figurin myself out :(

[Noah5]

I'm nearly 18 and I thought I was bi from an early age, I acted on it and experimented with girls and guys, figuring out what gender I was into. Now, after doing all of that, I still don't know and it kills me inside. I'd be happy straight, bi or gay. I just can't figure it out. I 'stopped' being bi when I was about 16 because i truly believed I didn't like guys anymore, there are loads of debates, especially on the internet about what makes you your sexuality. I feel like I need to be with a guy for security and I don't mind kissing or dating, but I would never have sex with a guy again and as for girls, I don't mind if I have sex or not on the whole tbh. I have experimented with many, many males and equal amount with females. This causes me no end of depression and hatred for myself, I have horrible identity crisis's and I will be happy whatever my sexuality is. (My parents and friends didn't mind at all that I was bi). My question is how do I know what my sexuality? Please help

[ExhibitG]

it seems like you're emotionally attracted to guys and more sexually attracted to girls, so i suppose that's some variation of bisexuality.

but in all honesty, try not to focus on labels. i know it's hard because it's human instinct to rely on labels and place us into a category so we feel like we belong with other people, but when it comes down to sexuality among other things, each person loves who they loves.

so in that spirit, love who you love, be attracted to who you're attracted to, and forget the rest.

[Noah5]

but it's so hard to do, it does sound great and reassuring that I should just like whoever comes along but if I do want to date a guy I'd have to go to gay bars and also with marriage or serious relationships. I'd just want to make sure before it was too late ):

[Magenta]

:arrow: Teen Sexuality

[senior.2013]

You sound bisexual from your post. As Exhibit G said, dont focus on labels because those will only confuse you more. Just go with the flow if you ask me. As you said you would be comfortable being any of those, so maybe make your own! Go with it, be with who you want to be and have relationships with who you want. Dont pay attention to what people say.

[ExhibitG]

but it's so hard to do, it does sound great and reassuring that I should just like whoever comes along but if I do want to date a guy I'd have to go to gay bars and also with marriage or serious relationships. I'd just want to make sure before it was too late ):

you're probably overthinking it. just relax. don't chase after people to see if you're attracted, just let the attraction come naturally. it'll be much easier so you don't have to decide where to go or what to do to start liking someone.

[Stronger]

I don't think your gay, just simply bi. Like the others said, don't dwell on labeling yourself, thats not important. But I think you are putting to much stress on yourself if you are hating on yourself and making yourself depressed. Just love whoever makes you happy, whether its guys or girls, if it makes you happy then so be it; just enjoy life. :)