How to brace yourself for a family death?

[Stronger]

Well I know soon, very soon my Grandma will be passing, aside from everything she has, they found a fatal ulcer, know as the Kennedy Ulcer which means shes says 24 hours - 48 hours, to maybe two weeks who knows, but how do I even prepare myself for this? A side from my grandpa, shes will be the first death I'll be old enough to understand, and also I was super close, so it will hit me hard. Shes 15 mins away or more from me which suck, but every moment I get I try to go see her, regardless of how hard it may be, I don't wanna regret for the rest of my life not seeing her, in her final moments, but anyway, how can I brace myself for that day to come?

[Thunduhbuhlt]

First of all, you need to spend as much time as possible with her, and when she is beginning to die, go sit with her, hold her hand, and let her die. There's really nothing you can do about that.

After that, it depends on your beliefs.

If you are religious, then just know she is in a better place. It was her time to go, and someday, you will see her again. And everything will be okay.

If you aren't religious, then know how much she loved you. She cared about you, and there was no way you could have prevented it.

Overall, everything will be okay.

[Dimitri]

Surround yourself with family and friends, you are young brandon and I am sure she would want you to live on... I know it will be hard, I cannot imagine what it would be lie to be in your situation as I still have both sets but please hun...

Spend time with her, take some pictures with her if she will allow you to remember her and talk about the memories you had, talk about the good and the bad, ask for some advice, she seems like a knowledgeable person.

Just help make her comfortable and hold her hand.

Being with her would mean the world to her and to you at the same time. It is hard but we are all here for you, this is a community and we support one another.

Make her a gift. Something she can take with her. These are the things thay will be most valuable to her. Make her a bracelet or a necklace or buy her something but I think a hand made gift is more from the heart. I am always here for yah bud. Stay strong.

[Jupiter]

Hey Brandon.

I know exactly what you mean. I spend every moment that I possibly can with my dad, because I honestly don't know if he will live for a few years or a few hours. I just know that one thing is that I want to spend all the time I can. That is just one thing that i have to do before he passes and I regret my life and do something bad.

Knowing when the day that someone is going to die if terrible for us. You need to stay as strong as you can. Remember that crying is ok! Don't think that it isn't just because it isn't "masculine." Trust me, this is where you can.

I know that this might not be much help, but I know that you are feelin really down, and if you need to talk to anyone, here I am. Just a text or a PM away.

[Stronger]

First of all, you need to spend as much time as possible with her, and when she is beginning to die, go sit with her, hold her hand, and let her die. There's really nothing you can do about that.

After that, it depends on your beliefs.

If you are religious, then just know she is in a better place. It was her time to go, and someday, you will see her again. And everything will be okay.

If you aren't religious, then know how much she loved you. She cared about you, and there was no way you could have prevented it.

Overall, everything will be okay.

Thanks for responding, I do know she will be in a better place, a place I do want her to go to soon, b/c not just me but no one wants to see her suffer.

Surround yourself with family and friends, you are young brandon and I am sure she would want you to live on... I know it will be hard, I cannot imagine what it would be lie to be in your situation as I still have both sets but please hun...

Spend time with her, take some pictures with her if she will allow you to remember her and talk about the memories you had, talk about the good and the bad, ask for some advice, she seems like a knowledgeable person.

Just help make her comfortable and hold her hand.

Being with her would mean the world to her and to you at the same time. It is hard but we are all here for you, this is a community and we support one another.

Make her a gift. Something she can take with her. These are the things thay will be most valuable to her. Make her a bracelet or a necklace or buy her something but I think a hand made gift is more from the heart. I am always here for yah bud. Stay strong.

Thanks Robert again, but just somethings I didn't point out, she's now basically completely bed ridden due to that ulcer, so I can't exactly give her a necklas or bracelet, but I will definetly bring her something that she loved.

Hey Brandon.

I know exactly what you mean. I spend every moment that I possibly can with my dad, because I honestly don't know if he will live for a few years or a few hours. I just know that one thing is that I want to spend all the time I can. That is just one thing that i have to do before he passes and I regret my life and do something bad.

Knowing when the day that someone is going to die if terrible for us. You need to stay as strong as you can. Remember that crying is ok! Don't think that it isn't just because it isn't "masculine." Trust me, this is where you can.

I know that this might not be much help, but I know that you are feelin really down, and if you need to talk to anyone, here I am. Just a text or a PM away.

Trust me, I know it's okay to cry, lol but anyway thanks Eric, it means a lot to me.

[Breakeven]

awww hun , first its okay to be sad and break down and but u have to keep holding on and try to be strong , it might be hard for a while but it will get easier and dont hold ur feelings talk about them with me or any close friend and im always here for u if u need someone and if u can u should go see her so u dont miss on it
hugs <3

[Stronger]

awww hun , first its okay to be sad and break down and but u have to keep holding on and try to be strong , it might be hard for a while but it will get easier and dont hold ur feelings talk about them with me or any close friend and im always here for u if u need someone and if u can u should go see her so u dont miss on it
hugs <3

Thanks darling that means alot to me <3 *hugs*

[FFSR250]

Any death is never easy to prepare for. Its going to take time to heal. If you have strong family bond spend lots of time with her and the rest of the family it really helps. Think about all the good memories and laughs you all shared. Know shes wont be in pain anymore and is going to a better place and that (depending on beliefs) you will one day meet her again. For me having lost family and friends its never good bye, but see you later. Be stong and step up to help other family members that might have a hard time with this. Like I said, no passing is ever easy. Anything else just ask been through the same thing.

[jbrown97]

To tell you the trust I would rather know they only had so many hours left because when my grandpa died it was sudden. I was going to see him the day before he died but I thought it will be just fine if I just see him tomorrow, well there wasn't a tomorrow for him. I just really wish I could have seen him one last time so enjoy the last few days with her.

[Stronger]

To tell you the trust I would rather know they only had so many hours left because when my grandpa died it was sudden. I was going to see him the day before he died but I thought it will be just fine if I just see him tomorrow, well there wasn't a tomorrow for him. I just really wish I could have seen him one last time so enjoy the last few days with her.

That can be determined b/c she's bed ridden but thanks, ill try.