How do you tell?

[OlaTheWizzV1]

How do you tell a friend or sibling that your curious?

Im not gay, I want to have sexual relations with women and have a relationship with them.But i am attracted to guys.

And I want advice on it...and every time i try to talk to somebody about it......they all ways say something that makes the conversation awkward.

Like i brought up curiosity to my sister and she basically said "I dont think guys can be curious,if your curious your gay"

It made me a little discouraged and sad, so i strayed away from the conversation. But I need to talk to somebody about it. It drives me insane. Its hard to deal with it,because I have to pretend like things about guys dont turn me on. Mostly because Bis and Gays are...I guess frowned upon.

I dont know...

I dont know how to talk about it. I try saying "My friend" but i can never actually what i want to say...I can only use situations....not whats actually on my mind.....

I dont know how to talk about it...and i wish somebody would help.

[MattiYeah]

Well if people say "you can't be curious" They're small minded and naive.

If you have a close friend who you trust, try talking to them. In my experience girls are alot more open to listening and understanding these things. All my girl mates love the fact i'm bi and that I had to confidence to tell them, I honestly couldn't care who knew that I like both. It's not a lifestyle choice, it's just the way it is.

My best advice would be try bringing it up with someone close to you and you know you can trust, failing that, if you know any openly gay/bi/curious guys. Go talk to them, they'll understand :) Don't get down about it, some people are more receiving than others and it takes a while before you become comfortable enough to talk about it. there's no rush mate. Good luck.

[Lights]

Why do you need to tell them you're curious?
A lot of teens are very small minded with this kind of stuff, and if you tell them you're curious, alike to what your sister said there's a good chance they'll call you gay or bi. You're not ready to be 'labelled' yet because you consider yourself 'curious', therefore I do not recommend you try to tell people unless you're sure they're naturally understanding people about such things.

Perhaps you should wait until you feel more confident about who you are? It sounds like you're maybe rushing a little. Your environment has told you it's wrong to be gay or bi, so naturally you don't like the idea of being gay or bi. Slowly and gradually you need to start building an independent mind of your own where you have your own ideas and opinions, even if they are not in common with your family's. Be who you want to be, and don't be scared.

Like I say though, slow down. If you have a friend you particularly trust, they might be the one to talk to, but if you don't think there is anyone, come on here and talk! Although you may not want to consider it, you could be bisexual. Give it some thinking, and reply back. I'm just judging from the way you've described your feelings for boys. And if you are bi, so be it, there's no problem. :) Don't rush to label yourself or anything, just think carefully whether you do feel for boys like you do for girls.

[Magenta]

Yeah, sometimes curiosity can be related to puberty but I think you'll get more relevant responses here. :)

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[OlaTheWizzV1]

I dont know why I feel the need to tell someone...I think its to ease my head. I want to openly talk about the way I feel...but I'm afraid...Thinking about it brings me to tears...because I feel like I will get treated differently and thats the last thing I want.

Im homeschooled now...but when i did go to public school I was always picked on...I had friends but not many. I got teased about the way I dressed...the girls I dated...(im black) so I got teased about dating white girls in particular...(strangely thats in a category of its own) And the last thing I need is for me to trust someone...and they tell everyone...then everywhere I went I would be called gay....not even bi...just straight gay...I would be called a faggot...and every other derogatory name out there. Sometimes it hurts my feelings to think about because I feel this way enough already....and I feel even my own brother who I love to death would treat me different...He jokes around tlking about how im gay...and to think that theres times where I AM truly attracted to the same sex...it scares me to think about how he would treat me.

I know im not ready for any of this...But Im glad that I have everyone on VT here for help :)

Thanks for everyones support.