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alexa951
April 14th, 2012, 02:05 PM
This is all sooo very confusing and complicated so I'll explain it as best as I can and start at the beginning...

Well we met in the first year of highschool because my friend Alexandra knew him from nursery, and my first impression was that he was a nice guy, but he wasn't hot, u suppose he was 'alright' in the looks department. We were friends since then, but weren't very close.

Before the summer holidays last year, he started talking to me more, and actually showing interest in me. I was so glad of this, but then summer came so we didn't see each other for ages. So, we started talking over facebook, all through the holidays, sharing everything with each other. We would talk up all night until 2am sometimes, we just wouldn't stop. We had so much in common and so much to share.

The messages got to being ended with kisses and *hug*s and we said 'I love you', I wasn't sure wether I meant it or wether it was because I was tired and just being silly. But when we started this school year (third year) and something between us changed, we felt like we were a pair, we were so close. We didn't officialy become 'in a relationship' with each other, either did we tell anybody of our friendship-relationship.

But then he stopped texting me and talking to me, and no matter how hard I tried to get him to talk, or to find out why, I couldn't. My forementioned friend, Alexandra also tried to find out because he's like her brother, but he made a stupid and fake excuse that his mum confiscated his phone and deleted his facebook. Yeah the facbook bit was true, but the rest was clearly fake because while he wasn't texting me, he was texting Alexandra and another two of my male friends!

I got so hung up over it because of my feelings for him and I was angry too. When I was close to dealing with my anger by drinking, I decided to tell his friend who I knew I could trust, that I really wanted to talk to him. Me and this friend sorted out a time and a place for me to talk to him about it. However with his friend and my friend being there as well, didn't help, because it was so awkward and they both kept interfering and annoying us. The furthest me and him got with sorting it out was;
Me - I'm sorry, are you annoyed at me
Him - No!

And that was it. I was so pissed off but he hugged me afterwards, and I love hugs. That was a few weeks ago and we haven't spoken since. However one of my friends was with him yesterday and his friend told me that he had said I was annoying, which is understandable, because I'm always trying to sort this out, but he didn't need to say that because he should know It hurts me.

I'm so annoyed, angry, upset and confused, and I don't know what to do :(
Will somebody help me?

- a

Truth
April 14th, 2012, 03:40 PM
Have you ever considered that he just doesn't have the same interest in you? I know you flirted in texts... but to me this sounds like "puppy love" and that never lasts.

You really should try your best to forget about him. If he's ignored you for so long and called you annoying; he doesn't deserve to be with you and you definitely deserve someone who can appreciate you.

To me it does not look like you and him even have a chance of patching up the relationship. It seems like he kind of used you and then decided to end it without telling you, and so far all you've done is bug him to try to get a hold of him which makes him find you annoying. For all you know, he's gotten a girlfriend and feels guilty...

DejaVu
April 14th, 2012, 04:38 PM
If I were you, I'd leave him alone for a while before trying to talk to him again. Maybe find out from a mutual friend what's wrong with him? It could be anything or, like Truth said, he might have gotten bored of you (sounds harsh, but who knows).

Dimitri
April 15th, 2012, 10:36 AM
Hun, he might be confused.

How about this. He is just as confused about this as you are. Let me tell you something, he is an idiot. Men are stupid, he needs hit over the head with a metaphorical two by four. Let him know that you have feelings for him. If he knows what you truely think then he night be able to open up. Guys are very literal creatures and I think if you just tell him you could get this whole thing done and over with. Find court the truth. It may just if he doesn't have the same feelings but at least you will know and won't ubersexual to assume or suspect. Let me know if you want to talk.

chris1997
April 15th, 2012, 10:49 AM
Have you ever considered that he just doesn't have the same interest in you? I know you flirted in texts... but to me this sounds like "puppy love" and that never lasts.

You really should try your best to forget about him. If he's ignored you for so long and called you annoying; he doesn't deserve to be with you and you definitely deserve someone who can appreciate you.



I completely agree because i have a girl just like this, she's all over me but i just didn't fell the same about her. i don't want to hurt her feelings. how should end the relationship

alexa951
April 16th, 2012, 02:19 PM
Thankyou everyone :)
Dmitri, I'm gonna talk to him and tell him straight exactly what I feel, but everytime I get near him I just say to myself "I'll do it tomorrow" and then tomorrow comes and I still don't do it, how could I make myself actually talk to him? And I'll let you know how it goes :)

Dimitri
April 16th, 2012, 05:13 PM
Thankyou everyone :)
Dmitri, I'm gonna talk to him and tell him straight exactly what I feel, but everytime I get near him I just say to myself "I'll do it tomorrow" and then tomorrow comes and I still don't do it, how could I make myself actually talk to him? And I'll let you know how it goes :)

Honestly there is no true guarantee that you will be able too so what i would suggest is that you tell a friend, have them go with you and tell that friend that no matter what you need to tell them, that friend can help support you.