Sean Silver
April 5th, 2012, 11:57 PM
Hi there, I really need someone's input on what I should do over the next few months....
To start off, i'm 16 and my boyfriend, we'll call him "Jason", is 18 and heading off to college this summer. I'm two grades behind him and we're both still in high school (obviously). We've been dating for over a year and a half now, and I still am having a little bit of the same trouble I was having before. I'm not sure if I'm in love with him but I definitely love him. He is my bestfriend and I know we will be friends for the rest of our lives. He also has an amazing personality and treats me like gold, and is also attractive. But for some reason, I don't find him that sexually appealing, and whenever the topic of sex comes up, I don't find myself that enthused to have sex. Every now and then I'll feel in the mood, but not as often as he wants me to be. Anyway, it's not his fault he's very attractive and handsome, as well as good at sex I suppose (i've only had two partners) -- but I just cannot find the motivation to have sex the way we should.
I find myself looking at other guys, who I know are bi or gay and think of how I would find them sexually, and most of the ones I pick out I'm very sexually attracted to.
Anyway what I need help on is first: My boyfriend and I are not going to stay together when he goes to college, and I think we both know that by now. But I don't know how long should I wait for us to get over each other, before I start exploring my other options, with out him getting hurt? Remember he is my bestfriend still and hurting him would crush me. I feel like he deserves someone better for him but I'm positive he loves me with all his heart and he honestly thinks the world of me. He's so great and I'd just hate to be that guy that bounces right off a 1 and a half year relationship and moves on to other guys.
Thank you so much for any advice and input you have! :)
To start off, i'm 16 and my boyfriend, we'll call him "Jason", is 18 and heading off to college this summer. I'm two grades behind him and we're both still in high school (obviously). We've been dating for over a year and a half now, and I still am having a little bit of the same trouble I was having before. I'm not sure if I'm in love with him but I definitely love him. He is my bestfriend and I know we will be friends for the rest of our lives. He also has an amazing personality and treats me like gold, and is also attractive. But for some reason, I don't find him that sexually appealing, and whenever the topic of sex comes up, I don't find myself that enthused to have sex. Every now and then I'll feel in the mood, but not as often as he wants me to be. Anyway, it's not his fault he's very attractive and handsome, as well as good at sex I suppose (i've only had two partners) -- but I just cannot find the motivation to have sex the way we should.
I find myself looking at other guys, who I know are bi or gay and think of how I would find them sexually, and most of the ones I pick out I'm very sexually attracted to.
Anyway what I need help on is first: My boyfriend and I are not going to stay together when he goes to college, and I think we both know that by now. But I don't know how long should I wait for us to get over each other, before I start exploring my other options, with out him getting hurt? Remember he is my bestfriend still and hurting him would crush me. I feel like he deserves someone better for him but I'm positive he loves me with all his heart and he honestly thinks the world of me. He's so great and I'd just hate to be that guy that bounces right off a 1 and a half year relationship and moves on to other guys.
Thank you so much for any advice and input you have! :)