I never have been very out going...

[Ghostspectre]

I have been shy most of my life but since I have gone into High School I have started to be more confident.

I used to go very red when I talked to girls but know not so much.

Are there any tips on how I can be more confident?

Cheers,

▬GS▬

[sammyb88]

your story is exactly the same as mine.. i used to be majorly shy, never spoke to girls, and when i did, i went red and mumbled random words :P but in the last year or so, I have gained confidence through acting, and have become more confident (not just with girls, but in general). I am still kinda shy with people, but I am improving! You just have to believe in yourself, and say 'screw it, I am who I am, and people ARE going to love me!'. and if they don't well, then they can fuck off!!

[FullyAlive]

Not puberty related

P101 :arrow2: Relationships & Dating

You've just got to remember girls aren't a different species :P they're just people, if you want to be more confident I'd suggest joining something like a mixed youth group or just going out more. Talk to more people, and specifically girls and confidence will come. Some people are naturally more confident than others it doesn't mean you can't change that though.

[Skeptical Bear]

Well, first off. Don't over think stuff when you talk to them. Just have a normal conversation with them. Like "hey. What's up?" or ask them about their hobbies, if they have any siblings or pets. Basic questions like that. You don't have to be charismatic.

[Jhcx]

As FullyAlive said girls aren't all that different. But It can be hard to get the right topic. For me im a social person. I'll talk about everything and anything going under the sun. Im very sure to some girls i have met. i probably come across as Gay, but this is because i have spent so much time hanging with girls even throughout Secondary school(High School) one of my best friends is Female. She would interact in a lot of male activities. I suppose what brought us close was that i asked her out got rejected but stayed great friends. when she needs a shoulder im there and i just listen which helps me to understand and use what i learn in other situations

Suppose the best thing is not to see a girl as just make-up and shoes and girl things, See them as a friend and be comfortable. Just talk, trying to find the right topic is not the easiest at first. but even if its a simple question about a test, or some party or something so stupid that you just dont care, always gets the ball rolling.

[Silicate Wielder]

I've always been shy, but lately I've noticed girls being nicer to me and not treating me like trash, or treat me as if I shouldn't exist. depending on the person I'm usually very quiet, and can't get myself to be honest about my feelings, unless the following occur:

I always try to be nice and speak intelligently but when I feel love but don't know if the girl likes me too I tend to "dumb down" a lot to where I can only say only one word sentences.

But if I know a girl I like, likes me back I tend to be more open about myself

If its my Girlfriend, I feel like an old abandoned but fulfilled side has been found and I talk talk with confidence, hold my head up high, I don't feel like I haven't slept for a week and in general feel like a very confident, attractive, and energetic person. I also can get in-sync with my feeling and can actually get my feelings out there, compared to if the person isn't my girlfriend.

[ashdyn]

CONGRATS on your new found confidence!

Tips for having more confidence.

1. Practice - Just putting yourself out there really does hone your social skills. And most girls are nice anyway.
2. Smile - I notice a lot of guys don't smile when they talk to girls because they're nervous. Smile it makes them feel nice.
3. Eye contact - Look at her. Don't STARE. But looking at her projects your confidence. (Smiling also helps)
4. Take pride in the way you look - a lot of guys think "I'm a guy, it doesn't matter". NOT TRUE. Simple hygiene first (shower, brush your teeth, deodorant). Don't worry if you're not a model. Just dress nicely and a tiny splash of subtle cologne. Don't dress for prom but wear a clean shirt pants and underwear. Look for holes and stains lol

When you look confident, you start feeling more confident. Be yourself! You have an easier time talking to people with similar interests and attitudes. If you try to change who you are you'll have little or no chemistry with your new found friends.

Good luck! :D