Coming Out and your experience

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

Did you come out?

If so than,
Do you have any regrets about it or certain things?
When did you do it?
What did you come out as?
What things went well?
What things went bad?
Did the conversation get turned into more of a lecture, or something else?
Who spoke to you the most?
Was the person who talked to you more accepting or wasn't?
Out of everybody you talked to who was the most accepting about it?
Who was dead set against it or wasn't very accepting?
Did you expect the things that happened?
Did you expect those certain people to be like that?

Thats it

[Syvelocin]

Do you have any regrets about it or certain things? Umm. Yeah. I should have waited another year.
When did you do it? First time was my mum, around 2009 or something like that. I gradually told the people I wanted to, lastly with my dad.
What did you come out as? Bisexual first. Sigh. I know myself well so when I first started noticing girls I knew I wasn't straight so I came out within a week lol, but I hadn't quite realized that I really didn't like guys like a straight girl or even a bisexual girl should. I only came out a second time to my parents and now just identify as gay, I never re-came out to the friends I had told I was bisexual.
What things went well? Actually it was quite easy generally.
What things went bad? It was the most difficult with my dad but... it was very minor.
Did the conversation get turned into more of a lecture, or something else? Nah. It was more like "Oh? That's it? I was worried you were sitting me down to tell me that you're pregnant." And it was over.
Who spoke to you the most? Umm. Nothing really changed.
Was the person who talked to you more accepting or wasn't? " "
Out of everybody you talked to who was the most accepting about it? There wasn't anyone who wasn't accepting... but I'd say my mum.
Who was dead set against it or wasn't very accepting? Well. I guess if I have to say someone it was Jay. He was fine with it until it took me from him of course.
Did you expect the things that happened? I expected it to be worse only because I've heard horrible coming out stories. But I'm not surprised the people I told didn't have any issues.
Did you expect those certain people to be like that? " "

[Giles]

Do you have any regrets about it or certain things? Definitely, I probably should have come out a lot sooner. The 'relief' when I didn't have to watch what I said is much better than I thought it would be.
When did you do it? I'm still not out to everyone that I know. But I told most of my friends and as a result now basically all of my school knows. I haven't told my parents yet though.
What did you come out as? Gay
What things went well? Everyone that I told took it fairly well and I didn't receive any negative comments or feedback from anyone - directly.
What things went bad? The 'story' of me and my boyfriend circled around the school for a few weeks, so it was a while before I could walk about without being asked about it.
Did the conversation get turned into more of a lecture, or something else? There wasn't really a definitive moment when I 'was out', but some of the largest and longest conversations were mostly just about my prior experiences.
Who spoke to you the most? Two of my newest, but also best, friends that I hadn't told yet were the most curious and therefore talked and asked the most. Two girls that are 17, almost 18.
Was the person who talked to you more accepting or wasn't? Basically everyone was accepting. Those that weren't or were indifferent simple didn't talk about that, which I'm fine with.
Out of everybody you talked to who was the most accepting about it? No one in particular, everyone was supportive.
Who was dead set against it or wasn't very accepting? N/A
Did you expect the things that happened? I didn't know what to expect. Looking back, it could have went better, but now that it's pretty much over I can see that everything went well and nothing too unexpected took place.
Did you expect those certain people to be like that?

[Eric57]

Do you have any regrets about it or certain things?
Nope, none at all. When I came out, I did it because I felt it was the right time and I was comfortable with doing it. Everything went smoothly. So I don't have any regrets about any of it.

When did you do it?
Hm, I came out a couple of my friends maybe 4-5 years ago. Then it gradually turned into all of my friends knowing. Then I told my family about 2 years ago. Now everybody knows.

What did you come out as?
Gay

What things went well?
I'd say everything went well.

What things went bad?
I don't really think anything went bad. Nobody took it badly and they were all find with it and comfortable with it.

Did the conversation get turned into more of a lecture, or something else?
With my mom, yes. I told her and she was fine with it. But she made it clear to me that she didn't want me telling anybody about it while I was still in school because people can be cruel about it. Although, I had already told all of my friends. She didn't really like that, but she got over it.

Who spoke to you the most?
I'd say my best friend. We actually became best friends because of it all. We had known each other for 4 years, but never really "connected" as friends. Then we got a little closer my senior year of high school and I ended up telling her. She asked a lot more about certain things and talked about it more overall, as we didn't know each other that well when I told her.

Was the person who talked to you more accepting or wasn't?
She was definitely very accepting.

Out of everybody you talked to who was the most accepting about it?
Everybody was accepting about it. My dad said that he doesn't agree with being gay, but he knows that I am and he won't make any issue out of it. Other than that, everybody was accepting and nobody made a big deal about it.

Who was dead set against it or wasn't very accepting?
Like I said, my dad was kind of against it at first, but it didn't take long for him to accept it. He just made it clear that he personally doesn't agree with it, as it's part of his religion or whatever, but he said he still loved me, he wouldn't make an issue out of it, and that I should be myself, even if he didn't agree with it.

Did you expect the things that happened?
I didn't really expect my dad's reaction. I figured he would have gotten really mad and would have tried to basically tell me that I'm not gay and blah blah blah. But to my surprise, he took it a lot better than expected. Everybody else I already expected to be fine with it.

Did you expect those certain people to be like that?
I expected my dad to act a lot worse. Everybody else, yeah, I expected them to be fine with it.

[kenoloor]

Do you have any regrets about it or certain things? nope.

When did you do it? five times over the course of two years

What did you come out as? in order: bi, gay male, transgirl (MTF), pansexual, lesbian

What things went well? When I came out to my mom, saying I identified as a female, and she said, "well that explains why you're so good at cleaning!" She was kidding, but it helped relieve any tension.

What things went bad? nothing, really; my family and circle of friends are really accepting.

Did the conversation get turned into more of a lecture, or something else? no; the initial conversation was actually pretty short, but it opened up the lines of communication for any questions/comments/concerns/quandaries/otherwise in the future.

Who spoke to you the most? my mother was the only one I told (for the first four times anyway)

Was the person who talked to you more accepting or wasn't? she was very accepting.

Out of everybody you talked to who was the most accepting about it? my therapist.

Who was dead set against it or wasn't very accepting? nobody, really; I was my own biggest detractor.

Did you expect the things that happened? yep.

Did you expect those certain people to be like that? yep.

[OregonStateDude]

Did you come out? -- yes, to my best friend

If so than,
Do you have any regrets about it or certain things? -- none at all
When did you do it? -- last year
What did you come out as? -- homosexual, OMG, it's that dreaded H word, LOL
What things went well? -- everything, he was very accepting
What things went bad? -- nothing
Did the conversation get turned into more of a lecture, or something else? -- he had questions, but it wasn't a lecture
Was the person who talked to you more accepting or wasn't? -- more
Did you expect the things that happened? -- yes, Justin is a very open minded guy, I knew he wouldn't be a hater
Did you expect those certain people to be like that? -- I know him like a book, we have been friends for years

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

Do you have any regrets about it or certain things? nope.

When did you do it? five times over the course of two years

What did you come out as? in order: bi, gay male, transgirl (MTF), pansexual, lesbian

What things went well? When I came out to my mom, saying I identified as a female, and she said, "well that explains why you're so good at cleaning!" She was kidding, but it helped relieve any tension.

What things went bad? nothing, really; my family and circle of friends are really accepting.

Did the conversation get turned into more of a lecture, or something else? no; the initial conversation was actually pretty short, but it opened up the lines of communication for any questions/comments/concerns/quandaries/otherwise in the future.

Who spoke to you the most? my mother was the only one I told (for the first four times anyway)

Was the person who talked to you more accepting or wasn't? she was very accepting.

Out of everybody you talked to who was the most accepting about it? my therapist.

Who was dead set against it or wasn't very accepting? nobody, really; I was my own biggest detractor.

Did you expect the things that happened? yep.

Did you expect those certain people to be like that? yep.

Did you come out as all of those things or did you change your mind as time went on?

By the way i identify as female by myself too but my parents never gave the OK to do it, i never told them i was bi or gay or anything because those weren't a yes or no yet

[kenoloor]

Did you come out as all of those things or did you change your mind as time went on?

By the way i identify as female by myself too but my parents never gave the OK to do it, i never told them i was bi or gay or anything because those weren't a yes or no yet

No, it was all separate. I came out as a bisexual male in December of '09, gay male in May '10, trans-female in October '10, pansexual in like November '10, and lesbian in summerish of 2011.

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

No, it was all separate. I came out as a bisexual male in December of '09, gay male in May '10, trans-female in October '10, pansexual in like November '10, and lesbian in summerish of 2011.

I came out as mtf in 2011 but never completed it because i was quite sure if i was gay or lesbian yet

[Mirage]

If so than,
Do you have any regrets about it or certain things? No
When did you do it? At school, mostly
What did you come out as? Bisexual
What things went well? Everything.
What things went bad? Nothing.
Did the conversation get turned into more of a lecture, or something else? Nope.
Who spoke to you the most? My straight friend, who didn't understand why.
Was the person who talked to you more accepting or wasn't? Wasn't, but he got over it.
Out of everybody you talked to who was the most accepting about it? My gay friend.
Who was dead set against it or wasn't very accepting? Nobody, really.
Did you expect the things that happened? Nope, my friends were mostly supportive.
Did you expect those certain people to be like that? Yes, it's in his personality.

These are good questions, imho.

[Smeagol]

Did you come out? Yes

If so than,
Do you have any regrets about it or certain things? I hate the bullying
When did you do it? Just recently.
What did you come out as? Lesbian.
What things went well? Well, the gay guy at my school understands :/
What things went bad? Straight girls 'hitting on' me
Did the conversation get turned into more of a lecture, or something else? There wasn't a conversation. I just told the gay guy and he was accepting but we were overheard.
Who spoke to you the most? The guy at my school. Then I told my parents.
Was the person who talked to you more accepting or wasn't? Everybody I chose to come out to.
Out of everybody you talked to who was the most accepting about it? My mom
Who was dead set against it or wasn't very accepting? The straight girls at school
Did you expect the things that happened? No. Who would expect being chased around the playground at school before climbing up on the monkey bars in desperation?
Did you expect those certain people to be like that? I should have, but I thought that they were slightly better...

[kenoloor]

I came out as mtf in 2011 but never completed it because i was quite sure if i was gay or lesbian yet

What do you mean, "never completed it"?

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

What do you mean, "never completed it"?

i never told them i was bi

[kenoloor]

i never told them i was bi

Ah, well, if they're okay with you being trans, I'm sure they'll be okay with you being bi.

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

Ah, well, if they're okay with you being trans, I'm sure they'll be okay with you being bi.

my dad isn't and I still not sure about my mom yet, my dad would rather me be gay than trans

[kenoloor]

my dad isn't and I still not sure about my mom yet, my dad would rather me be gay than trans

Give him time. He'll come around eventually, I'm sure.

[Weeping_Angel]

Did you come out? Yes

Do you have any regrets about it or certain things? No. I'm happy that I did it

When did you do it? Last year, and this year

What did you come out as? Bisexual when I was 14, but then I came out again as lesbian because I am not attracted to dudes at all.

What things went well? My sister was really supportive both times and she was happy that I figured something out.

What things went bad? Well, I told people who now I will call peers, and they got all, let's stay away from this girl. Then when I told my mom, she got really upset, and started telling me I was going through a phase, and the thing is that I think that was one of the only times I caught her at a time that she was sober
Did the conversation get turned into more of a lecture, or something else?Yes as I said, my mother gave me a whole lecture about how it was just a phase and how I will get married and have kids with a man and be normal. But I was staring at her with the most disrespect, since all of the things she had just said, we're the exact opposite of what she had said.

Who spoke to you the most? My mom, but not for good stuff.

Was the person who talked to you more accepting or wasn't? My sister was really accepting, everyone else was not

Out of everybody you talked to who was the most accepting about it? My sister

Who was dead set against it or wasn't very accepting? My mother and peers

Did you expect the things that happened? I didn't expect my mother and peers to be so against it,

Did you expect those certain people to be like that?

I expected for my sister to be supportive of me, but for my mom to be a little upset or whatever but she was really mad and I didn't expect my peers to make a big deal out of it.

Yeah that's pretty much it. Everyone hates me now, because I told the truth, and so lesson learned: tell the truth because the people that don't accept it just became a part of the pile of fucks you don't give

[Beskie]

Did you come out? yes

If so than,
Do you have any regrets about it or certain things? no
When did you do it? recently
What did you come out as? bisexual
What things went well? for most part
What things went bad? nothing
Did the conversation get turned into more of a lecture, or something else? My sister gave me a lecture on it but then let it be
Who spoke to you the most? friend
Was the person who talked to you more accepting or wasn't? wasn't
Out of everybody you talked to who was the most accepting about it? friend
Who was dead set against it or wasn't very accepting? my sister
Did you expect the things that happened? no
Did you expect those certain people to be like that? should have, being she is a christian

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

Give him time. He'll come around eventually, I'm sure.

no he wont, my uncle is an FTM and he still totally against him

[wattado]

Do you have any regrets about it or certain things? not coming out sooner
When did you do it? this year like a month ago
What did you come out as? Gay
What things went well? Everything
What things went bad? Nothing
Did the conversation get turned into more of a lecture, or something else? No
Who spoke to you the most? My Ex gf
Was the person who talked to you more accepting or wasn't? more accepting
Out of everybody you talked to who was the most accepting about it? My gma. lol
Who was dead set against it or wasn't very accepting? No one
Did you expect the things that happened? Nope I expected it to be bad
Did you expect those certain people to be like that? No i expected the worst

[Abyssal Echo]

Did you come out? yes

If so than,
Do you have any regrets about it or certain things? nope
When did you do it? about 3 weeks after school started
What did you come out as? Gay
What things went well? my cousin and friends took it well
What things went bad? some guys I hung out with at school teased me and wouldn't hang with me anymore
Did the conversation get turned into more of a lecture, or something else? nope
Who spoke to you the most? my female cousin
Was the person who talked to you more accepting or wasn't? she was very accepting
Out of everybody you talked to who was the most accepting about it? my cousin and friends
Who was dead set against it or wasn't very accepting? Mom
Did you expect the things that happened? yeah kinda
Did you expect those certain people to be like that? really didn't know what to expect at school but, it turned out Ok.

Thats it