Father figures

[JoshDude]

Hey guys, first off, my father does provide my family well. He and my mother do live together but they dont get along. Everyday i feel im seperating from both my parents more and more.

But to the point: My dad goes to work early, comes home late. But mentaly he isnt there. On weekends he never wants to do anything with me or my sister. If i asked him what game i like to play on the computer, he wouldnt be able to answer the question. He barely even takes notice of what my friends' names are. So, i took refuge too my computer as a father figure. I know this sounds strange, but my computer is the only thing that i can do these days. My father never takes interest in me, or my mother for that matter.

Anyway, he doesnt like me being on my computer 24/7 like i always do. Not sure why, he just dosent. But im growing further and further apart from him and dont know what to do. Any suggestions?

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[Bobby]

Talk to him, open up. Maybe if you make an effort to do something with him, and mention that you don't like the status of your relationship, he will realize that he's not giving you the attention that you need.

Also, explain to him why you went to the computer.

[MoveAlong]

I kinda have the same feeling with the computer (sorta), but I don't have a dad
What it sounds like is your dad is working himself too hard or isn't taking his time. He sounds like he needs R&R with the family. I think you should talk to your mom about that and talk to your dad when you can

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[JoshDude]

Yeah, thanks alot. I shall talk to my parents about it.

[Φρανκομβριτ]

ive never had a father figure, but im ok. You just have to look for one in a different place.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

WOW. I know EXACTLY what you're going through here. My mom has always been there for me (:wub:) but my dad and I don't really have anything in common, so we never do anything together. So... I turned to my computer. For the last five years. He got really pissed that I use the computer so much, but I explained to him that this is my way of "interacting with people" since I have built many friendships by playing Call of Duty in a clan. Anyway, something has changed in him lately. He's not his usuall critical self. He's been much... nicer and engaging with me lately, and he's making an honest effort to get to know me better. I think it had something to do with the Father's Day sermon he went to, which glaringly pointed out to him all the flaws he had in being a father that was "there" for his kids emotionally. Now things have been getting much better since then, and I'm getting really excited. In fact, we're having a weekend to ourselves coming up where we're gonna do the whole "father-son bonding" thing in the best way possible: goin' out to see Die Hard 4!! Nothing's better than a good action movie that ALL guys of any age can appreciate to bring us together!

Phew. Enough about me :D. I think you should do the same. Find out what he likes, or what EVERYONE that is male likes (people who don't like Die Hard aren't real men :D jk) and plan a large amount of time (like a weekend) that the two of you can spend together doing something you both enjoy. Whatever you decide, and whatever happens, GOOD LUCK! :yeah:

[JoshDude]

WOW. I know EXACTLY what you're going through here. My mom has always been there for me (:wub:) but my dad and I don't really have anything in common, so we never do anything together. So... I turned to my computer. For the last five years. He got really pissed that I use the computer so much, but I explained to him that this is my way of "interacting with people" since I have built many friendships by playing Call of Duty in a clan. Anyway, something has changed in him lately. He's not his usuall critical self. He's been much... nicer and engaging with me lately, and he's making an honest effort to get to know me better. I think it had something to do with the Father's Day sermon he went to, which glaringly pointed out to him all the flaws he had in being a father that was "there" for his kids emotionally. Now things have been getting much better since then, and I'm getting really excited. In fact, we're having a weekend to ourselves coming up where we're gonna do the whole "father-son bonding" thing in the best way possible: goin' out to see Die Hard 4!! Nothing's better than a good action movie that ALL guys of any age can appreciate to bring us together!

Phew. Enough about me :D. I think you should do the same. Find out what he likes, or what EVERYONE that is male likes (people who don't like Die Hard aren't real men :D jk) and plan a large amount of time (like a weekend) that the two of you can spend together doing something you both enjoy. Whatever you decide, and whatever happens, GOOD LUCK! :yeah:

Dude! Thanks alot, so much like me. God bless Canada! Lol, anyway, thanks alot.

[CryingEye666]

Hey guys, first off, my father does provide my family well. He and my mother do live together but they dont get along. Everyday i feel im seperating from both my parents more and more.

But to the point: My dad goes to work early, comes home late. But mentaly he isnt there. On weekends he never wants to do anything with me or my sister. If i asked him what game i like to play on the computer, he wouldnt be able to answer the question. He barely even takes notice of what my friends' names are. So, i took refuge too my computer as a father figure. I know this sounds strange, but my computer is the only thing that i can do these days. My father never takes interest in me, or my mother for that matter.

Anyway, he doesnt like me being on my computer 24/7 like i always do. Not sure why, he just dosent. But im growing further and further apart from him and dont know what to do. Any suggestions?

Much love to all of VT! Greatest teen community ever!! =)


hey man, i know how you feel. me and my father dont share the same interests so me and him dont do much either. and yea im always on the computer and he doesnt like it. but i tell him, what else is there to do? i really cant do much outside. then he just stops talkin there. heh..but yea i know how you feeling man.
a quote from a movie i like (Cheaper By The Dozen 2), "Honey, the more you hang on to our kids, the more they're gona pull away".
so, basically, it should be fine right now, keep your distance from him. i wouldnt exactly suggest you do what the others said (no offense), and 'open up' to your father. i wouldnt suggest that so suddenly. like i said, just keep your distance from him for now.
thats all

[Sapphire]

You just have to look for one in a different place.

This is what I do, though not always in the right places :P

[I'm cool like spongebob]

Talk to him about how you feel. Remember like me lots of people don't have Dads at all so I've always thought that a realationship with a father is something worth fighting for