Im Slightly Worried And It's Making Me Feel Stupid.

[Philleeep]

Ok so as of tomorrow it will have been a month together of me and my girlfriend Seren (shes 14 btw) but im constantly worrying because this may seem stupid of me and being...well yeah. But we barely hold hands because im really nervous and im kinda scared of doing something she doesn't like but when my friend asked if we had kissed and I had said no she said that things might be going to slow and because I haven't kissed her she may not think that I like her as much as I say because im not showing enough affection and she might turn away because i might not be trying.

Another thing is there is another guy called Courtney who has tried on numerous occasions to try and split us up (he's not the only one though) and a few times shes ignored me just to shut him up and he keeps trying to get into her head that I want her for sex and it's really frustrating because he is older than me and i can't do shit to get him to stop.

Im just worried that im going to loose her just because of my nerves and this stupid guy and her friend who wants me and keeps discriminating Seren :'(

[Truth]

Dude, you should punch this "Courtney" in the face. Honestly, he has no right to bug your girlfriend constantly. You should also get her to realize if he was truly her friend, would he be trying to break you and her up? Is it possible that he just wants her for sex and is trying to get it by being the hero?

Secondly, you should probably have kissed by now. Usually by the third date you have a kiss, and you know it's time when it feels right.

[Philleeep]

I went on 6 dates with her before I asked her to be my girlfriend, Im scared im going to ruin things

[Kaius]

Have you tried talking to Seren about this? Shes really the best person you can talk to about it. From experience though you need to try and get over the insecurities however difficult it may be, this is what people that intend on splitting you up want. Doubt. And doubt is the most self destructive thing when it comes to relationship. Seren doesn't sound like shes helping matters by giving in, you need to talk to her and make sure she knows exactly why you're with her and that you're not using her. She shouldn't be listening to anyone else about that but you. Communication is the key here, you need to make sure the things shes believing are coming from your mouth, not others. As for when you should have kissed there isn't a right time, it happens when you're both feeling most comfortable. If shes as into you as you are her then she'll understand that.

[Truth]

I went on 6 dates with her before I asked her to be my girlfriend, Im scared im going to ruin things Hey man, you need to be confident in yourself. Women love men who are confident.

Go on another date with her, make it romantic, and look for your chance to give her a kiss. She is not going to think you just want her for sex, especially considering you haven't kissed yet... so just ignore that loser Courtney.

I'd also suggest to raise your concerns with your girlfriend. Tell her that this courtney is making it really hard on you, how you don't want things to move too fast or too slow, and how you would never use her like this guy is accusing you of, etc... - explain to her how you need her to stand up for you instead of agreeing with that loser.

Personally I would be offended if my girlfriend continued communications with a guy who wanted us broken up, and I would dump her for it.

[Burn007]

tell the guy to fuck off make sure that you are really pissed off when you tell him[its easiyer]
for the kiss just invite her to date lean your head and lip kiss her slowly [no tounge at all] hope it helps a bit

[Philleeep]

Ok well basically i got really scared after and like, tried to get over my nerve and I did today, I kissed her multiple times but i'm not sure about her loyalty to me after there has been a lot of flirting between her and a friend of mine