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TaylrJ
April 10th, 2012, 06:42 PM
I have posted many questions on this topic.. But posting questions is pretty much the only way I can deal with this. Since he is all I think about. I am not gay, maybe bisexual. I am 14, and I have liked this guy for about 2 months now. He is 13 himself, about to turn 14. I don't think he is far enough into puberty to realize he is gay. However, I can defiantly tell he is. Just by his behavior. He'll probably realize it in a few more years. I don't talk to him very often either. He is pretty immature too. Making it real hard to get a long with him. Because he is so childish and takes everything as a joke. I think he may know I like him. I catch him staring at me and when we use to sit beside each other, he wouldn't have a problem with my foot touching his. I didn't really think anything of it because he does that to most guys. Like go up and jump on them, letting them push him around, or while talking to them rubbing their arm. So it began to make me think him doing to to me too didn't mean anything. Just wishful thinking on him liking me back. I thought that whenever we both grow up and mature a little more. He would most likely end up being gay and if I would end up being bi, we would date. He is going to move away at the end of this year making that nearly impossible. Now we don't talk hardly any. It is just so frustrating liking somebody so much and it being hard to talk to them. I am a little shy around him too. And if I tried flirt with him it would be awkward. Since I am so shy. Plus he isn't really that close to me. And even if I wanted to tell him about how I feel he wouldn't understand, take it as a joke, and probably go tell all his friends. I just want to be with him so badly and it is making it so hard to live with this right now. Sometimes I just wish he would move away already so over time I would stop liking him and we could both move on. I also wish, since there's not much time with him moving and all. I could spend every moment I can with him before he moves. Without him knowing I like him.. I am just sick of feeling all depressed because I am never with him.. Even if he liked me back the relationship wouldn't be serious at all. What do you think about this situation? Ignore him? If no, then how could I sorta flirt with him and be less shy around him?

PerpetualMotionSquad
April 10th, 2012, 08:28 PM
Just be subtle about it and hint a bit that u like him keep on with the gestures by touching feet and knees and stuff and just wait a few more months to c if he makes the move if not buck up the courage and ask him :) gd luck

Stronger
April 10th, 2012, 08:59 PM
I think you should just try and leave him along, he seems to be too immature for a relationship anyway. He's also moving away, so why make a close relationship with him, when wind up he won't be around. I know it sounds harsh, but I think this is the best way so you don't hurt yourself, and him. Maybe once you are both older/mature then maybe if you still like him then try and make a relationship, but right now, doesn't seem like the right time.

TaylrJ
April 10th, 2012, 09:53 PM
I think you should just try and leave him along, he seems to be too immature for a relationship anyway. He's also moving away, so why make a close relationship with him, when wind up he won't be around. I know it sounds harsh, but I think this is the best way so you don't hurt yourself, and him. Maybe once you are both older/mature then maybe if you still like him then try and make a relationship, but right now, doesn't seem like the right time.
Thanks For the help.. I think I will hint towards liking him though. No relationship though. Just flirting with him and messin around. Spending a lot of time would end up with me being hurt in the end. But I think it would be worth it considering I am spending any time with him at all...

oboi317
April 10th, 2012, 10:11 PM
I had a very similar thing happen with me. But this was not that long ago. I think you are right for thinking he is just like that to everyone. Some people just really are comfortable with showing people affection. And by that I don't mean like in love affection. My friend hugged everyone. And We were best friends and there were times that I was like "WHOA!" And if it wasn't for the fact that I knew him so well, I would have to say that he was definitely gay. He just liked to show his appreciation and love for his friends and family.