Help! Soo confused

[Awkward]

Hey, so I'm a 15 year old boy. My main problem is my JUST 11 year old friend ON XBOX LIVE that lives 2 miles away wants me to meet up with him for the firdt time and play Xbox and stuff(what we'd normally do, just in real life.)------Right now your saying "No no no this is bad dont do it.. Get a life!" well let me tell you a bit about me:

I'm a shy awkward guy... In school I have friends and stuff and all the 'cool' people are like "yeah this lil guy is awesome and stuff!" but I'm shy do I find it hard to to people my age. So when I'm At my house area I usually hang about with 13 1/2 year olds becuase I can (connect?) with them easier.. Not just becuase it's easier to talk to them but becuase I don't think like a 15 year old, they're all about "This girls hot" and "No don't do that, that's childish" but when I'm with my 13 yo friends they're all like "let's climb this little scaffolding thing!" and "let's go to the swing park" and "let's go prank someone's buzzer!"... Stuff that NORMAL 15 year olds won't do.
My friends from school asked if if go to the cinema with them, I said no becuase A) I'd rather have fun doing the stuff above... Or even going to the cinema with my 13 yo friends. B) They always in a 'jokey-serious way make fun of say: the fact that I look about 12 or that I'm wierd and shy... But the 13 yo's don't.

Now that that's out of the way let me explain my problem to you:

I've known this guy on Xbox for 2 years. We ALLWAYS play and talk on voice chat and we go on video kinect, I have him on Facebook and all that. He asked if we could meet up halfway between me abd his house then his mum would drive us to his house for a couple of hours abd once were done I'd go home. I said I'll think about it and he's like "Awwww C'moooon!" so now I need feedback from fellow teens about this.

Also, im bringing my 11 year old bro with me (they to are ok friends online) becuase I want to pretend to my family that I'm taking him to this cool place a bit far away. I'm doing this becuase I REAALY don't want all the "Get real friends!" crap that my parents say.

Also again, I want a job as something to do with children when I'm older becuase im just THAT immature that I connect easily with young people... For example my 2 lil cousins like me better becuase I'm like this.

DO NOT start saying that this will affect my mental brain becuase I've been like this all my life and I can be more mature than my parents if I needed to, I just to be immature becuase I actually have fun this way.. I'm not going to ro what society says becuase it's 'Normal', if it makes me misrible then why should i?

Lastly, this will only a one off thing so I can really meet my friend.

(Wow, long... Please read it and no hate! I know I'll get some...)

[Skyhawk]

Don't expect hate here, trust me. It's frowned upon.

Anyway, if you really want to and it's ok with your parents, there shouldn't be a problem.

I used to always hang out with someone 6 years younger than me who lived across the street and it was normal.

Up to you. :)

[Desuetude]

I think it's fine that you hang around with people a little younger than you rather than people your age. If that's who you connect with and like to be around the most then good on you that you've found them.
However if people from your year invite you out to do something maybe once in a while say yes. Im only saying this because if you decline every time they try to involve you in something you could start to become an outcast, I mean you should still stay good friends with your real friends it's just that socialising with people your own age can be good for you as well. Though that's just my opinion whether you take it or not it up to you. I think you'd be good either way really.

About the Xbox boy. He's only 11, I mean if his Mum was there with you the whole time or you brother was there then maybe it would be okay but just thinking about every option and a 15 year old meeting an 11 year old from over xbox does seem a little weird. If you're brother is there though then it just seems like you're looking after him so that seems fine.

It's great that you're your own person. No one is going to tell you to be anyone else here. If this is what makes you happy then no one should stop you from hanging round with them. No one has the right to judge you especially not after one post so I don't think you'll be getting any hate either. Most people on VT are only here to try and help :)

[Mirage]

As long as you clear it with both parties parents, I fully support this. Go have some fun!

[Awkward]

Ah ok thanks! And yes I do occasionally go with my 15 yo friends but they're not as fun.

Three great responses so far :)

[boonsim]

I find meeting people online a bit dangerous, and the age difference between the two of you could be worrysome. Before you meet him, make sure he isn't a 40 year old pedophile.

[KarkatLuv]

In all ways you and I are alike, except for the girl thing, if you ment in a group of friends talking about a girl not having crushes then then i'm COMPLETELY like you. If both parent groups talk to each other over the phone and are fine with it, then I would say it's completely fine, it would be like meeting a penpal. I think it would be a good way to help the shyness and be more social.

[oceandude33a]

yo i know how u sorta feel. 2 of my best friends r 2 years younger then me (one 1 year and a half) well when ever i go hang out with them my mom would be like dont u want to go hang out with some one you age but when i go to hang out with my friends that are older then me my mom dosent care so i dosent make sense. i have friends of all ages like i dont see the big deal. i say go for it

[Stryker125]

Holy crap, I'm pretty much exactly the same way! Almost all my friends on playstation (or just the internet) are always a few years younger than me. I always thought I was weird or something... only difference is that my friends my age have gotten used to me being "immature" haha. My younger friends always wanna meet up and stuff, just like your friend, but it's a lot more difficult since I'm 19 haha.

Don't worry about being "immature". Soon enough, your friends your friends are gonna be complaining that they grew up too fast. And you can always go to an art school like I did, everyone's the weird kid there. Anyway, about meeting your friend, I think as long as it's cool with your parents and his parents (and whoever else it should be okay with) then it's awesome. I've always wanted to hang out with some of the people I've met online, so I think it's awesome that you get to.

[Awkward]

1) Thanks guys
2) What "girl thing"?
3) I know he's not a pedophile, I've talked to him and heard his voice. Been on kinect with him, added on Facebook ect. And I've known him for two years (Feb '10)
4) His parents have already arranged everything and I haven't even said yes lol. I'm slowly going to tell mine that it's just my bro that he wants to meet becuase it will be a lt less awkward.

(keep in mind that were I come from its 'frowned upon ' to even have friends one year younger/older than you an I've been bright up this way. I was told Pokemon was too babyish it 11 -.- )

Anyone else?

[xXl0sth0peXx]

As long as you talk to your parents first [I can't stress this enough; it's so important], I think it's perfectly fine. Meeting in a public place is preferred too, just for safety and the amount of people around. It's always good when meeting someone online for the first time to meet them in public or highly populated areas.

But yeah, I think it's fine as long as your parents are fine with it. I've always had friends older/younger than I am (my best friend is quite a few years older than me actually).

Good luck with everything. <3

[Awkward]

I got a moderator's attention?! Wow, now I feel way better!

[Smeagol]

Just make sure that both of your parents are fine with it :3

[Awkward]

No one has said no? I'm surprised, I thought there'd be a lot of hate.

[Desuetude]

No one has said no? I'm surprised, I thought there'd be a lot of hate.
VT is a help site with a community that actually wants to help. People aren't here to judge or make fun of you, not when most of the active users have problems of their own that they need advice on. :)

[Awkward]

Thanks :) This is a great place, the only place where I can actually tell people my problems.

[DerBear]

Being with younger friends is okay. I see no problem here.

As for the meeting up in real life. Just make sure you do it in a public place. Also make sure you tell your parents. These are for safety purposes.

I personally would never meet up with anyone I meet online unless I had known them for a very very very very long time before hand and trusted them 110%. But whatever floats your boat.

[Awkward]

Thanks. I do trust them though. :D