Going TOO fast?

[Silicate Wielder]

Ok, so I just started dating a girl for 4 days now, she makes me feel like a giant hole in my life has been filled and she is truly honest about herself, but I'm not sure if things are progressing too fast. already she is starting to want to hold my hand, leans against me at times, and she is already telling me she loves me.
Are things progressing too fast? I love her but i'm not sure if things are progressing too fast, I've heard it takes a long time before a girl will start to really begin showing affection.

[ImCoolBeans]

4 days and she's already throwing around the "I love you"? Wow. That's a bit soon, in my opinion.

[Chachi123]

i agree with Mike upthere..i mean.. 4 days isn't enough for her to get to know you and create such feelings.. but well i dont know , maybe she's just one step ahead.. it's too soon , sometimes people just say that to make you feel well..and others dont really care about the meaning.

[TeddyBearRock]

Well all coupes say they love each other and holding hands is a small thing, so no it going great.

[OregonStateDude]

Holding hands is fine, but saying that she loves you after only 4 days is kinda wakk. Your best bet is to play along, but don't do anything to encourage her to move even faster.

[Silicate Wielder]

Did some research on "Body language for when a girl loves you" on Google and one of the links said that making direct eye contact for long periods of time gives off subconscious signals to the person your making eye contact with, they then subconsciously interpret the signals and that then influences the next action, conversation, or thought, these signals are sent by dialation of a persons pupils but how dialated a persons' pupils are is also influenced by how bright it is.
so if your outside on a sunny day, no matter how much he/she likes you his/her eyes wont be dialated his/her eyes are, if your in a really dark room, his/her eyes will be dialated.
Of course if you've mastered body language you can consciously figure it out.
I've gone over enough to where I should be able to look for the basic body language and find out for sure.

[XxAssasiNxX]

Ok the whole dating thing at 13 is way to young. My good for a freind got a gf for a week. they liked eachother but she couldont handle it im guessing and broke up though a text. just dont get to comfartble around this stuff at this age. im waiting until everywone marures more. it wont last long and im sorry to say. if she says she loves u she must really like u but i really dont think itll last long...im just saying what ill think will happen from experinces. just hope all goes good

[ashdyn]

Holding hands and all that is fine lol I would welcome it if I were you...it's nice to feel loved. Throwing around the L word after just 4 days...not a great idea. Look at it this way, the average length of a relationship between 13 year olds is about 2 weeks if you're lucky! lol not trying to say you're too young to have feelings but way too young to be dropping L bombs.

She might think she loves you..she probably really really likes you. If you really like her back then that's great. But take a step back from the situation...it's a middle school relationship. So try not to take it too seriously. Have fun, date for a while if it works out then try your luck in highschool it might end up being a great story about how you found your true love in middle school lol if not then just move on. I wouldn't want to be tied down at such a young age. Explore. Enjoy being young. You'll have plenty of time for being confused about serious feelings the rest of your life.

[Silicate Wielder]

We don't go out on dates, we just hang out at school, and I ride her bus on Monday,Thursday, and Friday, and ride my bus every other day. Today I read her body language and she shows all the signs of being in love. Even did the test to see if she looks at you repeatedly then looks away when you look at her. We also get along really well and only do things like holding hands and such if we both agree on it. she asked me out 4 days after we became friends, then 4 days later started wanting to hold my hand and told me She loved me, Now my gut is telling me that she'll want to take it to the next level 4 days after our 1 week anniversary. Idk I feel a sort of strong mental connection when im around her and I still feel that connection but weaker when I am not around her. Its not like most girls I have gone out with. (Sorry, I guess I had that on my mind for awhile)

[ashdyn]

I think 4 is just your lucky number lol I doubt she's waiting 4 days to do everything. Taking it to the next level physically at your age is a bad idea...especially if she's only your school girlfriend too lol if you were older I'd probably encourage you to go for the quick hook up but not at 13. I lost my virginity at 12 and now wish I had waited.

[Pearl M Jamison]

I think you are lucky for her... So that enjoy and no need to worry...