Wait?

[ScarredForLife]

So I'm very conflicted about what to do... My boyfriend is a freshman and I'm a junior. He recently decided he's not ready to date me but he wants to be with me. He's just worried he's gonna mess it up. So he wants me to wait for him. And I want to but I'm worried that if I wait, I might miss out on a great guy or he might decide he doesn't want to date me at all. But being with him is amazing because we've both been through the same stuff and he listens to me and understands. I just don't know if I should wait for him or what.

[RCT109]

The question is not should you wait
it do you love him enough to give him the time he needs to collect his feelings in check for you

But personally I would wait if someone asked me to

[Gothicdeer]

Ok so I'm a pretty mellow so I usual ask the girl I like out and if she says no or says can we wait I usually don't let it bother me and just tell myself it wasnt meant to be...I know this answer probably didn't help at all so I say sorry ahead of time hah

[Stronger]

It all about weighing out those Pros & Cons, should you wait for him, to mature a bit or just say it's now or never. You two seem to work very well, so maybe you should try and wait, it col take him a month to decide or a bit longer. Who knows maybe if you do wait, you could end up being with him for the rest of your life, you never know. Hoped this helped.

[Thunduhbuhlt]

Freshman and Juniors usually don't mesh well...I would either wait it out, or if you really like him, go for it. Don't wait until it's gone.

[Burn007]

he listens to me and understands.
Yeah right...jk

ontopic
you have to decide and nobody can help much
basicly speak with him tell him what you feel...if you love him and he loves u dont wait him always be with him tell him he wont screw up...

[ImCoolBeans]

Honestly, you're in high school, and waiting forever for somebody who might not even come around when called upon doesn't seem to be worth it to me. Think about yourself here, what will make you happy, what will satisfy you, what will make you feel good? You know what I mean? Have a talk with him and decide what you're going to do, be honest and don't hold back. If you really think it's worth it, nobody is stopping you, but just remember that sitting around waiting might end up being a major waste of time with heartbreak tagged on the end of it.

[botwa]

If I were you, I wouldn't wait.
I would screw this and go find another good guy who doesn't want to wait and wants it all here and now.

[ashdyn]

You have to think about what you're looking for in a relationship at this point. If you think you're waiting for the one then it would obviously be worth it. From the sound of it, you like him a lot and have a lot in common. It also sounds like you might have another guy already waiting in the wings just waiting for you to give the green light. If I were you I would tell the freshman to take his time and really set his feelings straight. I would also tell him though that I won't wait forever...I won't actively pursue another person but I won't turn him down either. That way he knows you're open and willing to date him if he's ready but that you're also open to the idea of dating someone else if he's not serious.
(Just from personal experience...if there is another guy and he is older, go with the older. The freshman mind is complex and fickle.)
Good luck!