General question about differences in age between siblings..

[Love.Hate]

My mum is soon to have her 4th child and to me it is a little strange... between me and my new sibling there is going to be a nearly 17 year age gap.. i feel like im hardly going to know them, i would like to feel some sort of bond with them.. but i worry i will be the big sister that only pops round now and again, like it'll hardly know me.

I was just curious as to your age gaps between brothers and sisters and whether that has affected your relationship?

[Skeptical Bear]

My mom was supposed to have four of us but ended up having a miscarriage with the first child. I'm the middle child now and I have probably the greatest relationship with my little sis'. I'm 17 and she's 12. I don't think we'll ever grow apart from moving out or anything else. My older sister who's 25 now, used to be really close with my little sister. Then she became this "uptight" person. She's mature now. She has her boyfriend and basically lives with him. Out of the month, she most likely comes to visit us twice or a little more. She is old but she actually used to live with us when she was around 23 so it was a big change for us. It bothered me at first but then I got used to it.

[Donkey]

All of my brothers and sisters are within 4 years of me, but my eldest and my youngest have an 8 year gap between them. To be honest they don't get on hugely well but it's not a huge issue. As long as you're there for them and you provide support when it's needed and you care and you do the right things, then the age doesn't matter when it comes to siblings.

[Stronger]

Funny me and my sister are about 17/18 years apart, me being 17 and she 34, me and my brother are about 12 years apart, with him being 29. While I'm not soo close to my brother, since he's never home; me and my sister are really close so I think you can still have a pretty good relationship with the child. Maybe once your in your settled with life, say out of school and what not, then you will get to know him/her better, it all depends what you do with your life, but regardless you two will probably get along great.

[Jess]

Brothers: 18, 11

so gaps are 1 year and 6 years

not a big age gap, but I'm not close to either of my brothers at all. well a bit closer to my younger brother ...

[Love.Hate]

Thankyou guys... These replies have reasurred me a bit, i want a good relationship with him/her so i guess its more about quality of time i sepnd with them not necessarily quantity :)

[Desuetude]

Thankyou guys... These replies have reasurred me a bit, i want a good relationship with him/her so i guess its more about quality of time i sepnd with them not necessarily quantity :)

Exactly, I don't think age is a boundry. It all depends on what you do with them and how you treat them. Even if you're away for a lot of the time say at Uni or having your own life make sure those moments that you do have with him/her they remember

Me and my sister have only a 3 year age gap so it isn't much but we don't really get along very well, I think our personalities clash too much.
If Im honest maybe it will be easier having the bigger age gap. My Dads ex-girlfriends daughter was 8 years older than me and we seemed to get along better because I respected her and looked up to her. I think that's easier to do when you have someone that much older so I honestly wouldn't worry about not having a good relationship with them. They'd look up to you whether you were 1 or 20 years older, Fran.

[KewlKat]

When my mom was 28 she had my oldest brother Tony, 2 years later she had my other brother Jesse, at 45 she had me.... i don't think there is an exact normal diffrence between siblings.... btw she's 60 now haha old mom :P

[OregonStateDude]

My only brother is three years younger than I am. Sometimes he is annoying, but for the most part he is a good guy. No one dares to mess with him, because they know they will have to answer to me and my friends.

[Love.Hate]

When my mom was 28 she had my oldest brother Tony, 2 years later she had my other brother Jesse, at 45 she had me.... i don't think there is an exact normal diffrence between siblings.... btw she's 60 now haha old mom :P

Can i ask, do you like having an older mum? :)

Thankyo for all your replies guys!

[Truth]

I get along fine with my littlest sister, who is a great difference in age to me. She looks up to me as a dad, because hers is never around.

[Erasmus]

I'm 7 years older than my youngest sister, and I know that's not much compared to you, but we get along fine, and we're actually quite close!

[Jupiter]

my "dad" has many sons. 35, 30, 26, 23 and 11(daughter):P

[Thunduhbuhlt]

My mom's best friend just had a baby that is 17 years younger than one other and the older loves the baby so much. It is almost like having your own child, without the huge responsibility. Look at the bright side, good practice for the future if you want to have kids.

[Stronger]

Can i ask, do you like having an older mum? :)

Thankyo for all your replies guys!

How old is your mom? I also have an older mom, she had me at 37/38, shes like in her early 50s now (I'm really bad with ages)

[Smeagol]

My brother and I are two years apart, but actually I wish the gap was a little bigger. If he was my sweet lil bro instead of somebody who feels obliged to be a pest (I still love him to pieces though) then things would be smoother.

[voicelessjaja]

There are only 5/6 year gaps in my family.

[Cognizant]

I am the oldest child, sister is about a Year gap, then my youngest sister has a 5 year gap in relation to me.

[RCT109]

my sister and I are 4 years apart and we fight constantly but thats comes with the job of being an older bro

17 btw

[Love.Hate]

How old is your mom? I also have an older mom, she had me at 37/38, shes like in her early 50s now (I'm really bad with ages)

mum is 45


Thankyou for all your replies guys

[Stronger]

mum is 45


Thankyou for all your replies guys

Ahh okay, I think I'm happy with an older mom, apparently from my brother and sis they had it harder then me, lol.

[KewlKat]

Can i ask, do you like having an older mum? :)

Thankyo for all your replies guys!

My dad is also 60... they got married out of high school and have been together since :) im happy to have older parents and hear the ramble on when they see the high prices and then day how low it was when they were little, plus they have great advice :)

[Fractured Silhouette]

I have sister about 9 years younger. We don't get along very much. I just can't relate to anything about her. We still end up arguing, even though it's pointless because when your that young you don't need a logical argument, she always does that thing were she starts to mimic what you say... Drives me up the wall. LoL

[Syvelocin]

To be honestly, Fran, I really love it. I'm technically the middle child if you count all my siblings. I'm the eldest of my mum's children and the youngest of my blood father's children. I don't really see my father's side much. My sister is like 30-something.

But I'm twelve years older than my brother and seventeen years older than my little sister. And it's definitely different than having a sibling you really grow up with, but I don't think it's any less fun. More if anything. Because you get to be almost like an aunt in the relationship, and they probably won't hate you like a sibling you grow up with could. When I visit they rush to me and hug me and I get to take them out and get ice cream or whatever, heh. *shrug* I actually prefer it. They're more adorable that way, and they get on your nerves less. They're the only kids I like. The relationship can suffer by being less close than siblings with a smaller age gap, though that's easily fixed, and on the bright side the relationship is naturally prone to less stress.

[Love.Hate]

Oh Rith thankyou so much for that reply, I honestly appreciate it so much. Im glad that actually you've made me look at the good points of being an older sister rather than dwelling on negatives. I would love that relationship that you have with your siblings, and ice cream is always good! :P I guess you just have to adapt to the circumstances and make the most if what it is. :hug:


Thankyou for everyone elses responses too, I do appreciate them it's good to know that I'm not the only one with a big age gap- as it feels like I am irl as all my friends siblings are of similar ages

[cody999]

my older sister has a 17 year gap between her and my little sister who's 2 and she moving a
long ways away so they probably wont know each other that much

[Weeping_Angel]

There's a 12 year gap between me and my older sister, me being 15 and my sister being 27, and a 7 year gap between me and my younger brother, him being 8 or maybe he is about to turn 8. I have a close relationship with my older sister, because her and I are very similar in lots of ways, and I think that she is a great person. But me and my younger brother aren't tight, but I help him with problems that he might be having, although I'm not the best at them, I'm better than my mother who is a drunk bitch.

[lianyu1]

All of my brothers and sisters are within 4 years of me, but my eldest and my youngest have an 8 year gap between them. To be honest they don't get on hugely well but it's not a huge issue. As long as you're there for them and you provide support when it's needed and you care and you do the right things, then the age doesn't matter when it comes to siblings.