drinking

[green]

ok so im 15. my sister went into my room one day and found a vodka cruiser bottle, so what does she do? she goes and tattles to mum. my sister who goes and gets pissed every weekend. so my mum gives me this big lecture about drinking and said that if she ever finds me drinking again she will take everything i own of me. wtf? so my sister who is still underaged is able to go out and drink, but im not even allowed to have one drink. what do you think about this?

[DerBear]

Sorry to give you an answer that sucks, because I know how this will sound.

You lucked out! You got caught. She has never been caught and if you rat her out your mom will think it is a revenge tactic and probably won't believe you. Unless she saw some hard evidence.

As for the threat of taking everything away. Standard parenting threat. A lot of parents say that.

You not allowed to have a drink? your mums probably pissed because you went drinking behind her back, parents don't like this.

This diffrence between you and your sis is you got caught and she has not.

In your mums eyes shes broken no rules and you have....Try not to dwell on it for long. Try to move on.

[green]

shes been caught, when she comes home from parties she will talk to mum about a new drink she tried and all that crap. she made jello shots while both mum and dad were home. they dont care

[DerBear]

shes been caught, when she comes home from parties she will talk to mum about a new drink she tried and all that crap. she made jello shots while both mum and dad were home. they dont care

Then it is unfair, how old is she? is she like 16 or 17?

[green]

17 in june

[DerBear]

17 in june

Your parents might see it as an age thing because many parents see there child as an adult at 16 and cause she is so close to 17 ect.

However I do see how you find it very unfair. I know i would if I was in your situation,

[FullyAlive]

It does sound unfair but I do see their point. Whilst you may not see much differences in your ages your parents do. I'm not going to lie I was going out getting drunk at fifteen however my parents didn't know. Now I'm 17 in a few weeks and my parents are a lot more comfortable with it they'll buy me alcohol for in the house and expect to pick me up drunk from parties. So long as I don't get into a dangerous state they don't mind. They were never like this two years ago, nowhere close. Give it time and your parents will start to treat you as they do your sister.

The bottle won't have helped with the trust between your parents and yourself be good for a few weeks, act like the nice daughter you are. Mend the relationship between you and your parents and then be more careful about getting caught.

[Truth]

Ask your parents this question, "My sister destroys hundreds of thousands of her braincells every weekend she goes out, so why is me trying my first drink the big deal here?"

[DerBear]

Ask your parents this question, "My sister destroys hundreds of thousands of her braincells every weekend she goes out, so why is me trying my first drink the big deal here?"

Well as said above.

It's about an age thing.

For example when I was 14 or 15 my parents would rarely give me alcohol but now that I am 16 they really don't care that much because at 16 they consider me to be an adult. I mean I don't like drinking but anyway you just need to wait and develop a better relationship. Start by building up the trust again because your parents trust you less for hiding the fact you had an alcoholic beverage.

[Truth]

Well as said above.

It's about an age thing.

For example when I was 14 or 15 my parents would rarely give me alcohol but now that I am 16 they really don't care that much because at 16 they consider me to be an adult. I mean I don't like drinking but anyway you just need to wait and develop a better relationship. Start by building up the trust again because your parents trust you less for hiding the fact you had an alcoholic beverage. The difference in the development of your brain between 15 and 17 is negligible. If you condemn a 15 year old, you can't just promote your 17 year old's usage.

[DerBear]

The difference in the development of your brain between 15 and 17 is negligible. If you condemn a 15 year old, you can't just promote your 17 year old's usage.

You know whats funny,

No one really cares when they go on a night out or take a drink of alchol. About how many brain cells or damage it will do.

They look at age and see it more acceptable for a 17 year old and not a 15 year old.

Very few look at it from your angle of the damaging on the brain.

[Jhcx]

Speaking of damaging Brian cells i came across this article today which made me laugh Alcohol Sharpens the Mind! (http://www.independent.ie/health/health-news/alcohol-sharpens-the-mind-research-finds-3077099.html)

Unfortunately OP i cant help you in your situation. As an only child and an angel I didnt start drinking till 17. even Then it was with family. Suppose the only thing you can do is sit it out time will sort it. be curious at family parties ask can you try, What i know from my cousins is their parents preferred when they knew there sons where drinkin with them it helps to build trust. Im not condoning you should even be drinking at all. Im just saying it may be one way to get on the good side