Coming to Terms I Guess?

[swimmerboy95]

I am bi with a tendency towards guys. I do not fit any of the gay or bi stereotypes and am very masculine. I mean, Im not a huge jock or anything but definitely don't fit the gay type. I really want to have a relationship but it is just so hard to find other guys who are gay or bi who are my type. Does anyone have any tips on all this? I mean I am not ready to tell people and don't know when I will be ready.

This site helps a lot as far as getting things out there. I always though I was very bi but now I am starting to think that these feelings I have for guys are not going to go away and I am starting to accept that. I just need some advice on how to find people around me that are in the same situation. I hope this makes sense and someone can help me out.

Ive been struggling with these feelings for a while now. I have figured out that i just don't understand girls. I don't get them and i don't find myself sexually or emotionally attracted to them. I fit the stereotypical straight guy so most likely don't attract other guys immediately just because of my apprehension to not let people know. Thanks to anyone who can help. I just want to know I'm not alone in these feelings. Thanks again.
--Alex

P.S. if there are any guys out there in the same situation, you can always talk to me.

[Gordo]

Hmmmm, I'm thinking on it... My best friend or closest friend has the same issue, but at least I know he's bi and he claims that helps. So he has some one to talk to abt it, but what I've found out is that my gaydar is better than his. I think he's so freaked out that someone will figure him out that he misses signs or is so focused on not looking like he has interest in guys that he acts or appears straighter than I do, and I'm pretty straight.

We talked abt it some and I think because people know I'm str8, I'm more likely to put my arm around a guy in a pic for example than he is. Oddly, the two guys I know that aren't str8, say or act more homophobic than guys I know are str8.

Btw, I kinda don't get it either cuz I live in north Georgia and no one freaks if they find out some one is bi, but coming out as gay would just open them up to abuse. Like somehow it's okay during truth or dare to do some gayish stuff and no one really cares.

Not sure this help, but maybe pick a friend irl that you can talk to abt this with. My buddy rob claims it helps him. Plus I think we all go thru phases of neediness or need a hug or some level of intimacy or trust where we can be completely honest with someone irl. VT is is good for that too, but it's not quite the same. There are several really good guys here though that coul help you and I'm sure they'll friend ya at some pt