Is it too much to ask?

[canadaski]

I don't want to be proud of such a small part of me. I don't want to join a GSA. I don't want to hide. I want what everyone already has, nothing more. I just want to live life and spend it with somebody I love. I don't want to be a slut.

Am I weird? It seems as if it's every gay guy's goal to be "out and proud." It's really discouraging when every gay guy I see or meet is a queen. I think to myself, "I can't relate to these people." Then I see my friend that I love and realize he's very similar to me and he's got everything I want in somebody yet I'm too chicken shit to say anything to him or even come out to him directly. Afraid of what could go wrong but hoping for good as well, balances out to shit feelings of depression and anxiety thinking I may never be with him.

Do other people like me exist? If so, where the fuck are they?

[Starlight Blaze]

Well... it depends on when it is. I really don't care about my sexuality. However I do have moments when I am fem. It's actually pretty hilarious cause I'm built like some hulk XD but yeah idc about parading it around. I mean I'm happy of who I am. No reason not to be. It's just I like guys. Idk is this what you meant?

[Skeptical Bear]

I'm Bi and even though I act a little feminine, I don't act like a "queen" at all. I fell in love with a friend of mine, and when I told him m true feelings, he straight up turned me down nut because he was supposedly straight. I got over it but there's still a part of me that thinks about here and there. You're not the only one. If you consider him your best friend, you should sit down with him and tell him that you're gay. It's a lot of weight off your shoulders. If he's a true friend, he should accept you no matter what.

[canadaski]

Well... it depends on when it is. I really don't care about my sexuality. However I do have moments when I am fem. It's actually pretty hilarious cause I'm built like some hulk XD but yeah idc about parading it around. I mean I'm happy of who I am. No reason not to be. It's just I like guys. Idk is this what you meant?

Yeah kind of. It just seems like every gay guy around me is using "being gay" to define their lives. I just want to be myself and not give a shit. Yeah, there was a short period after I came out that I started to adopt "gay" things such as lady gaga, glee, and stuff like that because it's how felt I was "supposed to be." How i really feel is no, she's not a good musician, glee has flaky acting. I realized I'm just the guy I want to be (with the absence of a relationship of course). I'm an avid golfer, aviation enthusiast, and I love audio recording. Those are some things that define me, not being gay. As far as I'm concerned, my homosexuality is irrelevant in 99.999% of conversations I will ever participate in.

Everytime I see stories in the news such as "this person is gay" and it's a "step forward" for the movement it makes me sick. Who really gives a shit, they should talk about his/her life achievements, not something so insignificant as his/her sexuality.

It bugs me to see people that are gay thinking they should show their gayness by conforming more to stereotypes.

Also, fuck the gay pride movements. I don't want someone to fight for my rights because I'm gay, I want it to be because they think I'm a good person

There has to be someone on here that feels the same way. Does anybody have some input?

[Skeptical Bear]

Oh. Wow. I interpreted it way wrong. I don't act like my sexuality. I act like my self and always will. I know what you mean now. Everyone wants to show off their sexuality and label themselves as to what their preference. We're all human but not everyone will ever seem to understand that.

[KarkatLuv]

stereotypes are completely annoying, one or two extremely feminine homosexuals defining all gays is something that was built into our brains by our assumptions and influence of elders, yes it is completely stupid. I will never base my sexuality on stereotypes, and the people that look like they do, probably don't either, thats just their personality. I sometimes act feminine but I know that that isn't because im bi, it's because I don't like sports and anything teamworky, i prefer reading or something electronic, so the people I could relate to more when I was younger was girls, and hanging around so many influenced how i talk (not a lot obviously because I speak like a "normal" stereotypical boy, I just sometimes say things that sound girly)

[Starlight Blaze]

Well I haven't changed too much from when I thought I was straight. It just happened that I already fit a lot of the stereotypes. I really don't care about stereotypes. I get what you're saying, and I agree to some extent. I guess I just don't feel as strongly as you. Which is how I am about most things. I don't really feel strongly about anything so...yeah. Sorry. :/

[Eric57]

Oh yeah, I definitely feel you on this one. Honestly, I could care less about being "out and proud." I just want to be out and just live my life. I know it may just be their personality, but it honestly does bother me to see gay men who basically sensationalize their sexuality every chance they get. It's like, your sexuality doesn't define who you are as a person. Like I said, it may just be their personality, but a lot of the times it does bother me, as I don't see much need to make such a big deal about the fact that someone is gay.

I definitely agree that it's discouraging to not be able to relate to a lot of gay men because of the fact that they are so feminine and are considered "queens." I'm just a regular guy who just happens to be sexually attracted to other dudes.

I've been out for about 2 years now and my sexuality has ONLY come up when I talked about a guy or something like that. My sexuality is irrelevant 99% of the time. And I hate when it's made such a big deal. It's like, who gives a shit?

As far as gay pride movements and such, I don't hate them or disagree with them, but I would never participate in them. I like the fact that being gay is actually being considered normal now and I think that these movements do open the eyes of some of the more judgmental people, but at the same time, it's like, why do we need to gay pride movements? I should just be allowed to be gay and not have it a big deal. I should just be able to live my live without it being a factor. But it's just the way things are these days. Soon enough it won't be a factor.

But yeah, I definitely get where you are coming from. It can be quite annoying, but it's whatever to me, honestly. Most of the time the fact that I'm gay doesn't even come up. I just live my life.