When is an appropriate age?

[JackShephard]

When is it appropriate to lose your virginity? I have lost mine when I was 16. Personally I don't see an issue with that, but I see some posts on her where people say they have lost it at the age of 12. I think that may be a bit young in my opinion. What do you guys think?

[ImCoolBeans]

I guess whenever you feel it's right, or that it's okay to do it. But I do agree that 12 is a little young.

[mammolito96]

yeah whenever is right for you i guess, but definitely 12 sounds really young :/

[TeddyBearRock]

It shouldn't at below 15 coz there's that 1%that condoms don't work and there are major response abilities if that happens

[obsessivedisorder]

I definitely think 12 is way too young. I think the appropriate time is when you are mentally ready. And, yeah, 16 is about the "normal"/average age to lose your virginity. At least that's what I think... But seeing the track I am on and my previous experience/history with guys (which is none), I definitely wont.

[Steve Jobs]

I wouldn't do it without being in a truly committed relationship.. I mean, I wouldn't want my future wife to have done it with guys since she was 12 because she felt like losing it here and there.

[Burn007]

personally i would do it right now if my gf asks...otherwise 14 is good if u ask me

[jonjon1998]

personally i would do it right now if my gf asks...otherwise 14 is good if u ask me

Haha... Same. I've been trying for like a year now. I feel ready mentally and definitely physically:)

[Slosh]

Depends a lot. Before 16 years old is a bit too young I think.

[Giles]

It shouldn't at below 15 coz there's that 1%that condoms don't work and there are major response abilities if that happens

That responsibility doesn't change if you're 12, 15 or 25. The responsibility is just the same, it's the most likely situation that you'll be in that changes.

OP: I think that the legal ages are almost always about the right age for the people that they apply to. Now obviously this isn't the case, some younger people are 'ready' earlier and some people aren't ready for years after. However, as a general rule, I think that the age of consent is about right. In the UK that age is 16, now I lost mine in the later parts of 14 which, for me, I think was about right - the circumstance itself wasn't but in a different situation I believe that I would have been ok with that.

[boosterboy1]

It depends on weather you feel ready to do it or not. You also need to be fairly mature to do it as potentially you could get your partner pregnant

[Short Circuit]

Your body will tell you when your ready to have sex.

[PerpetualMotionSquad]

I think 14 is an okay age. Also as long as you are protected otherwise even 16 is way young to have a kid in my opinion.

[ethan-1997]

I think it depends on the maturity of the person. People need to have enough maturity to do it responsibly and be wise enough to use protection, and a stable relationship is also good to have. The age therefore varies a lot, but i think the earliest it would be best to lose it is around 15 or 16. Overall, most people, even if they are in a stable relationship, aren't mentally ready for the act or it's potential consequences before 15 or 16. Physically, though, most boys are probably more than ready by 13 or 14 (I know I am haha).

[Enexia]

I feel you sould wait till you're with someone you truly care about. Can only lose it once.

[OregonStateDude]

I think it depends on if you are gay or straight. Obviously, when two guys fool around, no one gets pregnant. So I am going to say 14 for two guys, and 16 for a straight couple.

I agree with Mike, 12 is way too young.

[voicelessjaja]

I think sixteen is actually a respectful age to lose your viginity as it is not to young.

[chancebest]

I don't think there is a specific age, I think if you want to experiment like 15 or 16. IMO I think you shouldn't have sex until you love someone, not just for fun.

[Ddare28]

I think sixteen is actually a respectful age to lose your viginity as it is not to young.

I'm with you. I personally think that losing your virginity before 16 is too early. When I hear 12-13 year olds talking about how they had sex, I feel like they are doing it for the wrong reasons. Like for status and because they try to copy what everyone else is doing even if they are older than them. I don't think they are truly ready for the consquence that can happen if they're not careful.

[GroovyBoy]

You're at the appropriate age to lose your virginity when you're married to someone that you love, and are going to spend the rest of your life with.
Worry about love first, and the lust will come later. People who save themselves until they are married enjoy better sex and have it more often, plus, they have less chance of breaking up since they focused on love first.
I know it sounds silly, but trust me, wait, and you'll be so glad you did!

[Sebastian Michaelis]

As said by Giles (Ben), the age of consent is most likely the best. In some cases, younger people can make a non-outterly influenced choice, and be ready to have sex. I'd say the youngest appropriate age would be 13, a good age 16, and the best 18.

[Bookloverstar]

Perosnally I'm a virgin and my age is close though not 12 but a couple of years later though some of my friends have lost it younger, so.....I guess whether you think is right if the person you want to share it with is special. It's a matter of what YOU think but yeah 12 is kind of young

[Jake777dylan]

I think it would be 17 because that's when you r really mature

[JJSSHH]

I guess whenever you feel it's right, or that it's okay to do it. But I do agree that 12 is a little young.

I agree. When you feel comfortable and as long as its with someone you care about its ok. But under 13 is too young in my opinion.

[Jay_Team_Swagg]

I guess whenever you feel it's right, or that it's okay to do it. But I do agree that 12 is a little young.

I agree, i would say maybe at least 14

[funinthesun]

the kids at age 12 are most definitely not telling the truth

[Akasuki]

15. Anything younger than that is too young IMO.

[Mark97]

it really depends on the person and their maturity level and the person they are doing it with. in my mind there is no set number that is an appropriate age but i do think 12 is too young.

[unknowndane]

I support the idea of, whenever you feel that you're ready, but I think you should have entered puberty. That way you will know a lot more about yourself and your sexuality.

[Bobble]

It's all to do with ur mental age rather than ur physical age

[Tonebone88]

I personally think that you should wait to have sex with someone that is truly special to you. Most people that lose their virginity at 16 or 17 aren't still dating the person they lost it to when they get older. Where I live, its illegal to have sex until you're 16 and even then you can only have sex with someone who is 16 or 17 because if you have sex with someone older, its considered child molestation or something. I personally plan on waiting unitl I'm at least 18, if not older. I won't have sex unless I find the right person.

[Houtz96]

I think its really dependent on the persons maturity and personal beliefs and morals. I don't think there should really be a "too young" stage. I think there SHOULD be a "Not mature enough" stage though. I think you know when your ready. When that special moment hits, your metally prepared to deal with the coniquences. But then after your voyage, you realize the consiquences will come later.

I guess thats my view on it. I really don't know my personal preference on the subject. I don't really know how It would play out if i was in a situation that i could potentially lose my virginity. Then again, I guess I would know when the time was right.

[WillGind]

An appropriate age to loose you virginity is the legal age of consent in your state.

[Laquifa]

I guess whenever you feel it's right, or that it's okay to do it. But I do agree that 12 is a little young.

Yep .

[BoyTeen1997]

This is one of those topics that everyone has a different opinion on, Some say not until marriage and others say the earlier the better. But in MY opinion there is no reason to loose you virginity before 18 y/o

[Kuntaw kid]

That's your decision. Noone going to be there when it happens

[Devonb97]

When your married is right the age. >_> don't rush into adulthood, enjoy your childhood! :D

[Beaker]

12 is way too young. About 15 sounds right to me.

[Gigablue]

There is no "right age" to lose it. It depends on when you are ready and how prepared you are to accept the consequences should something go wrong. The only time you are too young is if you are younger than the age of consent in your area.

[wrestlehockey]

I think 12 is a little too young, but I did it at 13, so idk really.

[LaxFB3]

I think the appropriate age to lose your virginity is whatever your age is when you are ina relationship with someone that loves you and you love back (I also think that these relationships aren't really possible until around high school)

[Devonb97]

^^no offense but having sex at 13 is disgusting.. Also illegal. This generation is disgusting. Where 10 years wanna have sex.

[Coolboi]

I think 12 is to young but u no when your time is to loose your virginity we all are not the same an puberty is diffrent for all of us 12 /17 who knows no one but you be safe an use a condom .

[Cicero]

I think that 15-18 is an appropriate age, 18-22, and 22+ is the best. If your talking about physically appropriate doctors say that the best age for men to have sex is 18-22 is where they are the most physically ready. But I'm wanting to have sex at like, 21 or so. Because I want it to be memorable.

[VirtualGuy012]

I wouldn't do it without being in a truly committed relationship.. I mean, I wouldn't want my future wife to have done it with guys since she was 12 because she felt like losing it here and there.

Yesssss, exactly

[russsh]

what is appropriate is up to you, depends if you want to do it and do it with that person, if either answer is no, it dont matter if you are 12 or 20 it is not right, if you and your partner BOTH want to then relax and enjoy it!

[SamB]

Its up to you when you lose your virginity, personally I am going to wait and find someone I have a great connection with and care about a lot, because I want it to be special and not just for the sake of it

[Rodeo]

12 seems kind of young to me but I know guys who lost their virginity that young as for me I am still a virgin.

[Swagging god]

Personally I think there really is no specific age. When you feel the moment is right and there is genuine love for eachother then it just hapens, maturity will tell you if your ready and if it strengthens the relationship then... I was 12 when I lost mine and lost it to someone who loved me and I loved we'd been dating for two years,and to me that's what really matters. ~ Swagging god

[digzchickz]

I dont really think there is a right age. I mean I was 16, and I think I was prepared for it. But sex isn't rocket science, I don't think you are too young if you are responsible. I mean, I doubt I would have turned down an opportunity at 12 or 13 if I had it. Heck there are some 40 year olds that shouldn't be having sex.

[lilum]

i would said 15+ was appropriate age to lose it

[winnierat]

I can't till I get a ring on my finger. I think thats appropraite but I think 20 is a good age.

[Joo9340]

IMO 12 is way too young, when I was twelve I only just learned what an ejaculation was... Not to mention at age 12 the body has either just started maturing or hasn't yet. I'd say any time after 15-16 is a good age.

[Ryan96]

I was 15 and I personally think that was the right time for me :) Different people are ready at different ages, but I think anything below 14 is definitely too young :)

[aaayyoo_avery]

i lost mine at age 12..i know its really ,really young ..but at the time i was a stupid kid and i kind of regret it but im still with the girl<3 weve been together for a loooong time so its not as bad

[aaayyoo_avery]

Personally I think there really is no specific age. When you feel the moment is right and there is genuine love for eachother then it just hapens, maturity will tell you if your ready and if it strengthens the relationship then... I was 12 when I lost mine and lost it to someone who loved me and I loved we'd been dating for two years,and to me that's what really matters. ~ Swagging god



oh same here lol :D

[NotASpyingRent]

I feel that an appropriate age is when an individual's brain has fully developed. That way, they are able to fully think out their descision.

[Tyler44441]

I personally would say 16 or 17 just because you know what to do and how to use protection.

[Dixieduffy]

Well as I see it 16 seemes to be a pretty good age. I think all the 12-13 yo's are lying to look cool. Happend alot at my old school

[leafgreenangel]

I think it depends on if you are gay or straight. Obviously, when two guys fool around, no one gets pregnant. So I am going to say 14 for two guys, and 16 for a straight couple.

I agree with Mike, 12 is way too young.

yeah i agree with this that two guys having sex really has no possibility of having a baby so they can be younger like 14 but should still understand STDs. for straight couples i think 16 is still young, but i think people should wait until at least then.

[PleasureMe7777]

12 is a little young to loose ur virginity but i think whenever YOU feel the time is right and ur ready.

[Devonb97]

I guess your saying if a 6 year old wants to do it/ it's right.

[Sean 97]

16//17

[West Coast Sheriff]

Sixteen, when you can drive:D

[PonY]

I think it's when you know the girl (or guy) you are with, you are in love with.

[Aajj333]

When you are married

[Bumpin Bass]

All depends on the person (or people) losing it. If you feel the time and person are what you want, go for it. If not, wait. I for one am waiting for marriage. I believe that since only a virgin can wear a WHITE wedding dress (although some lie), I want to be able to say that I am a virgin too if my fiancé is a virgin as well.

[Info]

I think that if you are younger than 15 you shouldn't have sex. If she gets pregnant you can't even work until your 16( in the us) so therefor it's your parents burden to pay child support.

[Info]

All depends on the person (or people) losing it. If you feel the time and person are what you want, go for it. If not, wait. I for one am waiting for marriage. I believe that since only a virgin can wear a WHITE wedding dress (although some lie), I want to be able to say that I am a virgin too if my fiancé is a virgin as well.

I agree with you because I Personaly would not want to be with someone who has had sex with someone other than me when I get married

[Robinblake]

I believe within my religion that it's appropriate to lose your virginity when your married. I personally believe that you need to love someone true enough before having sex. My opinion. I don't mean to discourage anyone who disagrees with me.

[MuscleTeen98]

I lost mine at 13, i was very comfortable with my body and my penis size, (7in. at the time) and i dont think its too young, but 12 just sounds wrong, so i have had sex several times since then, once a week, give or take...
still STD free
:woot:

[Agteen]

I think you should do it when you feel it's the right time.

[BoyTeen1997]

In my opinion, 16 is the YOUNGEST that you should be. and that is almost too young. In my opinion, if you are having sex at 16, it is just because the guy and girl (or guy and guy) are horny and not because they truly love each other.

[LolMeGusta]

I think there in no "right age"....I think that if you are ready...than go do it.
But I also think that 12 is a little too young....it's still the time to enjoy the childhood inocence...

[Giles]

In my opinion, if you are having sex at 16, it is just because the guy and girl (or guy and guy) are horny and not because they truly love each other.

Obviously that is just your opinion, but I couldn't disagree more. Just because they're under 18 or under 21 that doesn't mean that suddenly they're children and incapable of 'true love', I've got no doubt whatsoever that there are some under 16s that are more mature than over 21s. I know a couple that are now 17 and 18 and they've been together almost constantly since they were 13/14, yes that is just one case but it proves that it's possible.

[BoyTeen1997]

Obviously that is just your opinion, but I couldn't disagree more. Just because they're under 18 or under 21 that doesn't mean that suddenly they're children and incapable of 'true love', I've got no doubt whatsoever that there are some under 16s that are more mature than over 21s. I know a couple that are now 17 and 18 and they've been together almost constantly since they were 13/14, yes that is just one case but it proves that it's possible.

But honestly, when a 13 year old say that the had the best sex last night, i don't think that they are say that because the want to have kids and a family and live on a quiet back road. Now a 16 year old, that may be the case.

[Straight]

When you feel you have the responsibility (if it did happen) that you could have a child, and be able to grow it up with enough funds and care that it needs. Also, you should be responsible enough to accept that you could get STD's / STI's, and you could feel that you could see a doctor for help.

[johndj88]

Ok I'm gonna be like brutally honest with all of ya..and for any of you that are between the ages of 1-17yrs old you definitely might wanna listen..your not gonna like what I have to say but I'm being brutally honest and its the truth..soo ya I'm definitely still a virgin..ok now I'm really self concious especially bout my looks..I don't like myself for what I look like..yea I know I have a physique but I only got this way by working really hard for it by being DEDICATED to my workout and implementing and using CONTROL over URGES and other things that would impede my progress to getting in shape..even though I'm happy with where I am right now..it still doesn't change the way I see myself, yeah I RISKED it all to get to this, but when I look in the mirror I still see the old me..but what I do absolutely LOVE about myself is WHO I am..I love music sooo much it my life and I have dedicated my priorities to developing my voice and drumming talents to where they are today. And I REGRET not noticing it sooner..But you probably noticed I capitalized some key words ex.. DEDICATED,CONTROL,URGES,RISK,LOVE,WHO,REGRET..those words are soo important in deciding when and how to lose your virginity..cause I think of it like this without being DEDICATED I wouldn't have lost weight..it takes time. without CONTROL I would have given in and regressed instead of progressed and might not of made it..without URGES I wouldnt of learned how to control my emotions and eating and knowing when to say no and when to quit while I'm ahead or end up risking too much and end up hurt. Without RISK I know I wouldn't of made it that's a given cause where the point if I just took a pill and boom..look at me I'm hot..that's not fun and not sensible..because then how would you seperate who worked hard and who took the pill...but at the same time the risks can sometimes outweigh the odds and the overall win. Without LOVE I would have given up in soo many ways..and honestly I almost did I tried committing suicide almost 2 years ago and well I was very close to losing..I regret every single moment of even thinking bout that decision..but I came back stronger,harder,and more determined to win but if I didn't have family support and without my love of music I wouldn't of made it..without WHO I wouldn't be me..lol. but make sure the who in your life is who your want your life with...and lastly without REGRET I would never of started getting into shape cause I was onstage singing and I kinda took my shirt off and got a huge gasp from the crowd and got called ugly and regretting letting my body go so I set out to improve my body. But always think b4 you do or say something will I regret this and can I live with any or all of the outcomes. So yeah sorrys it a long post but it from the heart..no matter what, its gonna be your decision and I can't make it for you or tell you yes or no..I can only help you be completely confident in your final decision.

[Ddare28]

I think that whenever you feel it's right. But I do agree that 12 is a young age to lose your virginity. I would say around 15 would be better.

[Giles]

But honestly, when a 13 year old say that the had the best sex last night, i don't think that they are say that because the want to have kids and a family and live on a quiet back road. Now a 16 year old, that may be the case.

Yes, that's true. But if anyone says that they had the best sex last night they're probably not saying it because they want kids - who would? You would talk about how much you love your partner, how much you want to be with them, how amazing they are etc. it's all about language.

[Lost in the Echo]

Yes, that's true. But if anyone says that they had the best sex last night they're probably not saying it because they want kids - who would? You would talk about how much you love your partner, how much you want to be with them, how amazing they are etc. it's all about language.

Well if a 13 year old said something like he had the best sex ever, he's just bragging. In no way would that statement show how much that person loves their partner. Simply put, it's he/she bragging about getting laid, nothing else.

[jhan3]

I'm 18 and still a virgin :(