I need help! I don't know if I'm in the right category but I'm lost

[pankakeman]

Someone I've known for a fair few years I told I was a little bicurious. I told him some stiff I did with people and tonight he completely turned on me.

He told his friend about the things I did. All the convosations we did was done over Facebook. I think he was there when I was talking to him today because he recently messaged me stating "Hey wanna do stuff with me?"

I have no idea what to do. Please help me someone. I'm in pain, I'm cutting and lost and I dont know what to do...

[Mortal Coil]

Well, first of all decline the offer. This "friend" of yours probably didn't mean to hurt your feelings. Perhaps he didn't see it as a big deal and it just slipped out. The other guy, however, was pretty low to just go up to you like that.
I think you need to take a deep breath and look at this situation again. It's not as bad as you think. Just remember that you are who you are and nobody can change that.
Message me if you need anything, stay strong :hug:

[Desuetude]

First off there is no need to cut, you can sort this out without cutting and it will only add more problems anyway.
If you don't feel comfortable doing things with him then say No, that's all it takes, be firm and they will know you're serious. Don't let them pressure you into doing anything that you don't want to.

[pankakeman]

I think he was just trying to hurt me. Not anything sexual like that. And I'm so sorry I cut. And thankyou for talking to me.

My friend has gone through many things, loads of hardships in his life, but he doesn't usually act like this. I think his friend wouldnt be as trustworthy. I barely know him and he doesn't seem like a nice person.

I'm so worried about what there going to do with those messages. That friend is really someone I could trust. I'm so confused and scared...

[Desuetude]

Don't be sorry that you cut, sometimes it feels like the best thing to do. You just have to keep in mind that you're doing more damage than good.

If he is trying to hurt you then you have to think about if he's a real friend or not. I know you say he's been through a lot but you've done nothing to hurt him. Maybe he is in pain and just wanted to take it out on someone, you just seemed like the easiest victim?

With the messages I think you need to try talking to your friend. Sit down together and make him see that what he is doing is hurting you and you want him to stop. Be calm and patient with him because getting angry you wont get through to him. Try to get him to delete the messages on facebook. Talk to him about what you're feeling because he needs to understand that he can't treat you like this. Some people change though, you think you can trust them and they completely stab you in the back. You might feel confused and scared, you just need to stay calm and grounded and think about the best way to go about things. Im here if you need to talk to someone.

[pankakeman]

Thankyou sO much MyOblivion. He's not messaging me back on Facebook. He's not online anymore. I just don't understand why he would do this. It just doesn't male sense. It's...evil...this isn't like him. It's gotta be me, whatever I did, I don't even know. I always cause problems, chances are it's my fault.

[Desuetude]

No, don't think that this is your fault. None of this is your fault, okay?
You thought you could confide and trust in what seemed like a friend, that is normal and everyone should be able to do that without having to think about getting back stabbed and hurt.

Maybe next time think about where you're talking though, texts and IM's can be kept and like I said people change. If you want to tell someone something do it face to face or over the phone especially if what you've said can come back to haunt you.

When you next see him talk to him. wouldn't suggets doing it over facebook because it's so much easier to lie. I know it will be hard but try to do it face to face, tell him how it made you feel and ask him what's wrong. I know he hurt you but maybe he needs someone as well, try to be there for him.

[pankakeman]

But that's just it. His friend was over while he was there. He said he was alone. I trusted him because I always did. I'm not one to let people into my life like I did with him. I'm just dumbfounded with this entire situation

[Desuetude]

Well that's just it. People change even when you least expect it. I urge you to try to talk to him and get to the bottom of why he let told his other friend because at least then you'll have reasons.
Just stay calm and maybe try to distract yourself from it for the moment. Thinking and reading into it to much is only going ot stress you out and that wont help at all. How about going for a walk or going out to see some other friends? Anything that would get you away from the situation at hand.

[pankakeman]

It's 12:00 midnight here, I'm afraid I can't. I just think and let my mind run. It sears with hatred and fear for what may or may not face me ahead. The burden that I put on myself when I trust people causes problems like these. He may have done something thoughtless and cruel, but why am I not to blame? All I do is try to solve other peoples problems. My life has no meaning. No point. Once I've helped out they just leave me alone, never to talk to me again, unless something else happens with them and they have the nerve to ask me for more help. I have no one to talk to. I have no one to trust. My demeaning life is utterly worthless.

[pankakeman]

I'm sorry about me ranting, it's probably annoying.

[Desuetude]

No, you rant all you like, it's better to get these things out than for them to keep eating you up inside.

I understand perfectly where you're coming from. I get paranoid about all these things as well only for them to happen anyway and me hating myself for knowing they will happen yet still letting them. Still try to distract yourself music or reading could help? It helps me get away from my own problems.

What you need to do is try to pick out the people that are real friends and that will just ditch you after they've used you. It's hard to tell the difference but there are people that arn't out to just use you and put you back down again.

Your life does have a meaning. You might not know what it is yet but of course you have a point to be here. When you're older you'll become someone, you'll find real friends and people you can trust and actually have faith in. Don't give up on life yet because this isn't all there is to it, there is so much more to experiance and people to stick around for. Adolecent years are always the hardest because people change and the hormones and finding out who you are.
Im saying this again but if you need someone to just talk to, rant to, ask for help, anything. You can add me on skype or VM me, i'll be here to help in any way i can.

[Fractured Silhouette]

Please don't feel like it's your fault. Hope things get better.