Do real men cry?

[tom2k9]

Wasn't sure where to put this post but I thought I might as well plonk it here. I was just curious as to how many boys actually do cry? Every now and again I just lie in bed and for about half an hour I will just cry, about everything. Family, friends, relationships, life. How many guys on here actually do like to cry and let it out or do you prefer to bottle it all up?

[StoppingTime]

That saying is really stupid. Never feel bad about that, you are doing nothing wrong, or "unmanly" whatever that means. It's perfectly fine, and actually, a good thing to do, so don't ever worry about it. And yes, I do the same thing sometimes; it's nothing to be ashamed of.

[Jupiter]

Brotato chip, it's perfectly normal.

I've been having mental breakdowns just about every other day, those including tears and lots of other things that I wouldn't recommend. Crying is healthy, actually. If you ever need to talk to someone, I am free.

[double r]

Yes many men do cry, and it does not change an thing about their toughness. And everything that you said tom depends on the individual.

[Iron Man]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with crying. You release your bad emotions and make way for the good ones. It keeps me sane.

[Stryker125]

Of course. Nothing wrong with it. That said, I wish I could cry.

[Gothicdeer]

Crying is fine....it keeps you somewhat sain

[Stronger]

I do it, lol; doesn't make you and less of a man if you do cry, it just helps you let out your emotions all in one, wouldn't see why it would make you less of a man.

[Skeptical Bear]

Everyone cries. I do it. I think those who say that men who cry are "pussies" are the real pussies themselves because they don't want to confront an emotion simply because they think it'll make them less of a man.

[Mortal Coil]

I know I'm not a guy, but my opinion is that men can cry. Go ahead, bro! If you're in pain, emotionally or physically, then let it out.
Don't worry about stupid sexist stereotypes. :)

[Fractured Silhouette]

More than we allow anyone else to know...

[Princess Ariel]

I'm not a man, but if men cried in front of others, it shows that their a real person, not some fake one that appears strong, but is really mushy on the inside. It's what's on the inside that counts. If men cried, that would make me cry, because it shows he doesn't care what others are thinking.

[swimmerboy95]

A majority of the guys I know, myself included, try our best to bottle it all up and do a pretty good job of it. Every once in a while though it will all come out and yes, we will cry. But there is nothing at all wrong with that. The ability to show emotion in front of others takes strength that is hard for many people to handle. I will say that one of my very close friends has cried in front of me and I have so much respect for him because of it.

No one should be ashamed of their emotions and its honestly not a good idea to try and hold them all in. I have a friend who's mom has breast cancer and he did a very good job of keeping it in for a long time. But it eventually got to him and after all was said and done, he ended up in rehab.

So to answer the topic question, real men definitely do cry. But what defines a "real man" is totally up to interpretation.

Hope this helped in some way.
--Alex

[Destructive Impulse]

Your gonna think im lying but I dont cry anymore. I used to be able to but I just cant any more. Its as if I have passed the breaking point cause I cant cry. I just am numb. Im suicidal and when I tried to end my life in December I couldn't cry. I was really sad but I couldn't cry. Then recently my dog who I love so much got diagnosed with cancer and I just couldn't cry. I didn't mope or anything I was just numb and that worries me. Im not tough or anything just emotionally exhausted.

[Mirage]

I cry all the time. I see nothing wrong with it and I absolutely DESPISE that phrase. Crying is sometimes the only way to let out all of your bottled up feelings without doing something irrational.

That's just my two cents, I really hate this saying.

[Carly011]

I dont think your a real human if you dont cry! Crying is totally fine, for both women and men. I think women just admit to it more. My brother is a very "manly, man" and he cries. It breaks me heart, but at least he is letting out his emotions in a healthier way then i do! Feel free to cry, its totally normal and does not make you any less of a man!

[swimmerboy95]

I dont think your a real human if you dont cry! Crying is totally fine, for both women and men. I think women just admit to it more. My brother is a very "manly, man" and he cries. It breaks me heart, but at least he is letting out his emotions in a healthier way then i do! Feel free to cry, its totally normal and does not make you any less of a man!

Spot on!

[Destructive Impulse]

I dont think your a real human if you dont cry! Crying is totally fine, for both women and men. I think women just admit to it more. My brother is a very "manly, man" and he cries. It breaks me heart, but at least he is letting out his emotions in a healthier way then i do! Feel free to cry, its totally normal and does not make you any less of a man!

I disagree. I can't bring myself to cry. Im emotionally exhausted and I just can't cry. I'm still a human being I'm just well numb. Numb to life and numb emotionally. There's nothing wrong with crying it's just I can't cry

[Dragon_Droppings]

I'm not a "real man" nor am I any type of man, but if you want to cry, by all means, cry! 90% of people cry, the rest are just pussies.

[Carlyle]

Crying doesn't necessarily make you a man, but it means your man enough to show your emotions and not give two cares of what others think. Lots of people cry, its normal to do. Heck, I cry, maybe even a bit more than necessary.

[Erasmus]

It is absolutely normal for men to cry, don't be ashamed of it!

[Short Circuit]

Every single day recently, so does that mean I will never become a man? Don't think so, I think it makes me stronger as a person as I can let all my feelings out.

[OregonStateDude]

Of course we do, there's nothing to be ashamed about. But it's probably better to do it in private, so your friends don't make fun of you.

[dannym2326]

Nothing wrong with it in my opinion. Sometimes it can't be helped.


Although I rarely cry. In fact I found out a close friend is dying today and didn't shed any tears.


Doesn't mean I wasn't devastated though.

[DarkHorses]

In my opinion, there's nothing real about a man if he doesn't cry. Everyone cries, it's a human and normal thing to do. If a man cries it shows that he's not afraid to get into touch with his emotional side. I hate when guys act like they have to be emotionless, usually it makes them turn out to be assholes who don't care about other people. There's nothing wrong with being emotional. As humans emotion is a gift, and we shouldn't ignore it if we are blessed with it.

[NotASpyingRent]

I personally feel that willingness to embrace true emotions can be a test of a true man. That's just my two cents!

[Blackout]

They probably cry much more than theyd like you to believe. I cry when I'm sad, confused, and for a bunch of different reasons. The only thing is that I don't think that I have the balls yet to do it in public.

[georgiamay]

Short answer: Yes.

Long answer: Pretty self explanatory if I'm honest.

[BOSS]

Um YES!!!

It usually takes the right kind of moment to make me cry but when I do I'm not ashaimed of it. idgaf what my friends think lol

But yeah like I said it takes the right moment to make me do so.

[Josiah7]

Yes! It takes a real man to cry and not be ashamed of it.

[Dimitri]

I do, in my line of work I cannot show emotions, i cannot let them take over and impede my abilities or judgements. If I have had a really bad week or something I will go home and cry, it is how I deal with it.

Three weeks ago I was at work, one of my peds patients died, I showed nothing but once I finally filled out the paperwork I went to the back room and cry for a good 15 minutes, the chid of medicine came back and told me that I did the right thing and that it will get easier in time.

People see me as a cold, heartless person but when it comes downy o it I was just trained to not she emotion that way but at times I just can't help it.

Crying doesn't show that you are weak, in my honest opinion it show just the opposite. it shows to me that you recognize your weaknesses and are willing to know you need help.

I would rather have a man who cries then one who thinks they are a hardass.

[Bath]

Human beings cry, regardless of gender.

[Dabigdtc]

It is the bodies natural reaction to sadness so you can't help what is natural. Don't worry everyone needs some type of relief to sadness of all kinds

[Cognizant]

Crying is just an expression of emotion- would real men hide a smile if they're excited or happy?
I just cried today, if that says anything to help prove mine, and everyone else's point :)

[abdheuuuchjc]

I cry alot...its fine

[Abyssal Echo]

That saying is really stupid. Never feel bad about that, you are doing nothing wrong, or "unmanly" whatever that means. It's perfectly fine, and actually, a good thing to do, so don't ever worry about it. And yes, I do the same thing sometimes; it's nothing to be ashamed of.

I agree with StoppingTime and I do the samething sometimes

[FFSR250]

Worst thing to do is bottle it up, coming from expierience. I deal with alot of bad jobs which Im there to improve the out come but thats not always how it works. (It gets really tough when you know person or family). Crying is not bad at all and can be apart of a coping mechanism for some. But the best advice is to talk to somone about a problem/situation. I know I have cried before.

[abdheuuuchjc]

Ive cried myself to sleep so many nights its normal dude

[oboi317]

Nothing wrong with crying. I cry sometimes. And for the most part, I don't hold back. Anyone who says that real men don't cry I think want to cry deep inside, but somewhere they were told/taught not to. And they are just passing the word along. If you have a lot going on, maybe you should see a therapist just to talk things out. Or have a good friend that will not only listen, but be honest. There is truth to the saying "your real friends will tell you the truth even if it hurts". Your "bros" that will agree with you and say stuff just to make you feel better are not the people to talk about deep stuff with. And we all have those kinds of friends.
Basically, cry if you feel like it :)

[kenoloor]

Anyone who says that real men don't cry I think want to cry deep inside, but somewhere they were told/taught not to.

Precisely. Society has (generally) brought men up to think that they have to be strong and unwavering; crying is seen as a sign of weakness, so it's not acceptable for a man to show that kind of 'weakness.'

Both of these points are very wrong however. Crying is not a sign of weakness in the least. In fact, it helps us do a sort of mental clear out to keep our emotions from being bottled up. And bottling up is anything but healthy.

[Wiltedrose2394]

Real men cry when they need to. No more and no less. There is nothing wrong with crying, just as much as there is nothing wrong with holding it in.

Robots are the only ones who never cry.
(OMG!!!! UR NOT A ROBOT, R U?!?!?!?!?! OMG EVERYBODY RUN!!!! ROBOTS R TAKING OVR THE WORLD!!!!!! Lmafo.... I'm so glad I amuse myself ;P)

[Sudds3]

I cry all the time, just not in front of people. I dont want to let people know that im broken, mainly because so many people depend on me and if they know im broken it will all be destroyed! So only when im alone and at night in my room with the door locked under neath my blankets hugging a stuffed animal while trying to hum out a nice song. Then whenever I get sad during the day, i just hum out the song and it helps it all melt away!

But real men cry because they are not afraid of what people think and thats what makes you strong, not muscles! Being able to deal with your emotions and not be afraid of letting people know....hypocracy i know

[iallen]

did Jesus cry?

[Weeping_Angel]

did Jesus cry?

Jesus probably cried when god wasn't looking.

[alex4nder]

I've grown up with the understanding that men don't cry.. which is why i tend not to, even when i at times really would like to.

Nothing wrong with it though, if you feel like crying, i think it's better to let it come out than keep it inside all bottled up.

[Rayquaza]

Real, honest men cry.

Fake ones don't.

Weak ones bottle their emotions.

Strong ones will try their best not to, but will.

[Smeagol]

I'm not a guy, but my opinion is that you aren't a real person unless you cry and show emotion.

[Lyra Heartstrings]

Hell yes, men cry. It's a natural reaction. What would make it "feminine"?

[Alexander The Great]

I actually haven't cried in a while, but I hardly ever cried as a child (not trying to sound manly, I think maybe my genes made me only cry in REALLY extreme times or something). Sometimes I really think crying would help, but I never manage to :(

[Pepito]

As others have said, crying is perfectly normal and it doesn`t make you less "manly". "Real men" are not afraid of showing there emotions.
Sometimes mood swings can be caused by puberty.

[Joshvfx]

I'm just the same way I don't blame you but if it embarrass you
In school public etc. then try to think positive and just ignore
All of the bad things which that may seem hard but just go
To sleep before you get depressed and It will probably help
You be much more optimistic.

[User Deleted]

Two words: Yes they do.

> Hercules referencing

[tom2k9]

Really interesting reading over the feedback on here. I just find it astounding the number of boys that are unable to admit that sometimes life just does get a bit too much for them and that a 20 minute cry will do the world of good. I am open about it when I do, but I was just curious how many other people are the same. Good to see I've created a good debate :)

[Mob Boss]

The ones with tear ducts do. But, seriously, I don't think crying makes a man any less manly. Now, I'd like to differentiate between a man with a good heart and an overly sensitive guy. If you cry because you got your butt handed to you on Halo, you should have your "man card" revoked. But if you cry because you lost a friend or had an emotional day, it's completely understandable.

[OrKing]

Yes, in my opinion, everyone cries. I've cried on my own over the years, not nearly as much as I healthily should have because of the way my culture viewed it when I was growing up, but yes, I have cried. I've also seen some of what I once considered to be the strongest men in the world (my dad and brothers) cry, and trust me, their some stereotypical masculine mofo's. There's nothing wrong with crying; what's wrong is the way the majority of teenagers and some adults view it, or at least where I grew up. In a world where even walking with you're head down, or with you're hands in you're pockets is seen as weakness crying is obviously going to be heavily raped of masculinity by society. It sucks, but it's not exactly hard to see or understand why a lot of people don't admit to crying.

[tom2k9]

As I'm getting older, I'm crying more. Its strange. I don't see it as a negative thing at all, I guess as I become more mature I begin to see everything from a more serious perspective I suppose.

[West Coast Sheriff]

Honestly I'm a huge lakers fan and a huge Miami heat fan( a little bit of contrast there)
Last year when the Dallas mavericks beat the heat in the nba finals I cried. Sometimes guys even cry over sports so it's okay to cry :cool:

[president1234]

Yes, they do.

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

Ive cried many times... im not ashamed of it. Youd be more of a man if you show your emotions! If your open... especially if you have a girlfriend say ... dont be scared to cry around her, its perfectly fine!

[Noirtier]

I would say, yes, men cry. I've cried before, and I'm not afraid to admit it. I bottled up my emotions for years, and that was not good for me. Letting it out helped me cope a hell of a lot more.

[Leftyxx69xx]

not afraid to admit it but i do sometimes in bed over A lot of tings in life (i.e. rejections, failures). Its ok for a Man to cry and admit it!

[HumbleBumble]

Well it's weird. I guess you still are a man no matter how much you cry.

Though, I personally never cry. (not since I was 10 years old)
And I kinda feel like there is nothing that can make me cry. I feel to heartless lol.
Maybe if I lost a close relative. But that's pretty much it. Wierd.

[PinkFloyd]

once at a party, I started tearing up because I stubbed my toe. then i started crying like a baby. (idk why.....) anyways, before long every highschooler/college student was crying like a baby.
It was a fun time lol.

but If somethings bothering you, letting it all out can really help.

[Mirage]

I don't really think it matters what gender you are, crying is natural. It is a full release of all negative feelings and sadness, who cares if you are a "real" man?

[LatinaVivit]

I can be such a wreck hahaha. When I do cry, I like to be alone in my room and lie down on my bed in the dark. Maybe put on some Adele too:)

[jemmytheking]

yes, although most won't admit it, almost all men cry. crying isn't going to decide whether you're a "real" man or not. and people cry for different reasons so nothing wrong with it.

[User Deleted]

Despite the faulty concept of "real man" and masculinity you could be completely masculine, 200%, and still cry. Let's say... x person had their entire family slowly tortured to death, x would have to be a sociopath not to cry.

[jord16an]

my dad and me had this talk a few weeks back and my dad said it takes a real man to be able to cry and show his emotions and he says its not healthy to not cry crying basically flushes stress and emotions out of our bodies

[Magus]

It's manly to cry.

[TheWaterPrince]

I generally bottle everything up and don't cry but there isn't anything wrong with it. the times I do cry are when something has really taken a toll on me or when I've had too much built up. But the simple answer is yes, real men cry and thats nothing to be ashamed of.

[Efflorescence]

I think it's perfectly normal for people in general to cry. Many times I feel like crying but I find it impossible to do so for some reason or other. Crying is better than letting all your feelings build up inside you.