I'm scared, what am I supposed to do?

[rosey1228]

I had an appointment with camhs the other day, and now my parents have both come out with an appointment to this parent support group thing., for children who self harm. And Im worried that my parents will find out to much about the reasons for self harm. My parents aren't the most nicest parents, I try to keep myself at a distance from them, as they like to take the Micky out of me, such as my weight, and they have already started to do so with the self harming, like they won't trust me , and just take the pee out of it, like comments such as why do you want attention? And just it really gets me down. So I'm scared that if they find out more information on the self harming, that they will have more reason to take the pee out of me. And I really don't see how I can cope with it any more, if it gets worse. I dont know if I should ring the person who I saw in camhs and explain to her? I don't know what to do?:(

[StoppingTime]

If you have someone that you can talk to, than I would definitely try and do that. People who actually understand what you are and have been going through really are able to support you when you need them most, so I think it would be good to talk to her.

As for the support group, just don't tell them anything you don't want them to. See what they try to get you to talk about, and find what you are comfortable sharing, and what you are not.
Of course, you aren't doing this for attention, and they really should understand that. Unfortunately, some people are just stuck in that stereotypical mindset, and it can be extremely hard to tell them otherwise. See how other kids are when you're there, and what they say. You may even be able to talk with one of them, if you feel up to it.

If it does end up getting worse, speak to someone you trust about it. What they are doing is wrong, and they have no reason to do it.


Good luck with everything, and we are always here to help you! :)

[FullyAlive]

It would probably be a good idea to talk to the CAMHS worker about this in order for you to get the most out of the appointments you'll need to be honest, they'll be able to offer you the best support that way.

I can see why you might think that your parents learning more about the self harm might encourage them to tease you about it, however in reality them learning more might also mean they understand more and can finally support you in the way you need. I know it's scary but give it a chance it could work in your favour.

Have you been offered family therapy? I think it could help you to discuss your problems with your parents with a qualified adult mediator in the room, it would possibly give you the chance to bring up your issues with your parents and with an outside adult there your parents would be forced to act civilized and in a mature manner. It's up to you but at your next CAMHS appointment I'd bring up the prospect of family therapy you don't need to commit to anything but you could find out more information.

[Lost997]

I go to camhs...i think you should tell the person you see there whatevers worrying you as they really are helpful and understanding at times...you can even suggest to her the idea of family therapy..confronting you parents may be a good idea! if it continues then its classed as emotional abuse and you need to explain that to your therapist so they can help you move forward...I hope I helped and things get better :) x

[Jake Chaplin]

If your parents are taking the micky out of you rather than help you then they aren't really good parents are they? I hope you have some really close friends to talk to about this, and i'm always available to to talk :)