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TraceOfExistance
April 6th, 2012, 01:09 AM
Before I go too much into detail with this, I want you to know that I'm going to be telling you about two different situations with being replaced...

So I recently moved to a new town at the beginning of my tenth grade year. It's about a thirty minute drive from where I used to live. The old town I used to live in is your typical little town you could say. Not much going on there. The school I went to was a typical "redneck" type of school. I never really fit into any kind of stereotype. I honestly considered myself a reject. All of my other friends could easily fit into one of the other few stereotyped groups there were. My group of friends have been together since our elementary school days, well, most of us anyway. This may sound vain, but I honestly considered myself the center of our little group.

We had our problems in middle school, what with changing classes and such, but we pulled through that fine. Still a strong group of friends. All of that changed when we got to high school... While in our last year of middle school a few of my friends started hanging out with high schoolers and really took a shine to them. So much of a shine that when we did start high school I was completely left out of everything. The world circled around them, I didn't matter anymore. What other friends I had left were in relationships and didn't have time for me. Needless to say, I was lonely. It's not easy being a lesbian in a redneck school, where people talk and point at you for being different. So when my mom and I decided to move to another town I was overjoyed.

Being overjoyed didn't last long. Normally every school gets hyped up when they get a new student. Not this one... Or at least not with me. It was a few days before I found a group of people that would accept me. I liked them, I really did, and I thought they liked me. They were okay with me being a lesbian. So about a week, we got a new girl. A "Scene" girl. They loved her to bits and pieces, and still do. That didn't bother me too much. Then I met this new fellow at a lunch thing for new students. They loved him too. So much that they gave him my spot at the lunch table and I was forced to sit at the very end. Luckily he moved.

But now it seems like the only reason I'm around is to be someone's crutch. I'm only needed when someone has something that's bothering them, or when they want to talk about one of their other "friends", cause they know that I won't tell anyone. In short: I feel used, disposable, and cast aside. Does anyone else have this problem? I've tried to seclude myself from them, but it's not like I have anyone else to hang out with. If anyone else has this problem please tell me your story and how you deal with it and feel about it. It just makes me so angry being treated like this :mad:

Djentleman
April 6th, 2012, 01:52 AM
I used to have a friend who I literally became a psychiatrist to. All he would invite me out for was to vent and need emotional support. I don't mind helping out someone, especially if they're having emotional issues and stuff. But if all they ever talk to me about is how much things suck and problems, then eventually hanging around just becomes a false counselling session. I was never invited to the movies or to go out to do fun things. Only when he had things on his chest he needed to get off, was I invited to hang with him on a one to one basis.

I know where you're coming from man and it sucks. Not only do you want it to be a two way street, where your feelings are considered and heard as well but you want your company to also have happy things to share with you to distract you from the morbidity that is life.

I don't hang out with him anymore because the one time I didn't go out with him, he called me selfish and abandoning and labelled me a devil, because he wanted to vent about his mum, so I couldn't handle it anymore. You can change your situation as well man. There are people out there who I'm sure is your match and will give back.

Stronger
April 6th, 2012, 10:08 AM
Well for your first situation, it just seems everyone grew up, you know what I mean? Nothing can really be said about that, but the fact that they all moved on, I've been their before, its hard, but I just look past it.

As for the second part, clearly those people just aren't the type of people for you. You just have to find that better group that will treat you like gold and not each other, it may take a while but their are people out their, you just have to find them; or simply just be a loner for a bit then continue the search. You still have your whole life to find that golden group of friends, who knows maybe they will be waiting for you when you go to college(if your going to that....just making an example).

I hope this helped you, and if you wanna talk more, shoot me a VM. :)

JamHaychUK
May 15th, 2012, 06:24 AM
Those people are dicks. Discard them. Aquire better friends.

/advice :P

Golden Terror
May 15th, 2012, 07:05 AM
Those people are dicks. Discard them. Aquire better friends.

/advice :P
i totally agree!:):)