in person.

[ashdyn]

Don't ever ask out or break up online or through texts or phone.

In your situation you should actually talk to her in person...maybe hang out a few times before taking it to the next level. Just cause you talk a lot on facebook doesn't mean she's on the same page when it comes to dating. Hang out first to see if there's real chemistry.

[TeddyBearRock]

i would start to talk to her off line and then ask her out just so she know that you can chat where ever

[FullyAlive]

Unless there's some reason you can't see her ie. Distance then I don't see the problem with seeing her in person at least once more before asking her out. A relationship where physicality is possible would be a better option. I'd suggest just asking her to come out with you one weekend if it goes well ask her out at the end of the date.

[RCT109]

Unless there's some reason you can't see her ie. Distance then I don't see the problem with seeing her in person at least once more before asking her out. A relationship where physicality is possible would be a better option. I'd suggest just asking her to come out with you one weekend if it goes well ask her out at the end of the date.

my biggest thing is that she wants to hang out with a group all the time

I tried to get it to be just she and I and she said she wanted a group

[Desuetude]

Then go out with her in a group, at least you'd be spending time with her and you can both get more comfortable being around each other in person. Maybe give her time ans she'll come around to the idea of going out just the two of you but be patient, maybe she's just nervous?

[RCT109]

Then go out with her in a group, at least you'd be spending time with her and you can both get more comfortable being around each other in person. Maybe give her time ans she'll come around to the idea of going out just the two of you but be patient, maybe she's just nervous?

OK thanks I'll have to try that

Now question
Should I pay for her, or should I not?

[scott757]

Should I pay for her, or should I not?

I would say if your just going as friends you should let her pay... personally just because it would be a bit strange for a friend to offer to pay... I would wait untill your in a relationship (or alone) to do that :)

[RCT109]

I would say if your just going as friends you should let her pay... personally just because it would be a bit strange for a friend to offer to pay... I would wait untill your in a relationship (or alone) to do that :)

well I like to pay for my friends so IDK what I'm going to do

[iallen]

every single girl is different

[botwa]

I think you should meet her in person more before asking out.
the chance that she says yes would be higher.