Please help me

[the_man_jake]

Today i asked a girl to the dance next friday and she said she's not going... So i was wondering if i should asker onto a date or wait and ask her to the final, formal dance... Please help!

[Desuetude]

If you like her then ask her out on a real date. It might be that she was never planning on going to the dance or she has something else planned. If you wait until this final dance she could have a boyfriend and lots of things could have changed. Go for it.

[the_man_jake]

ok thanks! i think that i may just need that bit of encouragement... and bit of fear of someone else getting her.... to help me suceed! thanks and i will :D

[Drew5]

Hmmm I would have taken it as a hint she isn't interested, maybe ask her friends what her deal is?

[Mirage]

Go for it, ask her out. Always, it could be the case that Drew5 is mentioning. Ask around with her friends before you make a move.

[the_man_jake]

but wouldnt it be awk. to be asking her friends about her personal life?:what:

[Desuetude]

but wouldnt it be awk. to be asking her friends about her personal life?:what:
Yeah it probably would seeing as you might not know them very well and they would probably catch on that you like her and maybe tell her before you get to her.
I would ask her, don't go with sneaking round and finding out if she's interested. Find out first hand from her and you get an honest answer.

[the_man_jake]

would there be a way to go about doing this without risking our friendship?

[kenoloor]

would there be a way to go about doing this without risking our friendship?

Clarify early on that you don't want to risk your friendship.

[the_man_jake]

should i just risk it go all or nothing? is that what you're saying?

[kenoloor]

should i just risk it go all or nothing? is that what you're saying?

No, I'm saying make sure that she knows you don't want your friendship to be ruined. If both of you can deal with it in a mature manner, it shouldn't be difficult.

[ashdyn]

I'd wait at least til the first rejection had some time to sink in lol I wouldn't take a no to the dance then turn around and ask her out.

Wait a week or two after the dance. Feel the mood of the situation then move from there.

[Desuetude]

would there be a way to go about doing this without risking our friendship?
Clarify early on that you don't want to risk your friendship.
Exactly as Bradi said just tell her that whatever happens you value her friendship and don't want to lose that. Nothing darastic should change between you, I mean sure if she says no it might be a bit awkward at first but try not to be nervous and show her you're comfortable with the situation and she should follow.

[the_man_jake]

All right guys, thanks for all the help and i am going to wait a little while so thangs cool down.. THANKS!!!!

[TeddyBearRock]

Ask her on date first to see if she likes you, if it goes well then ask her to the dance, good luck