Dance

[Heatbomb21]

So the last school dance will be next week.

I desperately want to ask out my loved one to it so that I may at least partially share how I feel about her. Not that the dance is supposed to be some romance opportunity, but still...

2 things.

1.)I'm so petrified to talk to her, I seriously consider instantly ending the conversation...

2.)The one rule for our school dance is:

”If someone asks you, and you say no, you cannot ask anyone else.”

This does not work to my advantage.

As much as I'd like to be with her, I wouldn't ask her now, definitely, because I don't want her to want to be with someone else, but trapped with me. I wouldn't apply that to anyone, really.

So, what should I do here¿

[Skeptical Bear]

I think you should give it a shot. It's just a dance and it should do no harm. Don't let this opportunity slip because it can be much harder next time around.

[Gothicdeer]

Just be like "hey you want to go to the dance with me?" With confidence and hurry before another guy asks

[Heatbomb21]

I think you should give it a shot. It's just a dance and it should do no harm. Don't let this opportunity slip because it can be much harder next time around.

I would, as far as the nervous part, ditto for gothicdeer. however,

hurry before another guy asks

It's not a matter of another guy asking. It's her wanting to ask another guy I'm worried about. If I ask, I'd be taking that ability to ask anyone away from her. Which isn't what'd I'd like to do. Just feels like a dirty trick to me, which is why I'm reluctant to ask.

[Skeptical Bear]

I've never heard of a school not letting someone go because they denied someone. But if she did say no, couldn't you both keep it "under the rug" so that you can both ask another out. I'm sure the school won't notice this at all.

[XxAssasiNxX]

Dont be romatic dont be obvious be funny and make it unpredictible. dont be afraid its the one weakness that has to be destroyed. then itll be ok trust me u just got to get it going
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[ashdyn]

Just do it....for you really. It's nice and all about you worrying that she might want to go with someone else, but you can't say she wouldn't want to go with you :)

Try not to make things more serious than they are. Just make it simple. If she says yes then awesome. If she says no...well then there's always next year and there's always more fish in the sea.

The thing I'd be worried about is if you've never talked to her before...ever lol That does make it harder but not impossible. Take a chance man.

[Heatbomb21]

I've never heard of a school not letting someone go because they denied someone. But if she did say no, couldn't you both keep it "under the rug" so that you can both ask another out. I'm sure the school won't notice this at all.

Yes. Welcome to the Hell that is my school. "Integrity" and "Equality" forever.

Yes. I could, but that rejection is the reason why that rule in the first place. So that no one would feel bad as a response to the rejection. That would hit me specifically, pretty hard.

Dont be romatic dont be obvious be funny and make it unpredictible. dont be afraid its the one weakness that has to be destroyed. then itll be ok trust me u just got to get it going
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I'm not trying to make it really romantic. I may have overstated a tiny bit.

I seriously always be silent or choke whenever I even speak to her, especially alone, so that's going to prove difficult. But that is indeed very good advice. I'll need to get over the fear at some point.

Just do it....for you really. It's nice and all about you worrying that she might want to go with someone else, but you can't say she wouldn't want to go with you :)

Try not to make things more serious than they are. Just make it simple. If she says yes then awesome. If she says no...well then there's always next year and there's always more fish in the sea.

The thing I'd be worried about is if you've never talked to her before...ever lol That does make it harder but not impossible. Take a chance man.


1.) True. I don't like rolling dice like that though.

2.)We're both graduating this year, chances are we'll be in separate schools, and I may be in one on the other side of town which isn't even co-ed. Try Again
a.) And I won't ramble, since I have 3 threads on how to disprove "there are more fish in the sea" for me, but I feel VERY deeply for her. Which is all I will say.


3.) Not as much as I''d like. It'd come totally out of the blue. So I have no idea how it would turn out. Apparently she thinks of me as more of a friend then I think she does, so I may have a shot.

Thank you.

[footinbrick]

Sounds like a crappy dance, at mine I danced with nearly all the girls there XD But I say ask her out, I'm sure there will be another dance if she says no

[Aquila]

2.)The one rule for our school dance is:

”If someone asks you, and you say no, you cannot ask anyone else.”

This does not work to my advantage.


This is sort of a strange rule, but if you want to go with her, and only her, what have you got to lose? You wont be going with anyone else, and if she sees that you chose her out of everyone in the school, she may be impressed and surprise you by saying yes.

[Heatbomb21]

Wow. I can't argue with that.

Thank you.

[ashdyn]

If it's your last year then go balls out kid. You have nothing to lose. Rejection sucks and it'll probably hurt. But if you don't ask her then you'll never know...especially if you guys get separated. There will always be that "what if" in the back of your mind. This is the time to take a chance.