He knew before she did

[Ravenous1]

Yesterday, My sister told me she knew I cut I later found out she found out from her bf who figured it out a month before, he told my sister to protect my friend Karla so my sister lied to me and she's an ex-cutter and her boyfriend is just observant person I guess I'm just hurt that my sister had to be told that I cut that she's too self centered to notice. After she found out she acts like she doesn't even care. Her bf talked to me about it he's ok with it and he even recommended some songs to block out my voices. I'm not sure what I'm asking I think I'm just telling what happened yesterday.

[LucasRobert0897]

Its always good just to say something. Don't worry. Your sister may have noticed but not wanted to admit it. She might have denied it in her mind as something else. I'm sure she does care. My sister didn't seem to but cried to herself about it. You never know what's going on sometimes but you find out. For better or for worse she knows. Her BF knowing was helpful I'm sure as he was understanding. I'm happy talking too
:)

[Ravenous1]

I don't want to ask her cuz idk what she would say and we have a tendency to argue a lot and Me and her bf get along ok, we talk a lot it helps me by talking to him. But I will ask her somehow.

[LucasRobert0897]

I supposed its best to know. You could also ask her bf if he noticed anything and then ask her about that too.

[Ravenous1]

I asked her bf he said she hasn't said anything, he thinks she forgot about it.

[LucasRobert0897]

I know this sounds wrong but, do you want your sister to care. Coming from a brother I wish my sister didn't know at all. I'd rather protect her from it and, I suppose, everyone else. Just my thoughts :)

[Ravenous1]

Yes, i want to know that she cares, becuz sometimes it feels like she doesnt even care

[LucasRobert0897]

I'm really sorry. I didn't talk to my sister about it. I was far too scared. To me, you seems like a really brave person. How about you sit your sister down and just talk?

[Ravenous1]

I want to im just too chicken to do that, im not brave at all.

[LucasRobert0897]

Don't worry! "Can we talk" is always a good starting point.

[Ravenous1]

Ok i will try that, and see how it goes.

[TheDeepestDepths]

Ok i will try that, and see how it goes.

Good luck talking to your sister, you're a far braver person than I am.

My friends helped me through my cutting but I kept it from my parents. Once I stopped cutting and the cuts faded to scars I stopped bothering to hide them. I suppose I was also testing my parents. It's been a year of short sleeved t-shirts and they either didn't notice or did and never tried to talk to me about it and I've never brought up the subject.

Your sister might just be afraid or feeling guilty about it herself wondering why she wasn't there for you or why you didn't come to her. I didn't tell one of my friends because I knew she'd feel guilty thinking that she to blame in some way. It was in no way her fault and I didn't want her blaming herself for it.

I won't pretend to know how you or you sister feel but she probably cares a lot more than you think.

Good luck again!

[Ravenous1]

Good luck talking to your sister, you're a far braver person than I am.

My friends helped me through my cutting but I kept it from my parents. Once I stopped cutting and the cuts faded to scars I stopped bothering to hide them. I suppose I was also testing my parents. It's been a year of short sleeved t-shirts and they either didn't notice or did and never tried to talk to me about it and I've never brought up the subject.

Your sister might just be afraid or feeling guilty about it herself wondering why she wasn't there for you or why you didn't come to her. I didn't tell one of my friends because I knew she'd feel guilty thinking that she to blame in some way. It was in no way her fault and I didn't want her blaming herself for it.

I won't pretend to know how you or you sister feel but she probably cares a lot more than you think.

Good luck again!

well im not brave cuz i still havent talked to my sister,and she forgot i cut. So im not going to talk to her

[TheDeepestDepths]

well im not brave cuz i still havent talked to my sister,and she forgot i cut. So im not going to talk to her

Not telling or not talking about it doesn't mean you're not brave. You cut, but you're still making it through each day, aren't you? There's many different types of bravery.

It's alright not to want to tell you're sister. This may sound selfish but when it comes to you, you need to put yourself first and foremost. If you're not ready to talk about it with your sister, don't.

I doubt she forgot that you cut, or that you're unhappy. It's not something people just forget. Maybe she's afraid to broach the subject with you or she's waiting for you to come to her.

You said that you and your sister argue a lot - have you tried getting her boyfriend to talk to her about it? It's a roundabout way, but it might help your sister see things differently.

[MemoriesLost]

Wow, that's just how my sister acts. As soon as she found out, she started this whole thing that made it seem as though what I did and do is some hilarious joke. She teased me all the time ((Even in front of her friends!)) and made me out to be some melodramatic attention seeker. It hurt. I was never EVER seeking attention each time I cut. I did my best to hide it.....
Just try to hold on, okay? Tell her how you feel.

[Ravenous1]

Not telling or not talking about it doesn't mean you're not brave. You cut, but you're still making it through each day, aren't you? There's many different types of bravery.

It's alright not to want to tell you're sister. This may sound selfish but when it comes to you, you need to put yourself first and foremost. If you're not ready to talk about it with your sister, don't.

I doubt she forgot that you cut, or that you're unhappy. It's not something people just forget. Maybe she's afraid to broach the subject with you or she's waiting for you to come to her.

You said that you and your sister argue a lot - have you tried getting her boyfriend to talk to her about it? It's a roundabout way, but it might help your sister see things differently.

i recently relapsed on the cutting and knowing my sister she really did forget cuz she asked me why i didnt want to donate blood, i dont want to ask her bf cuz they are having their own problems and i dont want to make it worse.

[Ravenous1]

Wow, that's just how my sister acts. As soon as she found out, she started this whole thing that made it seem as though what I did and do is some hilarious joke. She teased me all the time ((Even in front of her friends!)) and made me out to be some melodramatic attention seeker. It hurt. I was never EVER seeking attention each time I cut. I did my best to hide it.....
Just try to hold on, okay? Tell her how you feel.

wow im sorry your sister does that, its not right at all, if it was my sister id confront her the first time she did that, i hate that people think its attention seeking we have our own reason for doing it and attention is NOT one of them, i will try to talk to her again.