** Coming Out Tips; Share Your Story! **

[ImCoolBeans]

Coming Out Tips; Share Your Story!

Whether you are “out” or not, lets hear your status and your possible coming out story!

So you think you’re ready to come out. Whether you want to come out to your family, friends, school or your co-workers, it takes a lot of courage and self-acceptance. Congratulations on making it this far down the road and truly coming to terms with your sexuality.

Coming out can be an incredibly nerve-racking thought, but keep in mind that you are not alone at any time. Self-acceptance is the first step, and until you achieve that, you won’t be ready to come out to the general public. When are ready, however, you will know when to do it. There isn’t exactly a “right time” to come out, there isn’t a best way to do it either. A lot of people today come out over text, Facebook, Tumblr, Twitter, etc… And that is perfectly fine if you choose to do so. It can be much easier to do than having a talk with your friends about it before them having any prior knowledge. However, when telling your family, it might be more appropriate to do it face to face rather than letting them find out by the means of the Internet.

Telling people your true feelings is never easy, and when it comes to your sexuality it can be even more difficult. You need to remember that you are who you are, and nobody can change that. Be proud of who you are and don’t let anybody stand in the way of that. Of course there will be people who will congratulate you, support you and people who will be happy for you – but there will also be people who will resent you and your sexuality. These people may try to hurt your self esteem with hateful comments, but don’t let this effect you or stop you from carrying out your life as you wish. These people are generally insecure and are filled with these negative emotions because they fear difference.

Pros of coming out:
- You won’t have to hide your true feelings anymore
- You can have public relationships
- You can be yourself around whoever, whenever
- You may feel as if “the weight has been lifted off of your shoulders”
- Coming out can give you a lot of self-confidence, knowing that you had the courage to follow through with it.
- It can inspire other people to live their lives how they wish; freely and openly.
- You may feel closer to your true friends, and form new bonds with them since you have confided this in them.

Cons:
- People will judge you
- You may hear anti-homosexual comments, which can hurt your feelings
- The fear of rejection can greatly effect you, and may stop you from following through with your decision
- Actually being rejected by friends, colleagues, acquaintances and possibly some family members

Remember that you are not alone, and that your true friends will support you every step of the way. All of us here at VT will do the same; we are here to help, support and be that friend whenever you are in need.

I wish well with your journey coming out and letting the world know how you feel, remember that I, and the rest of VT, are always here for you. :)

Lets hear those coming out stories!!

[Scarface]

Now this is some good tips man. Its comforting and its reality. Nothing long or drawn out, its something a lot of people need to hear, wonderful job.

[Electra Heart]

Really sweet Mikey, awesome. I would share mine, but... I don't think I'm done the process yet...

[Rayquaza]

(Lol the post here has become outdated)

I told my friends I was bi and they didn't really care. I plan on telling on parents when the time is right.

[Smeagol]

This year, I came out as being a homoromantic asexual. Phewh that's a long label... I went through a period of time when I thought I was biromantic and then panromantic. I didn't have to 're-come out' (that would have been embarassing :D) because yes, I am homoromantic. I just told my mom and dad and my brother. Then, I told a friend at school, and I got overheard. Well, some people give me heck about it, they're like, you're lesbian, you wanna see my ass? But whatever. People are like that. Be out and proud :D

[knightmare]

Well just recently I started to get more comfortable with myself and my sexuality, I really used to hate myself because of it. I honestly would cry myself to sleep at nights and ask myself, "Why me? Why am I a fag?". The older I got the more I realized that there is nothing I can do about my sexuality and instead I should accept myself for who I am, and that's what I did.

This year I slowly started opening up to the girls in my neighborhood whom I've known my entire life. At first it was a little awkward but very quickly everything went back to normal, which was a huge relief, I was expecting huge changes in my friendship. I'm still slowly coming out, I haven't told my mom or any of my friends who are male, but I'm confident that I'll make progress.

[Dreaming Cannibal]

When I came out... Messy story.
I just had my first girlfriend ever, and my sister insisted I had to tell my parents. So I did, I came out as bisexual and my dad of course the usual ignored me and my mother declared it a phase.

When I came out in school… lol funny story. A not-so-close-friend asked me, after the last bell in high school, as I was walking away from her if I was a lesbian. I, because I have no sense of public and private space decided to shout my answer. In the middle of a hallway. A hallway filled with a bunch of students.

If I got hate I just ignored it. My best friend didn't care and I was happy.

Another close-related subject.
On the lis of pros: "You can have public relationships" should be in a different colour. This really is not about you only it would also be about your partner and if your partner isn't out the relationship wouldn't be strictly public. However it is a pro when both sides of the relationship are out.

[ImCoolBeans]

Ironic how I posted this thread before I actually came out to anybody. I guess you could say that I came out to a few people from here, but that's one of the purposes for this site :P

Not too long ago I finally accepted the fact that I'm gay and that nobody, not even myself, can change my feelings and that what makes me happy will continue to do so. I had a lot of support from Jon (or Donkey as some of you know him by) and Ronnie (Scarface), which has really stuck with me and it helped me get to the point where I felt ready to start the process. Today, I decided, was the day to do it. I was talking with Jon and I wasn't really sure if I was actually going to go through with it, his support really got me going, and I promised myself that I was going to follow through. I told two of my friends, two of my best friends rather, and they took it very well. I told a girl and a guy, the guy I was a little unsure of telling, but it worked out well. Very nice feeling to know that I'm accepted by my best friends, and to know that I have that support.

Thank you all who have backed me up and helped me out with all of this, I love you all. Thank you Jon and Ronnie for being right there and getting me to this point, it means the world to me.

I'll post more when I continue on with this process :P

[StoppingTime]

Ironic how I posted this thread before I actually came out to anybody. I guess you could say that I came out to a few people from here, but that's one of the purposes for this site :P

Not too long ago I finally accepted the fact that I'm gay and that nobody, not even myself, can change my feelings and that what makes me happy will continue to do so. I had a lot of support from Jon (or Donkey as some of you know him by) and Ronnie (Scarface), which has really stuck with me and it helped me get to the point where I felt ready to start the process. Today, I decided, was the day to do it. I was talking with Jon and I wasn't really sure if I was actually going to go through with it, his support really got me going, and I promised myself that I was going to follow through. I told two of my friends, two of my best friends rather, and they took it very well. I told a girl and a guy, the guy I was a little unsure of telling, but it worked out well. Very nice feeling to know that I'm accepted by my best friends, and to know that I have that support.

Thank you all who have backed me up and helped me out with all of this, I love you all. Thank you Jon and Ronnie for being right there and getting me to this point, it means the world to me.

I'll post more when I continue on with this process :P

Congrats Mikey!!

[Donkey]

Well I've pretty much known for the last five years I have feelings for the same sex - stronger feelings than for the opposite sex. It was only in the past year or two that I came to terms with the fact I'm actually gay and it wasn't something I could really shy away from much longer. I was rejecting those feelings and trying to wait it out and see how it came together, I tried everything. Trying to masturbate over girls, had girlfriends and just tried to block any homosexual thoughts. I can confirm that doing that simply doesn't work. So eventually I just said to myself I was gay, some time at the beginning of 2011 or the end of 2010. That wasn't going to change, and I was going to have to accept it.

I talk to people over the Internet a lot, while I have good friends at school and in "real life" too, I liked and continue to like the comfort of being able to tell people things without regret or fear of the repercussions. I became and continue to be a prominent member on one of the largest teen forums on the Internet, and that was where I first made it pretty clear I was gay. I guess it felt good to know that other people knew who I really was. It still does, and I still talk to those people daily. But I wanted to get acceptance in real life too, and I wanted to stop hiding things from the people I felt closest to in real life.

Firstly I made it clear my good friend David, who I've known for some years and who didn't really understand my sexuality before as I didn't make it clear at all. It wasn't hard to tell him since he kind of knew I wasn't straight and he is gay himself, so that wasn't a huge deal. He's been the biggest person in my life in terms of friends though, and I respect him almost universally. He had no problems with it of course and we were cool. It felt nice being a little more open about that, and I don't really know why I hid that from him in the first place. In the end, I don't think I was really hiding it but more just having not come out to myself I couldn't tell someone I thought I was gay if I didn't think I was.

It took some balls to tell my school friends, who I see every day. I knew who I was going to tell first. A pretty close friend who actually had two gay godfathers. I knew he wasn't homophobic, but I was still kind of nervous about how it'd affect our friendship since he is obviously straight and yeah... I just didn't know if he'd make some more subtle assumptions or whatever. Turns out he didn't. I decided to tell him over Facebook chat one night, there wasn't really a right time otherwise and I didn't want to do it with other people around or even close. My heart rate shot up when I did it, but eventually that was cool. He thought I was joking at first since I am pretty straight acting and unpredictable, but once I told him I wasn't he was cool about it. It didn't really seem to matter to him at all, but I brought the subject up later just to clarify it with myself. Nothing changed. Only I really cared, and after a few days of getting over the fact he knew I didn't anymore.

I left it a while before telling my other closest friend at my school. I actually told him on Christmas Day I think via Facebook Chat again since I was up North with my grandparents, didn't plan to do it then but it just happened. We had a long conversation about all kinds of things and me opening up to him actually made us closer. I guess that's the way things turn out. It was nice to do and made the friendship a little stronger. I knew he'd be accepting too and I felt good after telling him.

I told about 10 of my school friends in the space of a couple of months, and every single one was accepting and didn't break my trust and my faith in them that they wouldn't tell anyone else. That meant a lot and it became much easier to tell people; I was almost doing it casually by the end and that felt good. I decided it was time to start work on a few family members before I came out to everybody. I called my grandmother and we discussed a trip to Prague in the Summer, the job I had planned and a few other things. At the end of the call I decided to tell her and she was very supportive and nice about it. She's a real nice woman and I really love her, she was so supportive and I knew that I could tell her and she would only be good about it.

So I met someone called Max about a month and a half ago, and I had him over one night around then. I had thought my brother was out the house but turns out he was just in the garden. Max and I went downstairs into the study and kind of looked a little gay cuddling but I guess it could still look like friends.

A few days later, one of my school friends said she'd been out with my brother to get stoned one evening and that my brother had said he thought I might be gay and that he'd seen me in the garden. it immediately pissed me off that he told a group of people rather than confronting me first, so I got home that day and just told him almost without hesitation in the kitchen. He didn't mind at all and turns out he wasn't really being entirely serious when he said it. It was a good way of telling him, he didn't really care much. He said it was a bit of a shock but that it didn't really affect him much and then it wasn't really mentioned too much again except if we were just in a conversation about telling my dad. I'm glad he only saw it as a part of me and it didn't change the way he looked at me as a brother.

So then I was pretty confident with this whole thing. Soon enough after that, or around that time, Max and I were in a relationship. I was becoming completely comfortable with my sexuality and we were holding hands in my village and stuff so I guess it was time that I made it official as it were. I posted a Facebook status thanking the people I'd come out to and telling all of my Facebook friends I was gay. I don't have my dad on Facebook or other family so that was still to come later, but it was a big step. The response was really good and a lot of people expressed their support by messaging me and things like that. The only negative thing that came of it was a few silent calls from a blocked number that same evening but to be honest it didn't really bother me, I just thought someone was being a bit pathetic.

So as time went on, people were showing more support. It was all good. Everyone knew now. The Facebook status got something like over 40 likes, people seemed to be real supportive and I celebrated my first day of being openly gay with a hazelnut latte, away from my usual mint mocha, just to pertain to the stereotype. It felt good. People knew and I could be open with things now. This was Easter break so I wasn't at school, that was my only concern.

I changed my relationship status on Facebook and that weekend I called my dad up to talk to him while we were decorating. I said "I need to talk to you later, by the way" and he questioned me about it a lot, asking me what it was. Eventually it became most convenient not to talk to him later but just to wait until my siblings were out the room. It took a while for the words to come out of my mouth but they did and he immediately asked how I knew, that life would be difficult and a bunch of other things like that. A few minutes later he kind of accepted it and we had a little chat, then went downstairs for lunch.

It was a little odd because he was actually happier and more friendly after I had told him than usual. He seemed happy to know, which I didn't really expect. But it was pretty nice and I didn't feel that awkward. It was quite nice, and I really did appreciate that reaction a lot since I was pretty anxious about it. A few days later he wanted to make sure I knew about protection and the risks of anal sex, and a bunch of that kind of stuff. We went through it all much to I think both of our embarrassment and awkwardness.

And then just tonight we had a chat about a bunch of things. The future of our lives and how things were going, and we talked about my sexuality a bit. He said he didn't really find it natural but that he thought everyone was somewhere on the bisexuality spectrum and we really are all just chemicals. He basically said that while he didn't understand it "a woman's body is very nice," he said, he was accepting of it and I guess that was all that matters. I asked him what he'd think if I brought home a guy and he got a bit weirded out; he said he'd find it odd and we discussed that thought a bit. I mean, yeah, I understand where he's coming from. In his position I'd probably think the same so it's just something I think we both need to get used to.

Now I'm back at school and everyone knows, including some teachers and things like that. It'll spread more eventually but no one has made any homophobic comments and no one treats me any differently, we can all kind of have a joke about it and it's a much nicer feeling for me to be more open about things. It was all really worth it and I'm very appreciative of the support I got from the people around me and just how lucky I am to have those people.

[Lyra Heartstrings]

As of now, only 3 people know of my sexuality. Ironically, they are all girls.
This is how it went:
1. At around 3 AM, I mustered up guts, grabbed my phone, and sent the longest text of my life. It involved allot of "your my best friend, so you deserve to know this.." and "you can't tell anyone, okay?" at the end, I told her. Well, she didn't text me back.
For a day.
Monday, I went up to her, and just looked at her. She hugged me, and said:
"No matter what you are, I'll love you like my brother." It..it was amazing, quite honestly. I'd never felt happier.
2 and 3, done at the same time. I was hanging out with my other 2 best friends, and I closed my eyes, thinking. Obviously, I was thinking about whether or not to tell them. The decision was..hard. It's a touchy subject. What if they are homophobes? I decided it didn't matter. It was a simple "I'm bi." They just stared at me, shrugged..and one of them said-
"So? Your still awesome. Doesn't change my feelings of you." The other one nodded.
So yeah. It helps. Allot. If your ever scared of doing it-
Go for it.

[Jupiter]

Can't believe I did it.. but I came out to my friend.

It went a little like this (over text)

*le boring sobbing conversation finally over with my complaining and crying*
So, I wonder if the high school is ready for a flambuoyant faggoty kid like me next year.

Her- But you aren't gay.

Me- I've been meaning to talk to you about that.

Her- What are you saying?

Me- I'm bisexual...

Her- Oh. So, wait, are you kidding yourself with Maggie?

Me- no... I am not.

*conversation goes on*

So one person in real life knows.

[Magenta]

Mine is pretty simple actually. I finally told my dad and all he said was "Excellent, what's her name?" and my mum was not surprised. Actually, my mum's response was:

"You know, this is the age where all the boys start flocking around the girls and you've just never shown any interest."

So that went pretty well. I sort of just said I came out to my parents on FB and those who knew said congrats, those who didn't know were just like "oh, okay, nice". Almost 75% of my school is LGBT so I don't have that problem, lol.

[ImCoolBeans]

Really well done, guys :) Proud of you.

I've come out to two more friends since I posted in here the first time, and it's all gone very well. It hasn't changed any of my friendships, I was pretty scared about that. But overall it's gone great and I'm very lucky to have such accepting friends.

I'll post the whole story when I'm fully done with all of this.

[Electra Heart]

So far, I've told my ex over gmail chat... she was fine with it. I told my one friend in real life when he came over quite casually. It went really well, he told me how it wouldn't matter to him if I "liked to fuck chickens." So, overall it's gone quite well :P Except the huge rock on my shoulders... which is my mother...

[jjsmitty]

Well, I came out as Bi at 15 and pretty much shocked everyone, im athletic, competitive, pretty dextrous and a trainee mechanic so could carry myself off as a pretty convincing straight. I knew I liked guys way before that age and I had feelings for a guy throughout secondary school, but thats a later story.
Unfortunately I basically had no choice but to come out to my parents due to my (amateur) attempt at deleting my history, I left a rather large amount of gay and Bi porn
which my Dad found and confronted me one night. I wasnt ready and basically poured out that I liked guys and girls nd had known for awhile. My Dad didnt speak to me for a good week and my Mum acted as though nothing had happened. About a fortnight later my Dad TOLD me we were going shopping, and drove me to the beach ( 5 minutes away ) turned the engine off and said he and my mum didnt give two s**ts about what I was as long as I was happy, which was a massive relief.
Now I had to tell my friends before word got to them through family. I invited a four of my closest friends around (including aforementioned really hot guy for a sleepover type thing) and when calming down for the night just announced, in the dark, "i'm Bi." Three of them turned around and for a couple of minutes asked me if I was sure etc and then were like OK, and went to sleep. Really hot guy didnt move so I thought he'd fallen asleep beofe i'd said it, so I thought I had to tell him in the morning.
Morning came and everyone got up as normal like nothing was different, and I tried to corner really hot guy, which I did when he was brushing his teeth in the bathroom, I basically just blurted out that I was bi and he said "I know, I heard last night" -awakward silence - "I'm Bi aswell" he said, I was like OMG, and we hit it off and have been together for the past 2 years, RESULT! :D
Word eventually got round school and everyone was quite shocked, a couple of good friends I havent spoken to since, but the majority didnt care after about a week.
Some people think "coming out" is going to ruin their world, what I experienced is the opposite, it made me feel better about myself and allowed me to stop living a lie. It also lead to the best thing in my life, aforementioned really hot guy, and probably allowed him to confess his true feelings aswell. I'd reccomend it to anyone, but my advice, tell your parents first before they find out for themselves, dont tell the school first as word may filter back and it could catch you off guard.
I hope there's something in here someone can make use of.
Aim High.

[Harley Quinn]

Mine is pretty easy to follow (bear in mind I go to an all girls school and sixth form);

I didnt come out, I fell out on my face with someone else outing me. That was year 8-9 rumours started and at that time I was just like "yeah whatever, dicks." it later turned out the girl who outed me only did it because she was gay and scared. I then came out properly to Facebook on national coming out day like 3 years ago, it got a load of likes and comments that were supportive, some weren't shocked and I got the "omg you're gay?" comments.

After that the whole school practically knew and those that didn't asked and I'd just tell it straight up (no pun intended). In year 10/11 english we had to do a biography so I chose to write about being gay, ended up getting an A* for it which was weird because my teacher wasn't sure the exam board would accept it as coursework. So that's how most of the teachers found out. Then it was year 11 leaving week and we had our shirts signed and what not and all over mine was " I LOVE YOU, YOU'RE MY ONLY GAY FRIEND" and many other things like that. So my teacher was going to sign my shirt and he saw that and went "why does you shirt have gay all over it?" and the whole class synchronously said "BECAUSE SHE IS GAY" to which he laughed and gave me a hug. My re teacher just ignored it and went "I already knew" in the corridor after lesson. So that's how teachers took it. They're great.

Parents was the hard one, so I did what I do best. That's writing letters. It was 22nd December 2011 and I wrote this letter to my mum and dad which was a very emotional thing for me to do and I was crying as I wrote it. Mainly because I'm Irish and so my family are strict Catholics. I wrote in it how I didn't want to disappoint anyone and that I was so sorry for ruining their whole family plan. I folded it after I finished writing it and left it downstairs next to the computer where I knew dad would read it (my brother did sneaky like). When dad came home from work, it was like 4am and I knew he read it. The next day nothing was said, then on Christmas Eve he went to me "I read your letter by the way" at this point I was shitting myself. He continued with "you're my daughter okay, no matter what you do and what your choices are in life, I will always support you. If you're happy then I'm happy, that's all that matters. You'll always be my little girl and I'll still walk you down the aisle". I was literally drowning in my own tears I was so emotional.

So now everyone that's important to me knows and it's not a big deal, I'm the only lesbian in my year and everyone still loves me. It was hard at the start but everyone was young, now it's great and I can't believe how free I became.

[Lovemeorleaveme]

I came to terms with myself being bi about 2 weeks ago.I think ive kinda known it since september, but ive a crush on a guy from then until about 2 months ago.
Since the beginning of the school year, up until me coming to terms i would battle off my thoughts, like if i thought a girl had nice boobs i whould think
" nononono i dont actuy think that, im not lesbian, no way, im just tired" and so on, i finaly stopped denying it right before my birthday, and my birtday slumber party, nothing happened then exept for the fact that i felt guilty for not telling any of the girls there who i knew were all 100% trustworthy but i wasnt ready, but i also knew there was no way i could stay in the closit compleatly for long.
i didnt.
about a week later and less then a week ago i told my best friend since kindergarten over fb, telling her felt safe, we went to different schools (i moved in gr6) so she didnt hang out with anyone i knew or who knew me, we had been friends for as long i could remember.
i told her and to tell the truth she wasnt AS suppotive as i had hoped for, but its more that she doesnt understand that its not somthing u can train your mind to stop thinking,thing, then a "eww gross get away from me!!" thing.

[Maverick]

February 2009 I posted this...

Today I came out to my mom, dad, and sister.

There was some shock at first. My dad wasn't really thrilled or had the best reaction when I told him. Him and my mom went out for awhile after I told them. The short time away did some good.

By the time they came back home they told me they were ok with it, nothing has changed, and they are still behind me. My sister knows too and feels the same way.

It felt awkward at first but I feel good now. I think what really pressed me to do it was that I just didn't care anymore what their reaction would be. I just decided I would live with whatever happened. I do admit after I said it I immediately regretted doing it but I'm glad I did now. My dad even told me he respected me for having the guts to say it.

So overall I say it went very well. This is coming from a family that really didn't have anything positive to say about gay people.

If you ever decide to come out, they may not react the way you would like them too, but give them time because after it sinks in, it may change. Sometimes it won't though. They may try to question your certainty but stick to your guns and make it clear that you're sure.

So from February 2009 to today May 17th, 2012... after I told them I was gay over 3 years ago we haven't talked about it since. The only thing thats changed is that nobody talks about girlfriends or girls. Otherwise after all these years its remained silent... My sister hasn't said anything nor my dad. My mom is dead now so thats put to rest.

I really regret the fact that after taking all that courage to tell them I didn't incorporate it into my life somewhat. I mean I know they have to still remember obviously but I feel like once I get into a serious relationship and tell them about it, its going to be like opening an old wound since its remained silent all this time. To be honest I still feel slightly pathetic and a little cowardly that in a way I took one step forward and another few steps back since I'm still in the dark shadows about it.

Its not all doom and gloom though... Late last year I told my cousin that I'm really close with personally and in age that I was gay. It went completely well. Despite the setbacks it makes me quite happy that I can be honest with him.

[ImCoolBeans]

February 2009 I posted this...


So from February 2009 to today May 17th, 2012... after I told them I was gay over 3 years ago we haven't talked about it since. The only thing thats changed is that nobody talks about girlfriends or girls. Otherwise after all these years its remained silent... My sister hasn't said anything nor my dad. My mom is dead now so thats put to rest.

I really regret the fact that after taking all that courage to tell them I didn't incorporate it into my life somewhat. I mean I know they have to still remember obviously but I feel like once I get into a serious relationship and tell them about it, its going to be like opening an old wound since its remained silent all this time. To be honest I still feel slightly pathetic and a little cowardly that in a way I took one step forward and another few steps back since I'm still in the dark shadows about it.

Its not all doom and gloom though... Late last year I told my cousin that I'm really close with personally and in age that I was gay. It went completely well. Despite the setbacks it makes me quite happy that I can be honest with him.

For me the best part about telling anybody was the fact that I now felt like I could totally be honest with them, and I've grown closer with the few friends that I have told. Telling your family at all is a massive step forward and I hope to get to that point sooner than later. Well done by taking that step, it's not something to feel pathetic about, you did more than a lot of people can say they have.

[Maverick]

I suppose you're right. Telling is one thing... actually living it and incorporating it into your life is another battle though.

[Akasuki]

I came out to my mom via MSN messenger to reduce the face-to-face awkwardness. I just turned 14 when I did.
I told her that I had a girlfriend over the internet and she was okay with it.

She's proud of who I am and couldn't be happier. My dad, on the other hand, makes stupid jokes but since he's verbally abused me my entire life, I just disregard it.

I always tell my friends to write a letter to their parents if they're afraid to say anything. It's worked every time. (:

As for friends, I always just said I was gay right off the bat... so I found friends that could relate or accepted me for who I am. I suffered from social anxiety at the time, so I didn't really have any, anyways.

[gayprideguy12]

{Mine is quite embarrassing}
i was about 13 or 15, i did exploring on the internet many times on my mothers computer. but a one time she opened her computer and BOOM there was some. so she confronted me and we had a long talk and thankfully she was OK with it. but she thought it would be a good idea to see a therapist, which was fine. but the huge problem was my father. my mother told him like 6 months later and he was in denial for a few years and comes to accept. my dads side of the family supports me 51%. my moms side of the family supports me 100%. so by today i am the only gay member of my entire family. the only openly gay (white)guy in my school. so far its going good for me in terms of my coming out.

[Joshy1305]

Oh snap you people type a lot! Well I made a status on facebook saying if i get 100 likes I will comment my biggest secret , :D I AM GAY!

[Bobby08]

{Mine is quite embarrassing}
i was about 13 or 15, i did exploring on the internet many times on my mothers computer. but a one time she opened her computer and BOOM there was some. so she confronted me and we had a long talk and thankfully she was OK with it. but she thought it would be a good idea to see a therapist, which was fine. but the huge problem was my father. my mother told him like 6 months later and he was in denial for a few years and comes to accept. my dads side of the family supports me 51%. my moms side of the family supports me 100%. so by today i am the only gay member of my entire family. the only openly gay (white)guy in my school. so far its going good for me in terms of my coming out.

I am glad that you came out and cool story :p

[RoseyCadaver]

Honestly, at first when I realized I was bisexual leading towards masculine figures(not men, masculine figures) I didn't feel there was a need to tell anyone. This was because I was happy with staying with "butch" women or trying for transgendered boys (ftm). After a while, I started having an interest in biological men and guys. It took a shit fuck ton amount of time to admit,"that hey I'm more than hetero" to myself. But hey, it wasn't impossible.

So the first time I really recognized this was when I was 13,and I told my mum. I was really freaking out, seeing the way the gay/queer community is treated. I felt like if I wasn't straight, I wasn't going to be able to be that doctor with the nice house or be that person house wife/husband. I was fearing I'd end up as the media's image of a gay camp boy(how Ironic). But she told me it might just be hormones at let time settle it out.

Over that amount of time, from 13-15 I slowly became more attracted to guys. I can't say I'm still not attracted to girls, I like guys a lot. I also noticed a big realization of my gender. Around January I officially came out to my mum. I sort of have been giving signals off to her, and I think she took them. Over all she took me being bisexual and gender neutral very well. She said she'd rather see me end up with a woman, but what happens happens.

I have yet to come out to my father, nor do I plan to.

I came out to some people at school, who are bi/gender variant/anything but straight and I actually had a harder time with them keeping it all under wraps versus my straight friends I told. Some people did tell other people shit, which is why I say be very careful with you tell your business too.

[WiiRemoter]

Coming out has been a nerve-racking process for me, and im only in the beginning of it. I've come out to two of my friends. Numero uno is one of my closest friends, and basically how i told her was, one day we had a guest speaker in one of my classes and she noticed me staring at him (he was really hot) xD Anyways, I texted her later, because I didnt want to leave her seeing THAT and than not having the truth. So i 'fessed up and told her everything. She's now the person I tell absolutely everything to, and she tells me everything too. :) Now the second was another friend, but were not as close. I kinda regret telling her, only because i'm afraid she'll tell someone else. I dont think she will, but I was so eager to just tell anyone, i kinda just blurted it out. I just want to remind everyone out there to just assess how much you trust a person before you come out to them. I've learned my lesson and luckily no one else knows in public that im bi/questioning. Once I figure out where I stand with girls, im hoping to come out to my parents and at school as either gay/bi. FINGERS CROSSED I FIGURE THIS OUT SOON!

[Montesquieu15]

Kind of funny story:

I was debating whether or not to tell my friend I was gay, so I sent her an exploratory text saying "how would you react if I was bi."

She asked me if I was serious. I didn't want to lie to her, so I didn't follow through. But saying no, on the contrary, only made me seem like I was in denial. I further explained, but the way the texts were worded (it was late at night) only confirmed what I had said.

She now thinks I'm bi. Now, I'll just have to tell her I'm really only gay.

[EvanShaw]

Well, my school and family thinks im gay. But i'm bisexual. I held hands with my, now ex, boyfriend in school. So I was the talk of the school for days.. They think i'm GAY. I don't care what they think so i'm not going to 'come out' there for a while.

On the other hand....FAMILY. UUgh, They think i'm gay, they tell me: we dont want you to feel ashamed! It's OKAY.
But i'm bisexual, so when my stepdad asks if i'm gay i say no. BUT I DON'T SAY I'M STRAIGHT. I wish they could get the hint! BUT, my mom thinks bisexuality is kinda...fake. She says, "why can't they just choose one?" my dad says the same thing. So i'm afraid to come out as a bisexual. BUT I WANT TO. I want EVERYONE to know. I want a boyfriend from my school. One that will 'come out' with me! And he doesn't have to be from my school...just my area. And if I came out, i'd probably be one step closer!

So, i'd like REAL ADVICE.
Meaning, not (come out) or (It will be good for you and everyone).
I WANT REAL, GOOD ADVICE.

[ImCoolBeans]

Tonight I came out to my mom. We were talking about various things, which lead to one thing that lead to another, and we somehow got onto the topic of me being unhappy. She wanted to know why I was unhappy, and I said that I felt kind of lonely, which made her upset/sad. She asked why I was feeling lonely and if I've felt like this for a while - I told her that I just felt alone. She started saying how I have good friends, so I told her that it had nothing to do with them, but the fact that I haven't ever had a good relationship. After discussing that, and hearing the typical things like: "You don't always need to find love in high school", "Not having a girlfriend in high school isn't the end of the world", "you could have any girl that you want," etc.. I started to think how I should just say it to get it over with because I'm starting to care less about people knowing, and it would seem right that my mother should know since we're talking about relationships and how I'm unhappy with my situation. We talked a little bit more before I said "Can I tell you something? You just need to promise that you're going to keep it to yourself for now, you can't tell anyone, I mean it." She said yes and seemed kind of suspicious since I've never really said anything like that before, and then I told her and she asked if I was sure and if I wasn't just confused. I explained to her that I'd been sure for a while now, and that there isn't any doubt at all. We didn't talk very in depth because her boyfriend came home, and that isn't a conversation I want to have when he's around, but we agreed to have that talk in the near future. After that she hugged me and said "I'm your biggest fan, I love you" and we carried on the night as we normally would.

[RoseyCadaver]

Tonight I came out to my mom. We were talking about various things, which lead to one thing that lead to another, and we somehow got onto the topic of me being unhappy. She wanted to know why I was unhappy, and I said that I felt kind of lonely, which made her upset/sad. She asked why I was feeling lonely and if I've felt like this for a while - I told her that I just felt alone. She started saying how I have good friends, so I told her that it had nothing to do with them, but the fact that I haven't ever had a good relationship. After discussing that, and hearing the typical things like: "You don't always need to find love in high school", "Not having a girlfriend in high school isn't the end of the world", "you could have any girl that you want," etc.. I started to think how I should just say it to get it over with because I'm starting to care less about people knowing, and it would seem right that my mother should know since we're talking about relationships and how I'm unhappy with my situation. We talked a little bit more before I said "Can I tell you something? You just need to promise that you're going to keep it to yourself for now, you can't tell anyone, I mean it." She said yes and seemed kind of suspicious since I've never really said anything like that before, and then I told her and she asked if I was sure and if I wasn't just confused. I explained to her that I'd been sure for a while now, and that there isn't any doubt at all. We didn't talk very in depth because her boyfriend came home, and that isn't a conversation I want to have when he's around, but we agreed to have that talk in the near future. After that she hugged me and said "I'm your biggest fan, I love you" and we carried on the night as we normally would.

It's amazing coming out to your mum, it's a lot easier telling her stuff like if you think this guy is cute, or if you think he is cute and get advice. It will take her some time to get completely around it lol, my mum still thinks I'm confused, but the best thing is she's ok with it ;)!

[Laquifa]

Tonight I came out to my mom. We were talking about various things, which lead to one thing that lead to another, and we somehow got onto the topic of me being unhappy. She wanted to know why I was unhappy, and I said that I felt kind of lonely, which made her upset/sad. She asked why I was feeling lonely and if I've felt like this for a while - I told her that I just felt alone. She started saying how I have good friends, so I told her that it had nothing to do with them, but the fact that I haven't ever had a good relationship. After discussing that, and hearing the typical things like: "You don't always need to find love in high school", "Not having a girlfriend in high school isn't the end of the world", "you could have any girl that you want," etc.. I started to think how I should just say it to get it over with because I'm starting to care less about people knowing, and it would seem right that my mother should know since we're talking about relationships and how I'm unhappy with my situation. We talked a little bit more before I said "Can I tell you something? You just need to promise that you're going to keep it to yourself for now, you can't tell anyone, I mean it." She said yes and seemed kind of suspicious since I've never really said anything like that before, and then I told her and she asked if I was sure and if I wasn't just confused. I explained to her that I'd been sure for a while now, and that there isn't any doubt at all. We didn't talk very in depth because her boyfriend came home, and that isn't a conversation I want to have when he's around, but we agreed to have that talk in the near future. After that she hugged me and said "I'm your biggest fan, I love you" and we carried on the night as we normally would.

Great Job Mike !! My mom is borderline homophobic and my grandma is EXTREMELY homophobic so I'm not coming out for a while ...

[Breakeven]

Tonight I came out to my mom. We were talking about various things, which lead to one thing that lead to another, and we somehow got onto the topic of me being unhappy. She wanted to know why I was unhappy, and I said that I felt kind of lonely, which made her upset/sad. She asked why I was feeling lonely and if I've felt like this for a while - I told her that I just felt alone. She started saying how I have good friends, so I told her that it had nothing to do with them, but the fact that I haven't ever had a good relationship. After discussing that, and hearing the typical things like: "You don't always need to find love in high school", "Not having a girlfriend in high school isn't the end of the world", "you could have any girl that you want," etc.. I started to think how I should just say it to get it over with because I'm starting to care less about people knowing, and it would seem right that my mother should know since we're talking about relationships and how I'm unhappy with my situation. We talked a little bit more before I said "Can I tell you something? You just need to promise that you're going to keep it to yourself for now, you can't tell anyone, I mean it." She said yes and seemed kind of suspicious since I've never really said anything like that before, and then I told her and she asked if I was sure and if I wasn't just confused. I explained to her that I'd been sure for a while now, and that there isn't any doubt at all. We didn't talk very in depth because her boyfriend came home, and that isn't a conversation I want to have when he's around, but we agreed to have that talk in the near future. After that she hugged me and said "I'm your biggest fan, I love you" and we carried on the night as we normally would.

mikey im sooo proud of u :yes: :hug:

[Cognizant]

I think I've finally came to terms that I am bisexual; i've been questioning and denying it for a while, but I finally think I'm comfortable now with the fact that I'm bi.
I have came out to 1 person, and it was not as dramatic at all.
We're good friends, just talking on facebook after the school year had ended. We were just talking about "normal" stuff, and he made a joke about living in my attic. That carried on to boy talk, then the SF pride and how I was thinking of going. then he admitted to me that "i'm gay, by the way". That's exactly what he said, plain and simple. I said nothing wrong with that, and told him that I was bi, but had not come out to anyone after that. And while of course it wouldn't make sense for him to be not okay with that (seeing that he's gay), our relationship was a little more close and awkward at the same time. He removed me from his friends list for some time, until I requested him again..
Pretty lame, but I will definitely be posting my coming out experience when it comes to my parents... that should be more interesting.
And I just changed my "Interested in" on facebook :)

[ImCoolBeans]

I think I've finally came to terms that I am bisexual; i've been questioning and denying it for a while, but I finally think I'm comfortable now with the fact that I'm bi.
I have came out to 1 person, and it was not as dramatic at all.
We're good friends, just talking on facebook after the school year had ended. We were just talking about "normal" stuff, and he made a joke about living in my attic. That carried on to boy talk, then the SF pride and how I was thinking of going. then he admitted to me that "i'm gay, by the way". That's exactly what he said, plain and simple. I said nothing wrong with that, and told him that I was bi, but had not come out to anyone after that. And while of course it wouldn't make sense for him to be not okay with that (seeing that he's gay), our relationship was a little more close and awkward at the same time. He removed me from his friends list for some time, until I requested him again..
Pretty lame, but I will definitely be posting my coming out experience when it comes to my parents... that should be more interesting.
And I just changed my "Interested in" on facebook :)

Great job, Pat :) Takes a lot of courage to start the process, it only gets easier from that point forward. I've found that the more I tell people the easier it becomes; but that doesn't meant that you need to run out and tell everyone and anyone if you aren't comfortable or ready for them to know. Telling your parents is the big one, and I've only done one half of that step. I wish you the best of luck with all of this, and if you need anything along the way you know how to get to me :)

[Jupiter]

I came out to my friend the other day.

My friend and I were talking and I'm like.. "yeah.. I'm pansexual. That's why I keep sayin' all these guys are cute."

[Cognizant]

Well, I just told my dad I was bi..at the worst possible time ever.
I told at 4:10 AM.. He was half asleep but I just wanted to let him know.

It started a bit ago when I was stressing out about almost telling him but not. Then my heart started to hurt, so I went to ask him about it.. I went into his bedroom and he said I was fine. Then I started blabbing on about stress, and then I said "Dad, I'm bisexual. Sorry for telling you right now, but I just wanted to let you know why my heart is achy." he just said its okay, and I hugged him and let him go back to bed.
I'm a little worried about what he'll say in the morning, idk.

My heart is still achy though :P

[ImCoolBeans]

Well, I just told my dad I was bi..at the worst possible time ever.
I told at 4:10 AM.. He was half asleep but I just wanted to let him know.

It started a bit ago when I was stressing out about almost telling him but not. Then my heart started to hurt, so I went to ask him about it.. I went into his bedroom and he said I was fine. Then I started blabbing on about stress, and then I said "Dad, I'm bisexual. Sorry for telling you right now, but I just wanted to let you know why my heart is achy." he just said its okay, and I hugged him and let him go back to bed.
I'm a little worried about what he'll say in the morning, idk.

My heart is still achy though :P

That takes a lot of courage to do, bud. It's admirable. Telling my mom was one thing, but I've yet to work up the courage to even think about my dad. Well done, congratulations :)

[LiamC]

First person I told was my best friend, it was over facebook. He has a massive crush on this girl and wouldn't say who it was but I was really nosy and wanted to know. He was slowly breaking and seemed like he wanted to tell someone, so I said as a final push 'if you tell me who you fancy I'll tell you who I fancy' and he said the girl's name and I had to tell him mine and I thought 'no point lying' so I said this:
Fair enough, maybe you will in time :p
OK, you seriously can't tell ANYBODY AT ALL or I will literally make sure you have to go to Albania and hide in an old ladies cupboard. Don't freak out or anything but it's not a girl. Yeah, I play for the same team as *stereotypically gay kid from our school* if you know what I mean...
It's not anyone I ever speak to thouygh.
Oh go on then since I know you won't tell anybody as long as I don't spill the beans on *his crush* it's *my crush*. This is quite scary but it feels good to get it off my chest, now you know.

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I also am out to my mum, I just straight up told her and she was 'shocked' and also my sister (who is a lesbian) who was 'happy' and 'knew it' :p My closest friends know now, one of them didn't react too well and we're still friends but he's slightly distant now...

[Sean4U]

I just found this site today and have started reading some posts and came to this question. First of all let me say MIKE that was a great way to start this conversation, I really liked it and some really good advise. I have my story, but I will post it at a later date since it could take me a while. So, again I think that everything I've read here applies to me in one way or another. So will post soon and hope you enjoy my sharing as much as I have enjoyed yours.



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Sean | Male | 16

Always open to talking to other guys my age or just plain old questions back and forth. If I'm on send me a message and lets see if we can talk.

[LatinaVivit]

I'm going to try coming out tonight to my mom tonight. Wish me luck....I'm going to need it.

[ImCoolBeans]

I'm going to try coming out tonight to my mom tonight. Wish me luck....I'm going to need it.

Good luck :) Tell us how it goes!

[loganbenson]

Awesome tips!

[Silver Fox]

I just came out today to my mom! Just for some background, we are on holidays right now, so I thought I would tell her when she would be more relaxed here rather than being stressed at work back at home. She was always positive towards gay and lesbian people, and she has a gay friend, so I wasn't worried about getting kicked out or anything.
I was on the balcony talking to my mom, with a voice in the back of my head saying " Tell her." When my heart was beating as fast as it would go I just Blurted out "Mom, I'm Gay!" she responded by saying "So I'm not having any grand kids?" and then went on to say that it was probably a phase, which it isn't and then jokingly said "So, who do you fancy?". She was nice about it, but I think she's gotta go through the five stages, and she started in denial. My dad is a different story, he's very traditional and he's sorta religious, not extremely religious though. I don't think I will be able to tell him for a while, we have a close relationship but he's neither for nor against homosexuality really :/
Just gotta say that before I decided to make an account and join this awesome community the threads and posts really helped me to accept and understand myself and gave me strength to tell my mom!
I wont be telling my school at all because the people in my school are very homophobic, and honestly, I wouldn't gain anything from telling them, unless I had a boyfriend :P

[Cognizant]

Told my mum tonight. I really suck at coming out because I told her right after knowing about her affair :P.
Her response:
thank you sweetie for telling me....I had a feeling about it, but i am glad you told me....i love you all the same you know that.

And we left at that.

[ImCoolBeans]

Told my mum tonight. I really suck at coming out because I told her right after knowing about her affair :P.
Her response:
thank you sweetie for telling me....I had a feeling about it, but i am glad you told me....i love you all the same you know that.

And we left at that.

Really proud of you, man. That's fantastic! Great to hear that she's supportive and accepting too :) You're doing great, it only gets easier from this point on. Congratulations.

[Noirtier]

I came out to my best friend tonight. I was completely terrified and nervous all day, mostly because he is a strong Christian and the last person who I tried to come out to refuses to speak to me anymore, and my mother has shoved me back into the closet before. But, I came out to my best friend tonight. He said he is completely fine with it and he completely supports me and thinks no differently of me and he said that he still loves me the same. Then he hugged me and said he loved me. So, overall, I'm fairly relieved and overjoyed :)

[ImCoolBeans]

I came out to my best friend tonight. I was completely terrified and nervous all day, mostly because he is a strong Christian and the last person who I tried to come out to refuses to speak to me anymore, and my mother has shoved me back into the closet before. But, I came out to my best friend tonight. He said he is completely fine with it and he completely supports me and thinks no differently of me and he said that he still loves me the same. Then he hugged me and said he loved me. So, overall, I'm fairly relieved and overjoyed :)

D'aw, Clint. That made me smile :) Really good job on doing that! It takes a lot of courage to come out to a friend, and I believe it's more difficult to come out to guy friends than it is to girls (from my personal experience that is at least). Proud of you and congratulations.

[hilltop404]

I came out 2 my family, they just said 'whatever' & that was the end of that. They said it's ur decision, & we don't really care who you like.

[Shane.B]

I have been out as Bi to my whole school for a year now, and my mom read my txts online and saw me telling one of my friends that I was Bi..... Well she dosent care I know my grandparents an uncles and aunts will shun me.... Only problem and main reason I don't tell them is that my mom and I live with my grandparents (who don't stop to think of what they will say and flat out say it, an they a re massive homo phobos) so please can some one try to help me? I have a kik its sj3646 plz msage me....

[eRock33]

Ok so my coming out story is almost in three parts. Those are the three main times that I have ever told anybody that I am gay. The first time was via text message to a good friend of mine who I told after she left for college. It was not the best way to do it...at all...we're still cool but we don't talk much anymore. I'm gonna chalk that up to the fact that we go to different schools, not that I came out.

After telling her this, I went through my entire junior and senior years of high school without telling anybody this. I had a few people ask me during my senior year if I was gay but I denied it. While inside I knew that I was, I was not yet ready to accept it so I played straight (a decision that I really regret today).

Past that then was the summer after my senior year of high school. I was in a musical with a community theater and I had a really good relationship with this girl from the show that was our classic showmance. After the show though, things really broke off (another cast mate broke us up) but it was really interesting because I thought I should more upset about it then I was but I sort of shrugged it off and moved on. That is what made me come out to the group of friends that I had made from the musical. All of that went well and I was feeling very good about it...then I went to college.

Now college, in a lot of places can be a very open place about sexuality because a lot of times, college students tend to be more liberal than conservative. However, it doesn't matter how liberal the campus is...I still found it very hard to accept that I was gay. I nearly told a friend of mine in the marching band with me one evening after going out clubbing but I just couldn't do it, the time wasn't right. I continued through my freshman year of college completely in the closet. Nobody at my school had any clue that I was gay or even liked men at all. I had even thought I had found that special girl in a girl that I met at college. We had gone on a couple dates and found that things worked well and we really liked each other. She even drove three hours to see me in the musical that summer....whoops.

On we move to my sophomore year, where life continued on for me. I became an Resident Advisor, changed my major, lived life a little differently but still leading a straight man's life. Somewhere between the start and end of the first semester, I realized that before I could where I wanted to in life, I had to accept who I was as a gay man. However, time moved on through the first semester and I hadn't progressed anywhere in coming out. I had found a couple people who I had wanted to tell but I just couldn't do it.

Anybody who has come out will likely say that they were waiting for the right moment and that it had all happened so fast. Well, that's definitely what happened with me. I sat on the Exec Board for my fraternity my Sophomore year. At exec meetings I would always have my computer with me. Well, one day, I hadn't closed out of the gay porn I had been watching earlier before the other guys on exec saw it while I was away. Now this probably would have devastated me had I known at the time that that had happened. Thankfully, my brothers handled the best way they could have, they acted like nothing had happened.

Time moved on and it was a month and a half before I caught any wind of what the guys had seen. Unfortunately, I found out about it from a couple of brothers who had found out about it from another brother telling them about it. This is what irked me about it. It was my own damn fault it got out in the first place, but that doesn't make it ok to go telling everybody and their mother. But anyway, that evening, the conversation between the three of us (All gay btw) went around until they wound up asking about my sexuality (me not knowing that they both knew). I said yes, I would mess around with a guy (A true accomplishment that I could finally admit it aloud). From there, they told me about how they sort of knew before they asked.

Emotionally, I was a funky place for a little while. I had finally come out, without hesitation, to somebody and it felt great. But I was mad for how my secret got out by people gossiping away other's lives. Then again, I was relieved because simply getting the word out there was what I was terrible at so I would probably still be in the closet had none of it happened.

I progressed through the semester and only really addressed it with the people who already knew or those people I felt comfortable with telling (mainly the 4-5 other gay men in my fraternity.) This got me to a good place. I was able to get help for the coming out process from some of my closest friends and I was able to get closure from the guys who had, essentially outed me.

Slowly but surely I was able to get so comfortable that know I really don't care who at college knows because that who I am. However, when I am home, that is a completely different story.

I do not know when I will be able to tell my parents. I planned on doing it this summer but as I sit here typing this on my last night home before returning to school, I don't think that will happen. It is not that I am afraid of them accepting me because I know they will. I have a family full of fruitflies (If you aren't familiar with the term that a straight person who hangs around gay people a lot). However, I just like the way things are at home right now and I don't want to mess with that. I am sure they will sooner or later, I'm essentially just waiting for the right moment.

Sorry that this is so long but I have enjoyed reminiscing and writing this. But anyway, I just want to leave with some closing thoughts. If you out in any regards, even if it just on here, congrats. So much of the battle is that first you write or say "I'm Gay", even if nobody is listening. I wish I could say it gets easier as you go, but I can't promise that. What I will say is if you go into any venture with coming out with an open mind willing to roll with the flow, it will be easier than trying to control every action and reaction. A lot of people are always waiting for the "Right Moment" which, believe me, do exist. Just know that that "Right Moment" will not be created by you and you will not see it coming. It will happen, you will come out to somebody and it will be over, leaving you almost begging for more as if you only saw the previews at the movie theater. However, if you stick with it and build a good support system of allies there will be nowhere but up.

Thanks if you read this far, it means a lot. If you ever have more questions about specific things or assistance in your life, feel free to throw me a line. I can't say I've been through it all (Yes, still a virgin) but I have been through quite a bit in this past eight months that I can hopefully answer any question you have. Or even if you are just looking for a chat, I'll talk.

Dueces.

[Jupiter]

Congratulations to you, Eric.



Now, here am I. I came out to my friend tonight after she came out to me. I know it isn't much of a story.


But that makes 3!

[Shane.B]

Ok so a slight update for me... I'm right now trying to have my mom tell my grandma, just because if I do it then my grandma will be pissed off, causing me to also get pissed off then causing my to run to my friends house :( ughhh I hate this...

[xDarkAngelx]

I came out to my best friend tonight. I was completely terrified and nervous all day, mostly because he is a strong Christian and the last person who I tried to come out to refuses to speak to me anymore, and my mother has shoved me back into the closet before. But, I came out to my best friend tonight. He said he is completely fine with it and he completely supports me and thinks no differently of me and he said that he still loves me the same. Then he hugged me and said he loved me. So, overall, I'm fairly relieved and overjoyed :)

Congratulations on having the courage to come out to your best friend. I'm so pleased that he took it aswell as he did which must have been a bit relieving for you to tell him that. So well done :). Also sorry that your mother seemed to not want to believe what you told her.

[Gandalf]

D'aw, Clint. That made me smile :) Really good job on doing that! It takes a lot of courage to come out to a friend, and I believe it's more difficult to come out to guy friends than it is to girls (from my personal experience that is at least). Proud of you and congratulations.

I can't find Clint's post :/ so I'm going to quote Mike :P


Yes well put Mike, although can I say, I accidentally came out to a steroetypical male chav last year, and he has treated me no differently to any of his other mates. In fact we're slightly closer now than before... Again WELL DONE CLINT :D

[Jupiter]

like i said, i never have cool coming out stories. But I came out to two people ,that makes 5 people. :)

[AppealToReason]

Well, I came out to two friends this summer. I absolutely suck at words and knew I would embarrass myself if I tried to talk to them, so I tried to get stupid/creative.
I invited my first friend over to my house when my family was gone. This one was simple. I just simply drew a little flip-book of stick figures of my life with the last picture saying "I'm gay" in glitter above two stick figures having stick-sex. <.< We talked afterwards, but the stick figures lightened the mood so it was easier to get my thoughts together.
The second one was much scarier as I was coming out to a boy and was terrified of how he would react. Again, I suck with words, so I tried to get "creative". My closet is still pink from when my mother was living in this room, so I played off that. I wore a pink shirt (stereotypes, yo), covered the closet walls with pictures of dudes and Cher, and put a radio on the floor with my favorite gay songs. So, we had a few drinks and I invited him to my room. I told him to close his eyes, changed into my pink shirt, and literally came out of the closet with Cher blasting in the background. <.< Again, it lightened the mood so the conversation afterwards was much easier. Being slightly drunk may have helped too, but...He was fine with it though.
So there's my two OTT coming out stories. I suppose just sitting them down to talk would be easier, but I think making them laugh relaxes us all a bit. My friends were fine with it so that is a huge relief, but I'm out of ideas on how to come out so the next person I tell will have to be a straight up conversation. That's terrifying to me.

[Haleyzmont]

Mine is pretty easy to follow (bear in mind I go to an all girls school and sixth form);

I didnt come out, I fell out on my face with someone else outing me. That was year 8-9 rumours started and at that time I was just like "yeah whatever, dicks." it later turned out the girl who outed me only did it because she was gay and scared. I then came out properly to Facebook on national coming out day like 3 years ago, it got a load of likes and comments that were supportive, some weren't shocked and I got the "omg you're gay?" comments.

After that the whole school practically knew and those that didn't asked and I'd just tell it straight up (no pun intended). In year 10/11 english we had to do a biography so I chose to write about being gay, ended up getting an A* for it which was weird because my teacher wasn't sure the exam board would accept it as coursework. So that's how most of the teachers found out. Then it was year 11 leaving week and we had our shirts signed and what not and all over mine was " I LOVE YOU, YOU'RE MY ONLY GAY FRIEND" and many other things like that. So my teacher was going to sign my shirt and he saw that and went "why does you shirt have gay all over it?" and the whole class synchronously said "BECAUSE SHE IS GAY" to which he laughed and gave me a hug. My re teacher just ignored it and went "I already knew" in the corridor after lesson. So that's how teachers took it. They're great.

Parents was the hard one, so I did what I do best. That's writing letters. It was 22nd December 2011 and I wrote this letter to my mum and dad which was a very emotional thing for me to do and I was crying as I wrote it. Mainly because I'm Irish and so my family are strict Catholics. I wrote in it how I didn't want to disappoint anyone and that I was so sorry for ruining their whole family plan. I folded it after I finished writing it and left it downstairs next to the computer where I knew dad would read it (my brother did sneaky like). When dad came home from work, it was like 4am and I knew he read it. The next day nothing was said, then on Christmas Eve he went to me "I read your letter by the way" at this point I was shitting myself. He continued with "you're my daughter okay, no matter what you do and what your choices are in life, I will always support you. If you're happy then I'm happy, that's all that matters. You'll always be my little girl and I'll still walk you down the aisle". I was literally drowning in my own tears I was so emotional.

So now everyone that's important to me knows and it's not a big deal, I'm the only lesbian in my year and everyone still loves me. It was hard at the start but everyone was young, now it's great and I can't believe how free I became.

I litteraly cried reading this especially the teacher part. I legittimatly JUST came out to my bestfriend like 5 minutes ago...no reply yet (she the only one who doesnt know yet xD)

Just yesterday i was reading all these posts about coming out and i though wow, how much amazing people there are here. Although i had already came out to all my friends at school there was one person who i didn't tell who deserved to know.

My best friend, alicia, was actually online at facebook at the time and so without 2nd thoughts i started my message to her like this

"i honestly have mutant butterflies in my stomach right now but you're my best friend and you deserve to know."

And so i wrote about 6-10 paragraphs on my iPod telling her that shes so special to me and i was really scared that if i told her it might ruin our relationship. But a few minutes late this is EXACTLY, quote on quote, what she sent back.

"aww Haley, i don't care! Even i you were attracted to aliens i wouldn't care! You're my best friend and nothing you can say or do will change that, unless you kill someone....that would just be horrible, anyhoo.... I know this was really hard for you to tell me and i have to thank you for doing so. You will always be my best buddy!"

I was crying! I was so happy that my best friend was so supportive! I have very little doubts she wouldnt be but i was still scared.

And i thank you guys for giving me the idea to start off along the lines of "you're my best friend and you deserve to know this" that helped me so much and i came to realise that the hardest thing when telling a person your gay, lesbian, bi etc. Is how to start it off.

Again thank you guys. Now for my parents :/ but ill wait to see if they change their feeling toward gays :(.

Posts merged ~ Mike/ImCoolBeans

[ImCoolBeans]

I litteraly cried reading this especially the teacher part. I legittimatly JUST came out to my bestfriend like 5 minutes ago...no reply yet (she the only one who doesnt know yet xD)

Just yesterday i was reading all these posts about coming out and i though wow, how much amazing people there are here. Although i had already came out to all my friends at school there was one person who i didn't tell who deserved to know.

My best friend, alicia, was actually online at facebook at the time and so without 2nd thoughts i started my message to her like this

"i honestly have mutant butterflies in my stomach right now but you're my best friend and you deserve to know."

And so i wrote about 6-10 paragraphs on my iPod telling her that shes so special to me and i was really scared that if i told her it might ruin our relationship. But a few minutes late this is EXACTLY, quote on quote, what she sent back.

"aww Haley, i don't care! Even i you were attracted to aliens i wouldn't care! You're my best friend and nothing you can say or do will change that, unless you kill someone....that would just be horrible, anyhoo.... I know this was really hard for you to tell me and i have to thank you for doing so. You will always be my best buddy!"

I was crying! I was so happy that my best friend was so supportive! I have very little doubts she wouldnt be but i was still scared.

And i thank you guys for giving me the idea to start off along the lines of "you're my best friend and you deserve to know this" that helped me so much and i came to realise that the hardest thing when telling a person your gay, lesbian, bi etc. Is how to start it off.

Again thank you guys. Now for my parents :/ but ill wait to see if they change their feeling toward gays :(.

Posts merged ~ Mike/ImCoolBeans

Great job! :) It certainly is not an easy thing to do and it takes a lot of courage and self acceptance to get to that point - you are very brave to actually go through with telling her. You don't need to rush into telling your parents; but if you feel like you are ready, then by all means :) I wish you the best of luck with coming out to them.

[Haleyzmont]

Thank you :)

[Abigballofdust]

Told a friend of mine yesterday ^^.
We were both drunk as fuck, so I don't really remember all the details. I know there were many hugs and she said she was completely cool and will always support me. And that I'm the last person she thought may be gay. I'm so nervous today and happy and hungover. So don't drink kids.
This was my aim for this summer, telling at least one person. I only had to find the one that would accept me. I was preparing the terrain for the past 2 years, chosing and getting disappointed in nearly everybody around me.
This sounds so selfish, doesn't it? :p
Thank you for your time, I'mma head back to my water now.

[TigerBoy]

Ok so I'm in English as I start this so I guess a little story is ok hehe ...

Sister ...
I just said something that accidently outed me to my (much older) sister when I was 13 along the lines of saying some boy actor (idk who it was) looked cute in the magazine she was reading. She's pretty quick and casually just asked if there was anyone as cute as him at school. My mouth just rambled on and it was only later I realised I'd been saying 'so and so has a cute bum' and stuff like that.

A few days later when I next saw her (she lives with her boyfriend) she wasn't going to let it drop and asked me right out if I'd seen any cute boys around lately, like teasing. So I just said 'maybe' and she just said cool, and I don't think I've ever said to her 'i'm gay' because its pretty damn obvious lol.

Parents ...
I wanted to tell my parents because I was kind of thinking my sister was going to say something (occidentally let it out). I have a gay uncle (mums bro, who back then I didn't really speak to much which could have helped) and I thought they'd take it ok. For weeks I suppose I sat watching tv wanting to say something, but actually I just ended up saying something when we were out walking (dad is mad on birdwatching). Dad pretended like he wasn't listening so mum did all the talking, and said they'd guess I was because of my bedroom theme (lots of 1D posters and other cuteness, no footballers or girls hehe).
Dad remains a bit of a problem, I may post about this another time but other than the time we had to deal with some school stuff (which mum probably dragged him into anyway) I don't get any support over my sexuality, and get put down a fair bit. Nothing huge, just continuous.

Best friend ...
The hardest one for me was telling my best friend. I've known him all my life, I'm not attracted to him he's a rufty tufty rugby boy. So I was scared he might be stereotypical macho reaction. Eventually I blurted it out (too many times of him trying to get me to make comments about straight porn probably). He was totally fine, got a bit sappy even.

School ...
So I told someone at school with a big mouth and they took care of the rest. Wasn't my plan, but I hadn't said to keep it a secret. I think they used it to get attention for themselves. Had some shit from some people but totally predictable who it was, but everyones known about me for 3 years now and I can just be myself. I did have some issues with one teacher but we got that sorted. I definitely recommend you know what your schools bullying/equality policies are. They should be written down and available to pupils and parents. The issue I had was resolved by me and my parents (who work at the school, so very awkward for them) raising it with the headmaster. What happened was against the schools policies about how everyone should behave to each other (including staff) so I actually got a very sincere apology from the person concerned which meant a lot for my confidence.
I'm also out with my boyfriend now so we draw a few more looks maybe but so far, so good.

Society ...
We've been in town and parks holding hands and cuddling without any huge issues. We were fairly discreet because we hadn't decided whether to be out at school at that point.
Well I better say I did have one bad experience this summer with a guy shouting abuse at me and my boyfriend outside his house (we were holding hands, literally thats all because we were pushing bikes with the other hand). I'll just say we expressed our feelings about him in a suitably immature way a few nights later. Some shops wont sell kids eggs if that's all you are buying, who knew? If I knew some other gay couples I'd love to have a big gay kissing session oustide his house one day lol.

I think everyone's situation is different, so I hope that helps someone.

[josh93]

I ve really been thinking about comeing out to some of my freinds at school.

[Antagonist]

This will actually be a year old for me, but what ever.

From early August of last year, I was just so out of place. I had major feelings for this straight dude I knew... Like I was HEAD over HEELS in love with this guy. So I confided in friends that knew I was bi/gay or whatever and they were like "awwwwwww" or "ewwww he isn't hot at all." But he was and still is PERFECT. Wavy/curly blonde hair, blue eyes, a little tan, about 5'5", sexy country accent, a bit chubby. Perfection.

So I decided to tell this 7th grader that I started to become great friends with, and she was actually friends with him.

Well, on September 21st, before a high school football game, her, him, and their friends went to this restaurant in my town and ate. Well... She told everybody there that I liked guys, that I liked Tripp, that I thought that one of the dudes there had a nice ass, and that I stared at another one there in the locker room (which is false, I never even had gym with them).

So yeah. Then I finally had the balls to write a letter to my dad... I explained and everything. And he woke me up and told me to come outside, where mama was sitting on the steps. He confronted me. Made me feel TERRIBLE.

Next day, he made me go with him on this get in the truck and go type of thing that we do sometimes.

He said, "You broke our hearts."

Later he said he would love me regardless and all that shiz.

Then, I started getting major feelings for this girl named Jill, so I asked her out. It confused my parents, but I just. GOD she was so amazing. And we're still best friends today, so yeah.

Now I don't know what my parents think I am. ._.

[SnowyFox]

I was outed by a half-friend to my entire school. It was messy and upsetting, but worked out well in the end.

I was in the process of coming out to very few friends, and everyone was extremely supportive, until I hear a rumour that someone had been going around telling people that I was gay. I confronted her (the friend) and she denied it, saying it had no substance.

That weekend there was a party, and many attendees kept on asking me if I was alright, if I was fine, and I was confused. Did they know something I didn't? There was no reason for me to be upset. The girl that supposedly told people was at the party, so I again confronted her, telling her that I didn't know if the rumour had any substance, but if it did, she needed to tell me now.
"I wouldn't do that to you" was the response. Well...

She was lying BIG TIME: by the time I had found out that she had told people, news that I was gay had spread through the entire school: my grade (Year 10), through Year 11, through Year 12, and then the teachers found out. I managed to make sure that my parents didn't find out, as I wanted to tell them and a suitable time hadn't arisen. Unfortunately, a week later, Year 9 found out, and then Year 8.

My little sister is in year 8, and I hadn't told any of my family. It was hard, but they took it well when my sister blabbed that afternoon.

[ImCoolBeans]

I was outed by a half-friend to my entire school. It was messy and upsetting, but worked out well in the end.

I was in the process of coming out to very few friends, and everyone was extremely supportive, until I hear a rumour that someone had been going around telling people that I was gay. I confronted her (the friend) and she denied it, saying it had no substance.

That weekend there was a party, and many attendees kept on asking me if I was alright, if I was fine, and I was confused. Did they know something I didn't? There was no reason for me to be upset. The girl that supposedly told people was at the party, so I again confronted her, telling her that I didn't know if the rumour had any substance, but if it did, she needed to tell me now.
"I wouldn't do that to you" was the response. Well...

She was lying BIG TIME: by the time I had found out that she had told people, news that I was gay had spread through the entire school: my grade (Year 10), through Year 11, through Year 12, and then the teachers found out. I managed to make sure that my parents didn't find out, as I wanted to tell them and a suitable time hadn't arisen. Unfortunately, a week later, Year 9 found out, and then Year 8.

My little sister is in year 8, and I hadn't told any of my family. It was hard, but they took it well when my sister blabbed that afternoon.

I'm sorry that the process had to happen that way - as I'm sure you would have rather done it on your own and at your own pace - but I'm glad that it all worked out well in the end and that you parents took it well :)

I'm going to finish coming out soon. I've told about 10 friends - I'm sure (at least) one or two of them have told a few people - both of my parents, one of my brothers and three or four coworkers of mine. I'd like to be totally public before Christmas time... We'll see how it goes :P

[mickeyhang10]

Ok so I'm lesbian I had not come out yet I'm. So flippen scared I told my crush or bff and that's all my parents are vary relges so I'm scared

[Magnus Bane]

When i came out it was a disaster never ever tell your brothers and sisters and, Never tell your friends unless you can trust them.because......

1) they will probably tell everyone
2) you make yourself more vulnerable
3) you don't have control of who they tell
4) finally you will have to deal with it the rest of the time you are in school unless you move



Thats what i did :(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(

[RCT109]

when i came out as BI
i told a few people
one person i told was actually a friend of my moms who i became friends with
he has been there for me with all of it
when my mom makes a gay joke he'll look at me to see if i took it offensive and if i did he'll tell her to cool it
but im never telling my mom

[Midland]

August 3, 2012.

I came out to three people in three consecutive nights: first my mother, then my brother and finally my step-father. All three went well but I think they will be the only times I will come out; nobody needs an explanation for me to be myself. When I realised I was gay, I committed to not denying myself personally or to another person. If people work it out, thats fine. If people ask me, that is too, but I'm not going to go out and announce it to the world.

To people that are yet to come out or are still considering whether they want to: the two words that I said, "I'm gay", were the hardest words I've ever had to say, but they were worth it. I really feel like I can be myself now, even around people that I haven't told and it definitely helped to strengthen some of my relationships.

[ImCoolBeans]

I came out to three more friends and my boss (kind of an accident, but it worked out well) this week. So now I'm out to most of my closer friends, both of my parents, one of my brothers, my boss and even some people that I'm not extremely close with. I guess there are just one or two more people I should tell before I completely come out - so I think I'll do that soon. I had said that I wanted to do this sometime before Christmas this year - looks like that may be a reality :P I'd like to tell one of my best guy friends but I'm kind of nervous about doing it. I don't know how he'll react since he's fairly religious and doesn't really talk about his views on homosexuality much; but either way he's somebody that I think should know soon.

[Jupiter]

awesome mikey! :)

[Breakeven]

I came out to three more friends and my boss (kind of an accident, but it worked out well) this week. So now I'm out to most of my closer friends, both of my parents, one of my brothers, my boss and even some people that I'm not extremely close with. I guess there are just one or two more people I should tell before I completely come out - so I think I'll do that soon. I had said that I wanted to do this sometime before Christmas this year - looks like that may be a reality :P I'd like to tell one of my best guy friends but I'm kind of nervous about doing it. I don't know how he'll react since he's fairly religious and doesn't really talk about his views on homosexuality much; but either way he's somebody that I think should know soon.
thats awesome mikey :hug: and best of luck on telling your best guy friend :yes:

[Antagonist]

-Update on my shiz-

I am officially out as gay to everyone at my school, and my parents. I have only gotten one rude comment from someone from school, but this one girl still flirts with me. I guess I'm irresistible ;D

Everything's been going great. I haven't lost any friends. However, the guy that I used to like has become more of a hazard to me, since everyone knows he was my first guy crush. But everything's great. c:

[ImCoolBeans]

-Update on my shiz-

I am officially out as gay to everyone at my school, and my parents. I have only gotten one rude comment from someone from school, but this one girl still flirts with me. I guess I'm irresistible ;D

Everything's been going great. I haven't lost any friends. However, the guy that I used to like has become more of a hazard to me, since everyone knows he was my first guy crush. But everything's great. c:

I'm really happy for you :) That is so great to hear. I hope everything continues to go well for you!

I'll be coming out to my whole school and the rest of my family very soon. I came out to two of my best guy friends last night and it went very well with both of them, very supportive. As of now I am out to 12 of my friends, my boss, one of my three brothers and both of my parents.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

I told three people in Jr. High, and everyone else (starting with about 4 more) about three weeks ago.

Parents, though, not yet. Im trying not to tell them yet, I know my grandma would have even more issues with me, my dad might change his attitude towards me slightly.

[MattT]

When I graduated 8th grade all of my whole class (13 of us ) thought I was straight ,and we used to joke around (the 7 guys) and say to one another "guess what , I'm a homophobe" and every time they did I hated my self more and more. I tried dropping hints but, Since we went to the same school for nine years (at that time) that they thought I was straight ,and I was the OG of my Theology class ( and still am)& we were in a Catholic School. After graduation my friend Sara had a movie party at her house, and I'm like " I'm going to tell some of them" ( a guy named Logan I liked) but I only ended up telling 3 people. I told two more over text and I finally mustered up the strength to tell my best friend, Grant, and he was very inquisitory and ended saying " that took a lot of guys to tell me" and than he wouldn't talk to me for a month. It was a month on my birthday. I was so upset I drank myself into lower depression. I can only get three small-phrase texts out if him before he stops replying. And what makes it horrible is that his brother is my Confirmation Sponsor. As of now only 9 of the people my old class know. It is so sad that kids in my high school are much more accepting than my old class. Just do you know , suicide is not the answer. I just wish I could either not be bi or just not told have anybody . No matter what if any of them need ANYTHING I will always be there for them .
Too bad you will never see this, grant, Logan , Michael, Joseph, Matthew Hart, Damien, Sara,Kaycie, Bimpe, Nelllie , Chelsea , Mary, and Meli.

[LunaHermione]

I first thought I was bisexual and I told my family when I was in the hospital after a suicide attempt. I then later realised I was infact a lesbian and I came out to all my friends and people I knew on Facebook but I hid it from my family. Everyone was fine with it so that was good I suppose but I think my family still think I'm bisexual and I think they're glad that if I'm bisexual at least I could still be with a guy so I don't think they'd be too happy if I told them the truth. Like they'd probably accept me and be like 'Oh, that's fine' but I just know I'd see a look of dissapointment in their eyes and I just can't do that. I dissapoint everyone i ever meet. I guess me being a lesbian is a huge part as to why I'm suicidal...

[ReginaGeorge]

I first thought I was gay, after debating bisexual, about a month before I turned 16, which was about 9 months ago. Then after a couple more months I decided to just go with the flow and not name it. Bottom line: girls plz

Anyway, first person I told was my best friend, who lives on the other side of the world, so it was online and easy, I don't even remember how I told her tbh. I probably should. :P I don't know how much time was in between, but I told a bisexual friend next. Also online, I rarely saw him in person. Both were cool.

The next person I told was someone who I saw everyday, so it was a step-up. I tried to tell her subtly through text, and she didn't understand. It started with "I'm an "Ellen DeGeneres", and ended with "I'M A FLAMING HOMO". The next day when we were alone, I brought it up because she didn't. I had to say it out loud, so I did, but it was harder and easier than I thought it would be. "I'm an Ellen DeGeneres". :P I think that was good for the first time saying it. She was cool with it.

Next was just this kid I sort of knew who was trying his hardest to be an LGBT ally, but since he went to a catholic school, he knew barely no LGBT kids, probably because they were all in the closet. One night he just posted "Like if you're a part of the LGBT community", so I just did. I don't really know why.

Next was a friend who I told his straight to his face, and he was like "Oh, I know". I was like ".. wait what", "I saw it on Tumblr once and I was like 'oh, you're gay, okay', keeps scrolling". He was cool with it, but I was kind of hurt that he didn't seem to care. At the time, he was like my closest bud. I'm pretty sure his sister knows as well because she followed me at the time too. Oops. Oh well.

With a few months in between, I told two more friends. I was going to tell them separately in person, but one overheard when I was telling the other. At first, the girl I actually told just laughed and didn't believe me because my whole social group and I had an inside joke pretending I was a lesbian, I don't even know how. It started when I thought I was straight. Both of those friends were cool, they told me they weren't actually surprised, haha.

That's it for now. 7 people. No family, although the only person I think I would have a problem with is my step-dad, but I honestly don't like him and his opinion doesn't matter to me. If he doesn't like it, it will be his problem then. :)

*edit* Oh, and my Health teacher. I'm doing a project on an LGBT issue, and when I showed him the question, I asked him not to read it out loud. He waited for everyone to leave before we talked about it. One of the options was to interview someone, and he told me he knew two females in a relationship who he could get to talk to me if I wanted. I think he just connected the dots, and he was cool. It made me feel good because I could have just come out to a homophobe, like my homegroup teacher who thinks homosexuality is a disease.

[TigerBoy]

Bottom line: girls plz

Haha. Very amusingly written and I'm sure your example will help a lot of people :)

As for your home ec teacher - the UK and US professional bodies of psychology say it is not a disease or aberration. I'd check your facts on Aus and if she says anything either just politely "point out" that the experts disagree, or take it to a senior member of staff. I had something similar here in the UK but I did get an apology out of the teacher after my parents took it up with the head. Whatever you do, good luck with that and :hug:

[Mathew0606]

I was so angry all the time whenever I was around my bf Brian of course that was before we dated. Everyday felt like a war and one day I just couldn't fight who I was any more. I was too tired the stress of being an everyday teen was hard enough this made life impossible.

Finally I had no choice but to come out and everyone was fine with it.

[Antagonist]

I'm really happy for you :) That is so great to hear. I hope everything continues to go well for you!

I'll be coming out to my whole school and the rest of my family very soon. I came out to two of my best guy friends last night and it went very well with both of them, very supportive. As of now I am out to 12 of my friends, my boss, one of my three brothers and both of my parents.

That's great :3

[ReginaGeorge]

Well, I just told my dad I was bi..at the worst possible time ever.
I told at 4:10 AM.. He was half asleep but I just wanted to let him know.

It started a bit ago when I was stressing out about almost telling him but not. Then my heart started to hurt, so I went to ask him about it.. I went into his bedroom and he said I was fine. Then I started blabbing on about stress, and then I said "Dad, I'm bisexual. Sorry for telling you right now, but I just wanted to let you know why my heart is achy." he just said its okay, and I hugged him and let him go back to bed.
I'm a little worried about what he'll say in the morning, idk.

My heart is still achy though :P

Well done, man. Well done. *hug icon that i don't know the code for*

[ReginaGeorge]

I came out to my Mum.

While we were food shopping, we just talking ‘bout stuff, I figured, well, why not? So, we were half way through the shop and I told myself I’d do it in the last aisle. It’s usually empty. It’s just dog food and toilet paper. When we started walking down the last aisle, I started getting nervous, and I was like “why am I getting- oh yeah”, I forgot and my body reminded me.

Mum: “Well, I think we’re done!”
Me: “Mum..”
Mum: “Whadda want?”
Me: “To tell you something.”
Mum: “Tell me what?”
Me: “.. can you turn around?”
Mum: *faces the other way*
Me: “Mum.. I like girls.”
Mum: “I know.”
Me: “What?”
Mum:“I had a feeling. It’s okay. I don’t care what you like. I still love you."
Me: “Why, because I’ve never had a boyfriend?”
Mum: “All your girlfriends on Facebook are gay. I sussed them out.”
Me: “I only have one gay friend on Facebook..”
blah blah blah something about when she knew. *in the car now*
Me: “I’ve only known since like, a month before our* birthday.”
Mum: “Oh.. Well, I’ve known longer than you then!……What made you think so?”
Me: "Girls are hot."
Mum: “Yes we are.”
Me: “I always thought girls were pretty, then I thought it more and more and was like ‘hang on, am I supposed to like girls this much?’ and yeah.
Mum: “Were you worried about telling me?”
Me: “…Not really, I thought you’d be pretty cool with it. The only people I’m “worried” about are (step-dad) and (mildly religious/conservative aunt)”.
Mum: “(step-dad) won’t care.”
Me: “He freaked out when he thought (his son) was bi.”
Mum: “It’s like a manly (pride/ego) father-son thing. (Aunt) will be cooler with it than you think. Grandad might have a few words to say about it, and Nanny won’t remember (dementia), but nobody really cares these days. Except homophobic (something negative). (Mum’s sister)’s best friend was gay..”
*Story about Mum’s sister’s best friend.”

This is kind of out of order, the “why did you think” came after “were you worried about telling me”, but I’m lazy. Just getting it all down is top priority.

I felt slightly bad after I told her, I thought I’d feel really good, but not. It’s worn off now and everything is normal. She might ask more questions another day. I’m glad it’s in the open.

I also told my sister who was dying her hair because Mum was bound to ask her about it.

Me: "Oh.. and I like girls bye." And that was that.

[Cognizant]

Well done, man. Well done. *hug icon that i don't know the code for*

I came out to my Mum.

While we were food shopping, we just talking ‘bout stuff, I figured, well, why not? So, we were half way through the shop and I told myself I’d do it in the last aisle. It’s usually empty. It’s just dog food and toilet paper. When we started walking down the last aisle, I started getting nervous, and I was like “why am I getting- oh yeah”, I forgot and my body reminded me.

Mum: “Well, I think we’re done!”
Me: “Mum..”
Mum: “Whadda want?”
Me: “To tell you something.”
Mum: “Tell me what?”
Me: “.. can you turn around?”
Mum: *faces the other way*
Me: “Mum.. I like girls.”
Mum: “I know.”
Me: “What?”
Mum:“I had a feeling. It’s okay. I don’t care what you like. I still love you."
Me: “Why, because I’ve never had a boyfriend?”
Mum: “All your girlfriends on Facebook are gay. I sussed them out.”
Me: “I only have one gay friend on Facebook..”
blah blah blah something about when she knew. *in the car now*
Me: “I’ve only known since like, a month before our* birthday.”
Mum: “Oh.. Well, I’ve known longer than you then!……What made you think so?”
Me: "Girls are hot."
Mum: “Yes we are.”
Me: “I always thought girls were pretty, then I thought it more and more and was like ‘hang on, am I supposed to like girls this much?’ and yeah.
Mum: “Were you worried about telling me?”
Me: “…Not really, I thought you’d be pretty cool with it. The only people I’m “worried” about are (step-dad) and (mildly religious/conservative aunt)”.
Mum: “(step-dad) won’t care.”
Me: “He freaked out when he thought (his son) was bi.”
Mum: “It’s like a manly (pride/ego) father-son thing. (Aunt) will be cooler with it than you think. Grandad might have a few words to say about it, and Nanny won’t remember (dementia), but nobody really cares these days. Except homophobic (something negative). (Mum’s sister)’s best friend was gay..”
*Story about Mum’s sister’s best friend.”

This is kind of out of order, the “why did you think” came after “were you worried about telling me”, but I’m lazy. Just getting it all down is top priority.

I felt slightly bad after I told her, I thought I’d feel really good, but not. It’s worn off now and everything is normal. She might ask more questions another day. I’m glad it’s in the open.

I also told my sister who was dying her hair because Mum was bound to ask her about it.

Me: "Oh.. and I like girls bye." And that was that.

Thanks, and congratulations yourself :)

(P.S- the hug emote is : hug: without the space :D)

[ReginaGeorge]

(P.S- the hug emote is : hug: without the space :D)

:hug: :D

[Electra Heart]

I don't really have a story, but I'm pretty much out at school :P If someone asks I'll tell them, but obviously not EVERYONE knows.

[Steven_123]

So after about a year of knowing I was gay and having my gay friends tell me I should tell my parents about it at least. I finally gathered the courage to tell everyone I was gay.

I told all my friends I was gay during school today, and only one person had a problem with it, but he isn't my friend so it didn't matter to me.
Everyone was great, I was feeling good. One of the best days I had ever had at school. All my friends where hugging me and telling me all kinds of supportive things. Then, as usual, they asked if my parents knew. They didn't, but I told my friends I was hoping to tell them today or tomorrow.

When my mom came to pick me up, we talked for a bit about Christmas and such. Then I said "Um... I love you" She laughed and said I love you too. Then "I'm gay." She stopped right there and just stared at me, fortunately we where in the car so she had to look away. She asked me if I was joking, and I said no. She then threw a million and a half questions at me asking "Are you sure? How do you know? When did you find out? Why? Really?" I didn't have answeres for any of them because I wasn't expecting my mom to question me.

She has always been the loving, caring, nice, respectful parent. My dad has too, just at a lower level. You know how moms are. I figured she wouldn't have a problem with it and would just go on with her life and accept me for who I was. Thinking she would support me, help me, and such. No. She questioned me, got out of the car to buy a pop, and didn't talk about it the entire way home. She changed the subject and left it at that.

My Dad, I swear to god he is homophobic. So I knew he would be harder to tell. I was sure I was going to tell him tonight, after my mom, but now... I don't know. I'm scared honestly. One day he called me a fag (as usual), so I asked him "What if I really was gay?" He said "I would disown you." Thanks, It means a lot knowing that.

I know I can't tell my grandfather because he grew up in a time when gay men was hugely frowned upon.

That's about it to my story. I don't write this for people to comment on, read, like, give me rep, or anything of that sort. I write it because I need to vent and tell people my feelings. You can post a bunch of frowny faces if you wish.
But, Thank you for reading. It makes me feel better knowing someone out there, whether it be a person from Pluto to my neighbor, knows my feelings.

[alexkun]

thanks for sharing these stories, i really appreciate it, but for me is a little different, i cant come out to my family, they would reject me for being who i am. the only thing i can do is wait until im ready to leave my house and start my life somewhere they cant see me.. somewhere i can have a new life, the life i've always wanted. i think i'll move to the east coast.. or london.. i like london.. does anybody have a job and a place to stay for me :P

.. i dont believe in suicide, i think there's always a way out.. theres always a solution, death is the cowards way out.. its true that certain people are weak minded.. but that's why we have people around us, to lean on them and ask for help.. no matter where you are... there will always be someone around you that can help you..

in my case it was my cousin, i opened to him, and we still are the best friends.. he is the one that gives me the strength to go on, he makes me so happy :)

[Jupiter]

i came out to someone else today. it's getting really easy. :) i have faith that she will keep it a secret. 10+ people know in real life.

[ImCoolBeans]

i came out to someone else today. it's getting really easy. :) i have faith that she will keep it a secret. 10+ people know in real life.

That is awesome, Eric. I'm glad to hear that things are working out for you and that you're happy about it. Once it starts getting easier to tell people, like it has for you, it's generally smooth sailing from there. Congratulations on coming out to important people in your life. Every step counts and those are especially big ones.

[RCT109]

hey guys is there a good way to come out to a semi-homophobic mother about being bi?

[Electra Heart]

Came out on FB woo :P

[teen.jpg]

I told a close friend, and am currently working on having the confidence to be out forever.

[Skyline]

I just came out to 3 of my closest friends. 2 of them were more than happy that they knew the truth. The other sadly didn't see eye to eye with me. He said that gays make him feel uncomfortable and that he thinks it would be best if I don't talk to him again. I guess that losing a friend is the chance you take when you come out :(

[TigerBoy]

I just came out to 3 of my closest friends. 2 of them were more than happy that they knew the truth. The other sadly didn't see eye to eye with me. He said that gays make him feel uncomfortable and that he thinks it would be best if I don't talk to him again. I guess that losing a friend is the chance you take when you come out :(

Congrats! And its great you have some true friends who are supporting you :) Sorry to hear about the one person, but at least being out you don't have to keep quiet about the put downs that you hear hanging around type of person.

[dan8854]

Well done mate!

[RecklessBoy]

I'm not out and I think I won't ever come out since I just found out my dad is a homophobic so that makes it harder. I don't know what I'm gonna do with my life now lol

[MrOperator]

The coming out process is long, and mine was no exception. Reality is that you will move to new places and meet new people there. Every time you do so you will eventually feel the need to come out to the new folks you spend your time with. So I'll explain my story, which is nice to get out there. The first person I came out to was actually my girlfriend. I was in eighth grade and had been seeing this girl for a few months I guess. I had this friend though and I told my girlfriend that I thought I might like him. She didn't take it too well; I mean I didn't have the knowledge or the courage at the time to come out and say "I'm gay." and looking back she deserved that from me. Probably still deserves it in fact. It must have been tough from her perspective to break it off with someone you really but whom you know you couldn't keep content. I mean why would she think she could make me happy if in the first few months of our relationship I was saying I wasn't really fulfilled. It took me a long time to realize that. So I messed that relationship up and then I told the friend I liked that I like him and he pretended to go along but then didn't talk to me for a year and the next time we spoke he said he was just kidding and he was sorry. That one took a chunk out. So then I just went along for a few years and avoided getting close to people and just avoiding the whole problem of my sexuality in general. I did however tell my mother and father within a few months of having these feelings and my mom ignored the topic and my dad attempted to convince me that it was a phase. So I never really progressed in my confidence about it but I told some people that I was gay over the years.

Well eventually I found myself in almost the same situation where I was attracted to a friend who didn't feel the same. At this point I decided to stop being so indecisive about my sexuality and admit to myself that I only ever have these feelings about guys. So after a couple of days of intense brooding
I made a big post on my facebook wall about how I was gay. It went over pretty well. My parents were supportive and so was a lot of really important people in my life. Then again there are some people who I feel like they must have seen the post but are pretending they didn't. Unless it's someone I feel should really know then I just play along. I mean ultimately it is MY sexuality and not really of great consequence to most people in society. The whole ordeal was for me more than for anyone else. And I think that's something you all should keep in mind. If you can't do it for your parents or your friends you should ask yourself if you can do it for yourself. Until you do there will be a constant feeling of shame from keeping this fact from those you care about.

Until I did come out finally I told everyone that I was bi. And this gets into a lot of complicated stuff that is really just too much for me. I spent those five years thinking about this on a very regular basis. I went through a time where I labelled myself pansexual as well. And honestly that is true to an extent but the fact of the matter is that is a label that serves the purposes of sexuality only. And I am more than just a sexual being. Sex in general is something that is exciting for me simply because sex is supposed to be that way. I like seeing people feeling those intense pangs of pleasure. I can't say animals are terribly exciting simply because I can't interpret their feelings.

But I digress. What matters to me is love. And because I simply cannot detach love from sex, I cannot label myself pansexual. I just cannot both love and find a woman sexually attractive. Women are a foreign and scary thing to me. I break the stereotype of a gay guy hanging out with girls a lot. I mean I don't have that much in common with girls aside from finding men attractive. On the off chance that I find a girl sexually attractive, I find being around them so revolting that I couldn't bring myself to have sex with them. And on the off chance that I find a girl I love I don't find them at all sexually attractive. And who says this isn't the problem with all people? I don't know, maybe straight people feel the same way. But in any case I know I am not straight. And I just don't want to have sex with girls. And I want to be gay. So I'm gay. I sure hope no one else has this much trouble with their sexuality.

[Skyline]

Well, I just came out to my absolute best friend in the world. We have known each other for abut 8 years, and it looks like that's where it will stay. We were talking on the phone when the subject of being gay came up, so I got up the courage to tell him I was gay. For a little while he didn't say anything, then the only thing he could say is, "Wow, umm, I wasn't expecting that." At first I couldn't tell if he was okay with it or what, so I simply asked him if we were still okay. His answer, "No, we're not, I can't be friends with a gay guy. Do you know how much that would hurt my reputation." Then he hung up... I guess that coming put is the best way to find out who your real friends are...

[Dimentio]

Well i knew i was gay at like 12, First time i told someone was late 15/early 16, So it is a long process but some things i regret doing, Saying it on the internet and my mum knew by me just being obviously gay apparently XD But yeah she was asking me and all i did was mumble and moan to her questions, All i wanna do is go back in time and tell her before she knows fully and tell her in a good way! So yeah, Do not rush it what so ever as you will know when the time is right or others will know by then but yeah, It normally is good to tell people in person and make sure you try to not regret it, I hope you all have luck with coming out :)

[Destinyforce]

Hopefully I'll be able to add something in this section soon...but coming out will be hard...since I'm with ROTC...xD. We'll see

[Oscar]

I've only recently come out because I was real scared about it, in the end I had sleepless nights for nothing, I got about 3 nasty comments out of like 50 people? It's weird how little people really care, despite thinking everyone does.

[Lovelife090994]

Good tips but what if it's your friend and they came out to come on to you but you don't want to be mean and rude?

[Destinyforce]

Good tips but what if it's your friend and they came out to come on to you but you don't want to be mean and rude?
Well...Just tell him/her about how you feel. And look, everyone else would say to do that, but quite frankly, only a small percent who say it will do it, but I'd advise you to just say you are not interested in the same sex, it's not built in your brain like an individual that is homosexual. It just isn't you.

[matshorter]

I've already had my coming out last year, shortly after I slept the first time with my boyfriend. He was at my house and when he left, we kissed each other. My mom saw us but was decent enough, not to disturb us. After dinner we sat together with the whole family and she asked me, if I had something to tell. I honestly didn't know what she meant until she said that she saw us. So I told them about my sexuality, my feelings for my boyfriend and that we considered us as a couple. I was a bit overwhelmed when they said it is my decision and they accept me as I am.
So, I had a very good familiar coming out :).

[ItsJustJack]

Wow some of you are so lucky I wish I could do what you did and the outcome could be as good as yours. I know I I could never do what some of you did because a joke that became a rumour about me spread to about 10 people in my year and they all make homophobic jokes 24/7. And even though I am bi it was only and it led to this I mean what would be to happen if I came out to everyone.

[Michael702]

The past few weeks ive been trying to build up courage to tell my parents cause my relationship is falling apart because of me lying to them about my boyfriend hopefully I come out in the next few weeks so i can come back and tell you my story :)

[ThatGayishKidFrom98]

Well....I'm going to tell my story. I had always felt something for boys. More than "friends" you could say. Well my brother had a friend, and his friend had a brother. My brother's friend's brother was 13, my brother's friend was 8, my brother was 8, and I was 11. Every time we went to their house (Our moms are great friends) We would go into their room at lock the door. I'm going to call everybody by their names, it will speed up this part of the story. My brother (8) is named Anthony, and his friend (8) is named Monty, while his brother (13) is named Tyron. Well one day I asked Tyron if he wanted to "Stick his 'PP' up my 'butt'. He claims he is straight. He got a really excited look on his face and he ate out my ass and I sucked his Penis for Lube. His Penis is around 6". He put it up to my ass (I have a large build...I always have, and with puberty starting, I'm 5'7". He put his penis into my ass....All I can say about that was wow. I knew what cum was, and said he could cum if he wanted. We had sex for about 10 minutes. When he came, we cuddled for about an hour or two...Anthony and Monty aren't here. My ass was full of cum. I kept it tight because he said to. After we got done cuddling, he said to open up my 'butt' for him. He ate me out again. It felt like he was sucking it out, but I still don't know to this day. When he was done, we made out. He had already had his first kiss. I hadn't. His lips were something else....Perfect. It was like a radiance of him spreading throughout my body. I loved it. He said he hadn't kissed someone like me, and said I was the best kisser he had ever kissed... I felt proud. :wub::wub::wub::wub::wub:

Now I'm fast forwarding to Summer of 2012. I'm 13, and I'm closeted. I really felt like it was the perfect time to come out. Well I got introduced to Kik. I had typed in "Gay kik usernames" on my Galaxy S. I got an insane amount of names. I had gotten a boyfriend from Texas. His Penis looked huge. Maybe 8"...He was Latino. We had video chatted, Kiked, had ooVoo sex...all of it. He made me feel really confident to come out. My family is split down the middle in Politics. My dad's side is 100% Democrats. My mom's side, not including my mom, is 100% Republican. I knew the first person I had to tell was my best friend Eva. I didn't come out as Gay (I still haven't) but as Bisexual. She accepted me. I had forwarded a 10 paragraph text message to everyone on my contacts list who wasn't family. They all accepted me. I was crying from tears of joy. The next person I would tell would be at school, and I had to wait until school started. Well in about the 3rd week of August I was messaging my boyfriend on Kik. I had no idea MY BROTHER WAS LOOKING OVER MY SHOULDER. He told everybody. Every. Single. Person. In. My. Family.

I was shocked. I didn't know what they would think. I was more scared than anything. My mom Facebook messaged me and I told her everything. She understood and reassured me that I could tell her Everything. My dad's side of the family accepted me. Well...My aunt is a Lesbian on my dad's side. I didn't know what my mom's side would think. I avoided them until Halloween. On Halloween night, we didn't really talk. We just Trick-Or-Treated. I had broken up with my boyfriend, and to this day....I'm still single. Everybody accepts me. I am blessed to have the family and friends I do. That is my story of coming out.... Bye.:D

[HumbleMuffin]

Well...Just tell him/her about how you feel. And look, everyone else would say to do that, but quite frankly, only a small percent who say it will do it, but I'd advise you to just say you are not interested in the same sex, it's not built in your brain like an individual that is homosexual. It just isn't you.

Nonononono. Don't respond to "I'm gay" with "Oh, I'm not."
It will be taken badly. Tell them that you're fine with it, or don't care, and make sure they still feel accepted and loved. You don't need to assure your own sexuality in response.

[Destinyforce]

Nonononono. Don't respond to "I'm gay" with "Oh, I'm not."
It will be taken badly. Tell them that you're fine with it, or don't care, and make sure they still feel accepted and loved. You don't need to assure your own sexuality in response.No, I was telling him how to respond to someone who asks you out or has some type of crush on you. If a friend opens up to you, you should recognize that he trusts you...LIKE TRUST AS IN LOCK THE F*CKING KEY Trust. NEVER say I'm not gay, or anything negative that can alter your friendship. Even if you do not want to be friends, ( shouldn't be in the first place if you can't accept him) you still want to be positive because others may look to you as a bully and an asshole, long story short.

[Destinyforce]

Well....I'm going to tell my story. I had always felt something for boys. More than "friends" you could say. Well my brother had a friend, and his friend had a brother. My brother's friend's brother was 13, my brother's friend was 8, my brother was 8, and I was 11. Every time we went to their house (Our moms are great friends) We would go into their room at lock the door. I'm going to call everybody by their names, it will speed up this part of the story. My brother (8) is named Anthony, and his friend (8) is named Monty, while his brother (13) is named Tyron. Well one day I asked Tyron if he wanted to "Stick his 'PP' up my 'butt'. He claims he is straight. He got a really excited look on his face and he ate out my ass and I sucked his Penis for Lube. His Penis is around 6". He put it up to my ass (I have a large build...I always have, and with puberty starting, I'm 5'7". He put his penis into my ass....All I can say about that was wow. I knew what cum was, and said he could cum if he wanted. We had sex for about 10 minutes. When he came, we cuddled for about an hour or two...Anthony and Monty aren't here. My ass was full of cum. I kept it tight because he said to. After we got done cuddling, he said to open up my 'butt' for him. He ate me out again. It felt like he was sucking it out, but I still don't know to this day. When he was done, we made out. He had already had his first kiss. I hadn't. His lips were something else....Perfect. It was like a radiance of him spreading throughout my body. I loved it. He said he hadn't kissed someone like me, and said I was the best kisser he had ever kissed... I felt proud. :wub::wub::wub::wub::wub:

Now I'm fast forwarding to Summer of 2012. I'm 13, and I'm closeted. I really felt like it was the perfect time to come out. Well I got introduced to Kik. I had typed in "Gay kik usernames" on my Galaxy S. I got an insane amount of names. I had gotten a boyfriend from Texas. His Penis looked huge. Maybe 8"...He was Latino. We had video chatted, Kiked, had ooVoo sex...all of it. He made me feel really confident to come out. My family is split down the middle in Politics. My dad's side is 100% Democrats. My mom's side, not including my mom, is 100% Republican. I knew the first person I had to tell was my best friend Eva. I didn't come out as Gay (I still haven't) but as Bisexual. She accepted me. I had forwarded a 10 paragraph text message to everyone on my contacts list who wasn't family. They all accepted me. I was crying from tears of joy. The next person I would tell would be at school, and I had to wait until school started. Well in about the 3rd week of August I was messaging my boyfriend on Kik. I had no idea MY BROTHER WAS LOOKING OVER MY SHOULDER. He told everybody. Every. Single. Person. In. My. Family.

I was shocked. I didn't know what they would think. I was more scared than anything. My mom Facebook messaged me and I told her everything. She understood and reassured me that I could tell her Everything. My dad's side of the family accepted me. Well...My aunt is a Lesbian on my dad's side. I didn't know what my mom's side would think. I avoided them until Halloween. On Halloween night, we didn't really talk. We just Trick-Or-Treated. I had broken up with my boyfriend, and to this day....I'm still single. Everybody accepts me. I am blessed to have the family and friends I do. That is my story of coming out.... Bye.:DCongrats, I really liked how you handled the situation, and to have your mom message you on FB is cool...i wouldn't want to say that in public with her, or private... Anyways, you have an amazing family, friends, and life. You are 1 of a lucky few who can tell their story from a positive point of view, and to not be bullied at school (Didn't say but what im inferring) is spectacular. Now you just have to come out fully to your friends, and going from Bi to Gay is simpler, yet still difficult because your male friends and you will no longer be able to connect to the Female body, but you have to let things happen. Good luck dude, and your future.

[Cognizant]

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Yay.
(please don't come stalk me on Facebook)

[Skyline]

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Yay.
(please don't come stalk me on Facebook)

That was so fucking clever... I hope it all went well for you :)

[Cognizant]

That was so fucking clever... I hope it all went well for you :)

Thank you! It was very well received. :)

[pjandrew2012]

Any tips on coming out to your parents?

[ImCoolBeans]

Any tips on coming out to your parents?

I came out to my parents by just telling them. I was straight forward with it -- didn't try to beat around the bush or anything. I've always thought that was the best way to go about it; but that's me, it may be different for you. Some people like to leave notes/letters for their parents to see when they aren't around or the night before so the parents will see it before they wake up. Whatever feels the most comfortable for you is your best bet.

[Shadow]

Any tips on coming out to your parents?
Well I would not recommend the way I did it, which was through a text message, my best advice would be to do it face to face.

[IAMWILL]

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Yay.
(please don't come stalk me on Facebook)

Wow dude that was pretty ballsy. Glad it was well recieved. You feel better after?

[Danny Phantom]

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Yay.
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I've gained lots of respect for you for this :)
Glad all went well for you sir!

[xAlfredo]

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Yay.
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wow.. amazing..
I am glad it went ok for you.
that was such a smart way to come out.. i want to do something like that.
this week, i plan to tell my mom i'm gay after holding it back for so long to lift the weight off of my shoulders. first, i want to talk to my pastor though and tell him and get some advice from him because i know my mom is going to bring up tons of religious reasons why it's in my head and i may need to "go to a psychiatrist".. smh..
thank you for the tips, Mike!

[bucketsofhope]

Well I told my family over facebook, I also made a status about it but i'm pretty sure some people in my school haven't seen it. So about half of my school year know and my close family know aswell. everyone has been supportive so far.

apart from my dad...
I still haven't told my dad yet because I don't live with him, I don't see him often and I am pretty sure that he wont support it. I'm not sure how or when I will tell him that I am bi :/

[TheWhiteWizard]

My first few friends- well they all have seperate storys.

FIRST PEOPLE!!! :yeah:
Ok so they were these 2 really fetch girls and we would gab cause we all sat together in science and stuff and I told them I had somthing to tell them at lunch. And I couldn't say it so I said to them guess. And at first it was "Are you bi?" and then a few other things- and THEN it was "Are you gay?" and I could BARLEY nod m head I felt like I was about to cry. But then we had a fun little Q&A and after lunch was over I felt SO MUCH BETTER THAN I HAD IN YEARS

ROUND 2! :lol:

Ok so it was in gym (bleh Xp) and I wanted to tell my really cool friend with the purple hair. SO I say to Purple Hair Girl "I have something to tell you" and she looked at me like she knew what it was (I was apparently a very raging homosexual! :yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah: and so I told her I was gay when we were alone and she looks at me and says "FABULOUS!" and hugged me.

ROUND 3! :what:

Ok so 2 people at once again. It was the classic cat and mouse style of tell me who you like- and I said you could guess forever and never get it. So they were all "TELLMETELLMETELLME" and I old them it was a boy and they didnt believe me at first, but yeah they were fun to gossip with afterward so that didnt matter much.

So as you can see my first few people had some fun little storys!

I didnt come out to my mom though. ME and PHG were passing notes about a guy I liked and it was in my pants. She washed my clothes. OOPS! But oh well! Whatcha gonna do?

[cpkid09]

ok so since i was in 1st grade i went to catholic school even though my mom isnt catholic. I grew up hearing homosexual things were defying god and such, but really didnt pay attention because i always had a curiosity for boys and girls. i even did some stuff with a boy from the school in like 3rd grade. nothing hardcore cuz we both didnt even know where babies came from haha. Anyway either in 7th or 8th grade i came out to my bestfriend as bisexual. she was totally ok with it and such. so now i go to high school at a different school than last year. Thankfully it is public and they are more accepting of lesbians, bi, and gay people so i obviously made friends and early on this year i told my friend because i trusted her and she was also bi. she was accepting and such. So then about a month or two ago i told my bestfriend and her boyfriend at this new school. for some reason i told her boyfriend first because i feel like guys would be against it but surprisingly he was REALLY accepting. he said the usual " i don't care your still my friend and i won't treat you differently." His girlfriend said aww so i assume she thought it was cute or something haha. i right now am about to come out to my other friend over text haha. I'm scared to tell my mom because she is really religious. I feel like over time i will tell more and more people.

[Mayon]

T'was 12 AM, Friday 22nd of February, I was in a room with my best friend on the school ski trip. We got talking about who fancied who, and ended up doing a yes/no kind of thing.

Jack: [Saying every girl in the year’s name]

Me: No…No…No…

Jack: Is it a girl in another year?

Me: No….

Jack: Is it a boy?

Me: Yes!

[Silence]

Me: …You don’t believe me?

Jack: You were serious?!

Me: Yup

Jack: I’ve got a gay best friend!!!!

He took it really well (Thankfully!)

Followed by him asking lots of questions about it. It felt amazing. Unbelievably amazing. I had been planning my Coming Out for nearly a year and it feels weird that someone else knows but I am so happy I decided to tell him.

[countryboi9]

I came out as gay to my dad and brother last yr when I was 15, knew I was gay at age 13, came out after my brother caught us doing stuff in my room. my dad said he was proud that I came out and said its great that I am gay

[jayyy-lmao]

Although we should avoid labels, for all intents and purposes, I'm bi. It's not 100 percent or anything, but I'm as sure as I can be. The first person I told was Aileen, my best friend, and also my crush. She took it well, saying it didn't matter, she still loved me as a friend. Though that situation has since gotten worse, as she found out I liked her, and it has made tension between us. It was annoying me that the only person who knew was my crush, and so I told two other friends, Lily and Emily. Lily is my best friend except Aileen, and Emily is very close and had thought she was gay at one point. Both took it very well. The last person I told was my friend Fiona. I didn't start the conversation intending to tell her, but I did. The first the she said was "Do you like a girl?" and I told her I did. She asked who, and I said Aileen. She doesn't know Aileen, but I've told her about her. She maintains that it's "Cute" that I have a crush on my best friends. I don't really care what others think, but I'm not sure if I should tell anyone else. My parents will be probably the last I tell. I have two other close friends, Rachel and her sister Emma, but I'm not sure if I should day or not. Any ideas lads?

[RyanJF1]

Today I decided to come out. :)

What an event it was.

I went out to eat with my mom, and I was determined to tell her that I was bisexual. I knew she would always love me, and that I would never be judged by her, so I was more comfortable telling her rather than my dad.

We ate dinner like normal, but every time we did, she would always ask me who I liked. She would always assume it was girl, but I never really liked girls, so I said "Nobody right now." like any other person would. She asked me this as we got our meal, and this question did indeed pop up. I answered no as always, but continued to tell her about my attraction to guys. I told her "I also like guys, too." and she immediately knew what I was trying to say. Even though it happened 3 hours ago I can't remember what I said exactly as I was shaking due to me being nervous.

She grew a smile on her face and told me that she already knew, and was waiting for me to say something about it. I asked her how long she knew, and she replied by saying she knew ever since I was a little kid.

It was somewhat funny, as she began to tell me that my entire family had suspicions, and I had nothing to worry about.

I continued talking to my mom attempting not to cry in a public place, and we discussed how I should tell my dad. I needed to tell him, and I was scared he would not be comfortable being around me anymore. He always had the dream of me marrying a woman and having kids. Though, that isn't the dream I had in mind.

I decided to tell him straight up. So, when he got home, I told him a few minutes after he walked in the door. I said, "Dad, I know you have known this for a while, but I should probably tell you. I like guys." He turned towards me and looked at me. He said, "What?" I told him again, and he told me to st down and talk. After talking, he finally knew the real me, and he was okay with that.

It feels good to be accepted, and I'm glad I have a supportive family.

If you are a closeted person, I encourage you to come out. You will feel so much better, and you will become happier person.

[peaceloveanarchy]

Im considering coming out to a few of my closer guy friends tomorrow. (We're camping out for 4/20) :D I've been waiting for an opportunity for a few weeks and provided i can get up the nerve, I think this is it. These are my best friends and they're fairly open minded so I don't expect them to have a problem with me being gay but I'm a bit worried it'll make things akward between us, especially given the straight act i've put on since i've known them. Well wish me luck :/

[Destinyforce]

Im considering coming out to a few of my closer guy friends tomorrow. (We're camping out for 4/20) :D I've been waiting for an opportunity for a few weeks and provided i can get up the nerve, I think this is it. These are my best friends and they're fairly open minded so I don't expect them to have a problem with me being gay but I'm a bit worried it'll make things akward between us, especially given the straight act i've put on since i've known them. Well wish me luck :/
How'd it go?!!?!?!?

[peaceloveanarchy]

It did not happen :( We did camp out but there were more people there than expected and i decided it would be best to wait. However i did come out to my ex yesterday and it went very well, she didn't care one bit and told me she had always had her suspicions, which wasn't suprising. I plan to tell the rest of my friends later this week and it should be easier now that i've done it once :) I'm a lot less nervous now

[Bethany]

I came out as bi to one person last week - my best friend, via Facebook chat. I was writing a paragraph that was about myself and kinda sarcastic/playing around and I just stuck "I'm bisexual" in that paragraph. She didn't really say anything for a minute, but when I said "I just came out! haha" or something like that she said "Yay" and we just kept chatting bout other things...about an hour later, still chatting, she told me everything was good. Which I knew it was, because she's as liberal as I am...:D We didn't really talk about it though, so I'm probably going to bring it up again when I see her Friday just to answer her questions and stuff.

I'm happy my best friend knows, but I don't think I'm going to break the news to my family for a long time. I just don't feel a need to.

[Venrai]

When I came out to my mom, I was in fifth grade. She told me I had no idea what my sexual orientation was and called it good.

Then I came out in seventh grade. She still shot me down.

Then I wrote her a long and complicated letter when I stayed home with her one day. It basically said that I didn't want to be like this, I knew my life would be harder, hope you still love me, derpderpderp. She came into my room and told me she knew.
Then she asked if I thought Johnny Depp is attractive. She had a good sense of humor about it.

Then there was my dad. He hates gays with a burning passion. He always talks about how parents with gay kids should be ashamed of themselves. lol. It's kind of funny because my one sibling is a lesbian. We kind of screwed our parents over.

Okay, anyways, when I told him, I literally just sat in front of him and and said that I was gay. He said I wasn't but I kept insisting and he eventually accepted the fact that I'm gay. He made me do everything with him after that. He was trying to turn me straight. He made me shoot his gun with him and grill stuff. He even wanted to go hunting, he's never even been hunting.

So yeah. If you come out, don't be too alarmed if they make you do dumb stuff. But it's definitely worth it because I can feel free to be me, now.

[Skyline]

Well I just came out to my mom, I wrote it in her mother's day card... That was some SCARY shit... Like My heart is still beating like hell... I think she okay with it... she just cried and gave me a hug... so yeah... Happy Mother's Day!

[Danny Phantom]

Well I just came out to my mom, I wrote it in her mother's day card... That was some SCARY shit... Like My heart is still beating like hell... I think she okay with it... she just cried and gave me a hug... so yeah... Happy Mother's Day!

So glad it went well for you Adam! :hug:

[ImCoolBeans]

Well I just came out to my mom, I wrote it in her mother's day card... That was some SCARY shit... Like My heart is still beating like hell... I think she okay with it... she just cried and gave me a hug... so yeah... Happy Mother's Day!

You're the man. That takes balls. Awesome job on coming out to her -- parents are a big step to take -- especially if you haven't come out many other people or anybody else. It only gets easier to do from that point on. Congratulations and best of luck with whatever steps you take next, and with the process as a whole.

[jellybean583]

It was extremely hard for me. ImCoolBeans is right, there is NO perfect time to do it. I told my parents on October 19th last year ( 2012 ). My mother thought it was completely cute but my dad went crazy. ( Dont wanna discourage you from coming out if your reading this so ill skip to the happy part :D ) My dad, after 2 weeks, accepted me as i was.

[Wisconsin]

Okay, I'm gonna start with a lil info about me first.
I'm 16, I have a girlfriend. I'm a bisexual, I'm 'out,' and I only decided to 'come out' around last february/march.
I've known I was a bisxual for about 4 or 5 years ago, but if I'm gonna be honest, I've probably been bi for much longer.
See, when I was young, I was taken away from my mom and forced to live with my dad, stepmom, and her two kids (boys) along with my brother. Well, the younger of my two stepbrothers raped me, many times. Looking back at it now, it only started as rape because eventually I guess I either learned to like it, or maybe I just got used to it, or maybe I've always liked it. Either way, it went on for about 3-4 years. He may have only been a year older than me, but for some reason, he had some sort of mutant donkey dick. It hurt me. Bad. While I was living with my dad, however, I was the family slave. Maybe that's why my stepbrother did all that to me. either way, everything was my job, and my stepmom abused me. She hit me all the time, called me stupid, dragged me around by my ears, and I was helpless. No one decided to help me, maybe because I hid my bruises. My dad saw the bruises once, and all he did was tell her not to do it again. I remember that clearly. Anyway, right after I finished 5th grade, my mom finally got custody of me and my brother. I moved to illinois. I was finally free and was able to think for myself. I realized so much about myself that year. I had never been one to let my emotions bring other people down. I've always been that person cheering people up, no matter the cost to myself. Anyway, that year I realized I was bi. I found online porn. I was happy. For a while. Then my brother found my porn once, he told me he was bi as well. But when he showed me his porn, there was only guys. I realized he had been lying to himself, and just then he lied to me. He was gay. He evenually came out as gay, altho right now he has gone back and said he's only bi. I don't believe him. But since then, I have told myself that no matter how much my attraction is towards any guy, I have to be with a female. I'm my moms only chance for grandchildren. But last january, I started dating Sierra. I realized how much I loved her. And I also realized if I really loved her, I had to tell her I was bi. So I did. But as I did, I was shaking, thinking she would be disgusted and leave me. So many people already have. But to my surprise, she didn't. She was shocked that I was shocked. She laughed and said 'My best friend is gay. I have so many bisexual friends, guys and girls. Why would I care if I'm dating a bi dude?' And we've been happy ever since. She's even asked me what guys I find attractive. I'm always awkward answering those questions tho. So, after that, I told my best friend (a girl) and she told me she already knew. Enboldened by that, I told facebook. Everybody knows by now, even my mom. I figured she would freak. I was wrong. She just asked if it was true. I didn't lie, like I thought I would've, and that was that. After I realized how much people didn't care, I was the happiest i'd ever been. I walk taller, and I've got better grades in school and everything is so much better. The reason everything got better, is because I was so afraid that if people knew, they'd be disgusted and leave. I don't like being alone. I'm a people person. I love being around people. And without them, I think i'd die. I still suffer from depression because of my life with my dad, and that includes suicidal thoughts, but at least I haven't attempted it. I've only attempted suicide once when I lived with my dad, and the only thing that stopped me was the thought of the people who actually WOULD care if I was gone. And I just put it all down, and went outside. I realized how beautiful the world is. But I'm still not perfect. I don't think ill be perfectly happy, until I'm living with the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and I am absolutely positive it's Sierra. She's my everything. And I know that sounds like every other cliche perfect relationship, but without each other, both of us would've fallen apart by now.

[peaceloveanarchy]

Came out on facebook yesterday :) I had already told 5 people before this and i decided it was time to just be done with it, so I typed up a little paragraph, hit enter, and so far everyone has taken it very well. There were some feelings of regret and embarrassment this morning, but they immediately dissipated when I saw the comments and such. :D I love my friends <3 The last step is either telling my family, which is doubtful, or facing them down when they find out on their own, which is inevitable... Anyway I feel soooooooooooo much better now that i'm not hiding anything.

[photojared]

for a long time I knew I was gay(since 8 years old) and in 7th grade didn't like the way I was and had some problems with all the stress and everything and it always got the best of me and just a lack of motivation so I decided lets just get some things off my chest-like tell my parents I'm gay and also friends so one thing led to another, well I was on the way to boy scouts and in the car with my mom and the voice in my head said tell her so I say "I'm gay". Not the reaction I expect but then again you don't know how it may go, she says good Now I really know my son I thought something bothered you. My friends at school really are not opened minded people so I just say Hey guess what I'm gay, then my friend says the most horrible thing so F*** you and now I don't really have many friends but by that It allowed myself more time to focus on photography and to "discover myself" but the hardest one to come out to was probably my best friend Logan. The funny thing is that He told me before I got a chance to so now we spend all our time together at school and home and Its just so nice to have such an accepting family and a great friend. :wub:

[blue.lips]

I have never "come out" to anyone. I've always thought that if heterosexuals don't have to come out, why do I just because I like males an females?
If anyone asks me what my sexuality is I have no problem just telling them I am attracted to both genders, but only if they ask me.

[xxdrakeTxx]

Me when i came out to my mom after three years of pretending to be straight was a
huge realif and then i told my friends lost a coupla friends
cause gay people scare them
or somthin like that but after u feel better like a weght has been lifted i even asked a guy out he said no but its still great
to be open

[Jerwolf38]

i want to come out so badly like really badly but i can only tell certain people and the reason i cant just tell everyone is that i have a friend hows father is a pastor (or preist i cant remember) but hes really nice and supportive of everything but because his fathers job hes grown up very homophobic and i dont know how he would react to it because its not his fault if he hates me

[RCT109]

My view is that why hide
I won't shout it to the world but if someone asks me them yeah I'll tell them but nothing more

[Jackinapickle]

Unlike most of the people here, I never got a chance to actually come out to my parents. I wanted to and I was planning to, but one day I was careless with my computer and my mum saw my Internet history. She ran screaming from my room and started crying into my dads shoulder. I had no Idea what was going on, and when she told my dad he nearly punched me, but I managed to duck and run off to lock my self in the bathroom. He kept on banging on the door and yelling abuse calling me "sissy" and "fag". All I could hear properly was the sound of my mum crying the whole time. It wasn't long before my two younger sisters woke up and started crying because of the yelling. It hurt more than anything to feel so hated. I knew it would be hard coming out to my really catholic parents. I stayed in the bathroom all night feeling sorry for myself. I left in the morning and left for my "girlfriends" house on the train and I was allowed to stay over (I never told her why I needed to) for a few days. When I finally came home my mother ran and hugged me at the gate. She had been so worried, and over the few days she had decided to accept me for who I was. My father allowed me inside the house but refused to acknowledge me or talk to me. My sisters were still my ordinary sisters and just missed me.

Even though I couldn't come out on my own terms and their reactions weren't great and my dad is still so cold, I feel better for having it out in the open. But let my story be a lesson: don't put it off, the people closest to you will find out one way or another, and even if your family need time to get used to the idea of you being gay or bi or whatever you are, the ones who love you are the ones who will always accept you. If they can't accept you then they aren't worth it.

[Croconaw]

I've not come out to anyone except my mom, but she's okay with it.

[LiamC]

I live with my foster parents and I think they just assume, they keep giving me leaflets to LGBT clubs and telling me when Pride's on and stuff. Idk I don't care whether they know or not, I'm certainly not going to come out to them anyway.

[DonovanK]

I've come out to everyone, including my church camp, but I have yet to come out to my dad. I have no idea how he hasn't figured it out by now xD And I don't know why, but I don't want to tell him, I'm afraid it will makes things awkward :/

[Luminous]

I wrote a letter to my parents, and told my sister. Also one random girl from a play I was in, because she told me one of her deepest secrets and I felt that I should return the favor.
Other than that, nobody really knows. I don't feel like someone who isn't straight should have to announce their sexuality to the world. Wouldn't it be cool if this world we live in had no 'normal' and it didn't matter who you like?
If you ask me I'll tell. If not who cares?

[Sugarrush]

I decided to be lazy and come out on Facebook. Two of my cousins thought my account had been hacked.

[Trace]

I live with my foster parents and I think they just assume, they keep giving me leaflets to LGBT clubs and telling me when Pride's on and stuff. Idk I don't care whether they know or not, I'm certainly not going to come out to them anyway.

If they're reminding you about pride something tells me they know.

[The Flash]

I just came out to one of my friends, about an hour ago.
She was so chill about it. Right after i told her, she's like "Who's the first guy you liked?" hahaha

[sqishy]

I could talk about my story with how I found out I was gay, but I've already gone into detail with that in another thread on this section, and in my introduction topic.
From 1 am to just past 5 am, on the 26th of June this year, I wrote on a book a sort of diary entry, except that it held all the truths about myself that I would never be able to have the nerves to say aloud in person. In the diary are currently 5 entries. On the June 26th I created the first entry. Being gay was one paragraph in the entry. When I finished the entry I knew that my life was about to change. And it did when I gave the diary, with emotions of excitement, fear and nervousness, to my mom, at 10 pm of the same day. After that I paced up and down the field behind my house, talking to myself about coming out, being gay, and other major things about my life, almost crying. I started to cry when I came in at 11:45 and my mom cam soon after, with tears down her face. And so we both cried (in happiness and emotional release, not sadness) about what was in the diary, until an hour later.
My dad found out on the same day (27th of June), when he read the diary. Being a much less emotionally effusive person, he wasn't emotional and just gave me nice words about what I said. I wasn't emotional in my reaction either (watching comedy on youtube at the time probably helped).

And time passed, until I came out to a friend in a TKD (TaeKwon-Do, a martial art) summer camp in mid-July. I took the opportunity to tell him, since it was on my mind, and we happened to be in the same dorm, and nobody else was there. It went something like this (probably a bit different, my memory is not the best):

Me: I want to tell you something, and I'm not sure of how you'll react to it, but I want you to know.

Friend: Umm, okay, go ahead and say it.

Me: I'm not straight.
[2 seconds later(he must've gotten the idea fast)]
Friend: You're gay.

Me: Yes.

Friend: So you don't like girls?

Me: No.

Friend: And you like guys?

Me: Yes.

Friend: Well, that doesn't change anything. I'm absolutely fine with it, and I'm not homophobic either. Nothing's changed, you're still my friend.

Me: Thanks.

I said some other stuff for about 3 more minutes but I forgot exactly what I said.

I also came out to another close friend, who is female and is in her 50s ( Iget along in a much more relaxed way with adults than people closer to my age), when I offered to stay over for a week and do some housework/gardening. This was 2 weeks ago. She read the diary and got the message, and so we continued to talk about that and other deep stuff (very similar to things in the Ramblings of the Wise section).
I have come out to about 10 other people on the internet, but only one of them knows my true identity (and that came to be because I found out he is bisexual), so I have come out to 5 people so far.

I intend to come out to my sister sometime this week, though that won't come as much as a shock, because she has seen the large rainbow flag I have put on my 4-day-old re-organised and structured bedroom.

And, with school starting tomorrow, I want to come out to the few but valued friends in my school very soon too. There might even be a rumour about me coming out, where everyone finds out, and it may not be unintentional :D. This is part of my plan to be more open as a person and try and remove some shyness that I have.

My parents and the adult friend have warned me against there being some homophobic insults and resistance to me when I come out, and that things may turn nasty. However, I am ready to take all consequences, because I believe that I have changed so much and come so far in the past 2 months of my life with recognizing my sexual identity, that I should only keep progressing. I may be nervous and excited at the same time, but I am determined to do it.

My advice on coming out is to think about if it is the right choice for you first, and if you are ok with it, then GO WITH IT.

Sometimes we need to dive right in to experience life the more.

[Laquifa]

Well, I told my mom 12 days ago. She still doesn't believe me.

[tyler_r98]

i've always been that "girly boy" and all my friends are girls, but i'm also heavily involved in football, basketball, baseball, and track. i guess that's just stereotypes. i've only had girlfriends because i prefer girls over guys (i'm bi), and there's really no guy that's come along. but my friend asked me if i was gay about 2 years ago and i said i was bi. but it's really no big deal to me. i don't care what people think because this is just a preference like favorite ice cream flavor. but people ended up working it out, and other haven't.

[LiamC]

I'm out to everybody now! Through Twitter/Facebook so not the best, but everyone has been so great and I got like 15-20 supportive messages :3 My friends who didn't know (previously only like 5 of them knew) have been so supportive, the boys say I've got more balls than them and say I'm still a 'top lad' and the girls are all like 'aw cute' and hug me loads and just in general I've got a great reception :wub: Nobody has said anything horrible yet, I've noticed a few people staring at me and probably thinking 'omg that's that gay kid' but it's been far better than I've expected, and I'm so so happy :3

[Hallie]

I had been struggling with my sexuality pretty much my whole life and I had known for sure since 7th or 8th grade, but I kept making excuses as to why I was only attracted to girls and not guys. Last year, in 9th grade, I felt like I needed to tell someone, and so I told her that I was questioning--that I might be gay or bi. She basically told the whole school that I was a lesbian after that, and I she never apologized, only blamed it on everyone else for spreading it around and talking about it so much. I was forced to tell my parents because I knew they would find out soon enough somehow, and I wanted them to hear it from me instead of someone else. That was a really hard time for me, but honestly, if my (former) friend hadn't outed me, then I wouldn't be out now. Sure it was uncomfortable and heartbreaking at first (to say the least) with people glaring daggers at me in the halls and I still hadn't fully come to terms with my sexuality, but now, I'm glad I'm out. It's like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. It's one less secret that I have to hide :) I'm still not at that point where I'm proud of it, and I still have those times when I wish that I could be straight because I know everything would be so much easier, but I've grown to get to know this part of who I am, I've accepted it, and slowly but surely, I'm becoming more and more comfortable with it :)

[charkellogg13]

I knew like for real 100% knew I was gay in eight grade. I had noo clue how to come out so I got in contact with the only "out" person I knew who was a high school senior at the time. We started texting and I told him how I could not physically say I was gay to my mom so he told me to write her a letter and so I did. I placed it on her nightstand so when she got home from work (around midnight) I'd already be in bed and she would have read it while I was asleep. The next morning I went into her room to wake me for drama camp and she just held me and hugged me and said she just wants me to be happy and she loved me no matter what. I slowly told other people like my friends after and I was basically 100% out sophomore year. It does get better! I've helped one of my friends come out and I'm supporting him and I'm trying to be a good gay role model at my school for those struggling with their sexuality cuz there are so few out kids at my school. Woo!

[Luminous]

So I wrote this, then I realized I'd already written a post in here. There are some updates in it and I've changed a lot since writing that post back in August, so I've decided to post this anyways.

When I was around 8-12 years old, I didn't know what 'gay' was or what it meant or that it was okay. I actually have a very distinct memory of being maybe 9 years old, and my sister asked me what it meant, and I made up some weird random gibberish to seem smart. When I got to be 11 or 12 I found out what bisexual was and I was extremely ashamed to realize I liked girls.. I resent the way my parents raised me and I lived a sheltered life, which was a part of the problem.. another part was that when I was 12 I went to a summer camp, it was a day camp and I went for 5 weeks. One of the girls favorite things to do was to say, very seriously. "Guess what? I'm bi." And then she would start laughing so hard, like all out ROFL. She did it almost every day. It made me feel very insecure. Eventually I accepted the fact that it is okay to be attracted to the same sex, and I've grown comfortable with it. On December 4th 2012 (I remember the date because I had a concert with my chorus later that day) I sent my parents an email and told them.. my mom didn't care at all, she was just glad I told her. To this day my dad has not said a word to me about it except after the concert that day he gave me a big hug and said 'I love you' so I don't think it's a huge deal.. he has trouble adapting to change and to people's differences. It's been over a year now and, at 14 years old, I am finally coming out of my shell and I have started to tell a few people.. I told one person, and sort of told two others. They just happened to be in the room, but I don't care. It's going to be a slow process, especially since most people I know, I know from shows, so I'm going to be telling over and over, but I think within the next year I will be completely out. Maybe I'll even get a girlfriend! Lol.

[Jakie23]

It was quite hard to tell the people at my school that I was gay. Mostly because no one had ever done it before. I told my two best friends during our lunch break. It felt real good to get it of my chest. I feel really better. Tip: just go for it. Don't plan it out. It has a chance of putting you off. Be sponatneous

[Gifford]

Okay, I'm gonna start with a lil info about me first.
I'm 16, I have a girlfriend. I'm a bisexual, I'm 'out,' and I only decided to 'come out' around last february/march.
I've known I was a bisxual for about 4 or 5 years ago, but if I'm gonna be honest, I've probably been bi for much longer.
See, when I was young, I was taken away from my mom and forced to live with my dad, stepmom, and her two kids (boys) along with my brother. Well, the younger of my two stepbrothers raped me, many times. Looking back at it now, it only started as rape because eventually I guess I either learned to like it, or maybe I just got used to it, or maybe I've always liked it. Either way, it went on for about 3-4 years. He may have only been a year older than me, but for some reason, he had some sort of mutant donkey dick. It hurt me. Bad. While I was living with my dad, however, I was the family slave. Maybe that's why my stepbrother did all that to me. either way, everything was my job, and my stepmom abused me. She hit me all the time, called me stupid, dragged me around by my ears, and I was helpless. No one decided to help me, maybe because I hid my bruises. My dad saw the bruises once, and all he did was tell her not to do it again. I remember that clearly. Anyway, right after I finished 5th grade, my mom finally got custody of me and my brother. I moved to illinois. I was finally free and was able to think for myself. I realized so much about myself that year. I had never been one to let my emotions bring other people down. I've always been that person cheering people up, no matter the cost to myself. Anyway, that year I realized I was bi. I found online porn. I was happy. For a while. Then my brother found my porn once, he told me he was bi as well. But when he showed me his porn, there was only guys. I realized he had been lying to himself, and just then he lied to me. He was gay. He evenually came out as gay, altho right now he has gone back and said he's only bi. I don't believe him. But since then, I have told myself that no matter how much my attraction is towards any guy, I have to be with a female. I'm my moms only chance for grandchildren. But last january, I started dating Sierra. I realized how much I loved her. And I also realized if I really loved her, I had to tell her I was bi. So I did. But as I did, I was shaking, thinking she would be disgusted and leave me. So many people already have. But to my surprise, she didn't. She was shocked that I was shocked. She laughed and said 'My best friend is gay. I have so many bisexual friends, guys and girls. Why would I care if I'm dating a bi dude?' And we've been happy ever since. She's even asked me what guys I find attractive. I'm always awkward answering those questions tho. So, after that, I told my best friend (a girl) and she told me she already knew. Enboldened by that, I told facebook. Everybody knows by now, even my mom. I figured she would freak. I was wrong. She just asked if it was true. I didn't lie, like I thought I would've, and that was that. After I realized how much people didn't care, I was the happiest i'd ever been. I walk taller, and I've got better grades in school and everything is so much better. The reason everything got better, is because I was so afraid that if people knew, they'd be disgusted and leave. I don't like being alone. I'm a people person. I love being around people. And without them, I think i'd die. I still suffer from depression because of my life with my dad, and that includes suicidal thoughts, but at least I haven't attempted it. I've only attempted suicide once when I lived with my dad, and the only thing that stopped me was the thought of the people who actually WOULD care if I was gone. And I just put it all down, and went outside. I realized how beautiful the world is. But I'm still not perfect. I don't think ill be perfectly happy, until I'm living with the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and I am absolutely positive it's Sierra. She's my everything. And I know that sounds like every other cliche perfect relationship, but without each other, both of us would've fallen apart by now.



Wisconsin - What an amazing story, I was deeply touched. You're so full of courage! I can't imagine being raped by a step for that long, esp is he was as big as he was. I have so many questions, man, like do you hate him? Have you had to seek counseling for the emotional trauma he caused and for your suicidal ideation? Have you ever told your dad about it? Wow, that's amazing!

I'm so glad you have your gf who stands by you! Is she jealous that you might like a guy and have sex? if you had sex with a guy, would you have passive anal sex? How are you with that idea. You mentioned you may have let it go on because you may have liked it. So you got used to it? Was he always forceful with you sexually?

I'm sorry if I'm getting too personal, but I've known a number of guys who were abused sexually by other guys, usually older, family members and even an uncle who first raped him when he was 10 and did it 'til he was 14. He was big, too, and my friend loved being a bottom or a top, but is really into getting it by big dicks. He's in counseling now because he's so tortured and emotionally scarred. The uncle is his dad's brother and he didn't mean to tell his dad yet, but at Thanksgiving this year his dad asked him to hug his uncle goodbye and he was so sickened he puked for 3 days, told his dad everything, and they're prosecuting the uncle and will have him put away for a long time.

Sorry for that detour. I wish you well, Wisconsin. BTW, I was born in Ft. Atkinson and raised in Madison where I began my coming out process as a gay teen. I had been bi and had sex with 3 girls, but I felt no emotion for them, only lust. With guys I not only love their bodies but their minds, spirits and the way they think. I've been in love with several guys in my life and feel to totally fulfilled when I'm in love. I don't consider myself bi anymore, I've come to terms with being gay. I have a troubled relationship with my born-again sister and father who wouldn't allow my sisters to even speak my name around him for 4 years. Mom is somewhat supportive but has that religious thing. But I can't do anything about that except let mom, dad, the other sister know I love them. The born-again has been so judgmental and abusive to me we don't speak.

And that's the way it is. Thanks again Wisconsin for giving me the courage to write what I wrote. Love ya, man!

[Crosby14]

I came out to my close friends and family first then opened it up to 45 people at school and that spread like wildfire! But everyone loves and supports me so I am so happy

[casey_2014]

I know for a fact that I'm bisexual but I am extremely scared to come out... My dad was raised a strict catholic, so I don't think he would be to excepting. I have tried to address the subject of bisexuality, being gay and lesbian with a friend by saying if I had a kid who was gay I would accept him for who he is... But my friend said she wouldn't let her kids be gay and she wouldn't let them hang out with my kids if one of them was gay... I don't know what to do I'm scared.

[Kronos]

Even though I haven't fully come out, I'd still like to share my story.

When I was around 12, I, like, many boys found online porn. So I watched porn and masturbated to it, etc etc. But then after a while I started looking at gay porn, and found that kinda hot as well. And as time went on I realised I was bisexual.

Then I told a boy at my school in september , who was also bi, and (which I only found out in November ) had a huge crush on me. Then this rumour slowly spread around the school until I confirmed it by starting a relationship with the fomerly mentioned boy, 2 days before the start of the Christmas Holidays. So probably by the time I return to school in a couple of days everyone will know.

And soon after that I will come out to my family, starting with my sister who is one of my best friends and also had a lesbian experience a few years ago. Wish me luck!

[EmmaJane]

I came out to my mum not long ago actually. So here's my story.

I was talking to my friend online about being bisexual and I asked him if I should approach my mum about it and how would I go about doing that. He give me some advice and told me to approach my mum about it when I felt comfortable enough.

So a couple of weeks back, I went on a walk with my mum and asked her. ''Mum what do you think about the LGBTQ community?'' she said ''Why would you ask such a stupid question? you know I dislike them. It's wrong.'' So after that I grabbed all the courage I had and told her. I said ''Mum I haven't told you this but I'm actually Bisexual.'' She didn't like this in the slightest. She turned to me and went on a rant. She went on about how it wasn't in our genetics, I'm just trying to fit in with my friends, it's not me, to hide it from my family so it doesn't mess everyone up and how she was ashamed of me. After hearing that it really hurt me. It has bothered me a lot recently. She acts normal with me now, she just acts as if nothing has happened and I'm the straight daughter she always thought I was. My dad found out from my mum and my dad told my mum he supports me and there is nothing wrong with it. So now I have my mum who dislikes me but a very supportive dad.

There's my story! <3

[Oraange]

This might be a long one….

A couple of months after 8th grade started last year, I was texting my friend and told him that I had "kissed my guy cousin" (I was lying). He was fine with it, and our conversation carried on.

Next month, I had come out and told him. He wasn't shocked nor surprised, but asked me if I was serious, if anyone else knew, etc. Now, this guy isn't my best friend, and we weren't really close at that point, but for some reason I knew he wouldn't tell anybody, unlike my other friends. He didn't bring it up the next day at school, though we did talk about it every once in a while through texting.

A couple of weeks after that, the night before a sleepover me, him, and a number of other kids were going to, I told him how much I liked him. He asked me how far I would go, if I was serious, on a scale of 1-10 where was he (9/10), etc. To my surprise, he thanked me for complimenting him so much and we carried on our convo. The next day, at the sleepover, he was sitting next to me, and asked me if I was serious last night. I laughed and went "No, do you think I'm some freak?!" When everyone laid down on the basement floor to go to sleep, I ended up laying next to him and told him I had lied, and that I meant everything I said the previous night. He asked me if I was going to try anything, and I told him the most I would do was put my arm around him. I didn't.

A few weeks later, I asked him if he would be fine with me kissing him. He kept asking me how far I would go, and ultimately he said no. I was a bit mad, since he kept questioning me and leading me on that he would, but I got over it.


Fin.

[EmmaJane]

This might be a long one….

A couple of months after 8th grade started last year, I was texting my friend and told him that I had "kissed my guy cousin" (I was lying). He was fine with it, and our conversation carried on.

Next month, I had come out and told him. He wasn't shocked nor surprised, but asked me if I was serious, if anyone else knew, etc. Now, this guy isn't my best friend, and we weren't really close at that point, but for some reason I knew he wouldn't tell anybody, unlike my other friends. He didn't bring it up the next day at school, though we did talk about it every once in a while through texting.

A couple of weeks after that, the night before a sleepover me, him, and a number of other kids were going to, I told him how much I liked him. He asked me how far I would go, if I was serious, on a scale of 1-10 where was he (9/10), etc. To my surprise, he thanked me for complimenting him so much and we carried on our convo. The next day, at the sleepover, he was sitting next to me, and asked me if I was serious last night. I laughed and went "No, do you think I'm some freak?!" When everyone laid down on the basement floor to go to sleep, I ended up laying next to him and told him I had lied, and that I meant everything I said the previous night. He asked me if I was going to try anything, and I told him the most I would do was put my arm around him. I didn't.

A few weeks later, I asked him if he would be fine with me kissing him. He kept asking me how far I would go, and ultimately he said no. I was a bit mad, since he kept questioning me and leading me on that he would, but I got over it.


Fin.
Thank you for sharing your story. It takes much confidence to share it. <3

[nice]

I came out to a close friend Friday she took it well since she's bi too but it still felt weird telling her. I was nervous at first but it was easy. I wanted to do it in person but I didn't go to school so I did it over text.

[connorftw]

i just came out tonight to my best friend by mistake. we were reading something online about how a kid killed himself because he was bullied after coming out as gay. my friend said something about how cruel people can be to others that are gay. i said i know could you imagine what will happen to me when people find out im gay. i froze and said oh shi* but he hugged me and said he was cool with it and we talked about it for a while. and honestly i feel about 100x better now that somebody knows about it. now if i can somehow tell my parents i will be the happiest boy in the world lol

[Gamma Male]

I'm thinking about coming out to my family. I'm not really sure how they would react or how I should do it though.

[backjruton]

I told people I was bisexual, made a lot more friends in school :p

[Karkat]

I haven't really "come out" with my sexual orientation because (as some of you may have noticed with my inconsistent labeling of myself) I'm still sort of questioning. I think in the end I won't come out about it, because I'm thinking of ditching a label altogether. It's too complicated to use like five different labels every time someone/thing asks.

However, with my gender, I'm out semi-officially online, and I'm out with my SO and closest friends. I have about a thousand different stories there, but they're almost all positive. (The only negative one is that I've been fetishized for being bigender, but he seemed genuinely curious about certain things as well, so eh.)

I don't know that I'll ever be "officially" out, because I don't think it changes much for most people. I typically pose as female, I'm never getting sex reassignment (or at least I'm almost positive of this), there aren't many things that are made awkward by not being out officially. But we'll see. Now that Facebook has new gender options, I might just change my gender on there if I do decide to come out, and make a small post. I don't plan on ever coming out to my family, because they'll be unsupportive, and once again, it doesn't really matter as far as most people are concerned. It's just something I feel that it's nice for my friends to know. So we'll see.

UPDATE:

Came out as bigender on Facebook. Everyone's been really supportive about it, it feels nice.

[Dalcourt]

Well, I guess I never really came out. It seems that my sexual preferences are so obvious for everyone that all people assume I'm into guys no matter if I say something about it or not.
I can't explain it, really...it's just the way it is. My father never thought me anything else but gay and he never seemed bothered by it.
So, no real coming out story from me.

[Gamma Male]

I came out to my family. They took it better than I though they would.

[Bolwing]

Hm. I came out to my parents in December, and to a friend of mine in January. My parents weren't surprised, and are totally supportive. The aforementioned friend was a little bit freaked out when I told him that I'm gay (I don't blame him, honestly), but he's calmed down since. The act of coming out itself was pretty terrifying, but I don't regret it.

[rockymountainway]

I'm bisexual and I haven't came out to anyone but a doctor and an old high school friend, but I'm thinking of coming out to my girlfriend. I think, of all people, she deserves to know, as we both care deeply about each other and have told each other a lot of personal stuff. Only problem is, we've been together for 3 years. When we started dating, I hadn't even begun to consider that I was bisexual, but over time I realized I was. Funnily enough, the time I had fully realized it myself and also realized that I'm slightly more attracted to guys, was when she and I really started getting more intimate with each other. I kind of feel like I'm betraying her trust by keeping this from her. I know she'll be supportive of me, but I still don't know how to act.

I also want to tell two of my closest high school friends. I'm really comfortable around both of them, and I'm sure they'd both be supportive as well, but I'm still hesitant about it, especially since I've had a crush on one of them for two years. Sticky situation. Let's see how it turns out.

[Coach97]

I am scarex to come out but I dont know if I am gay yet. Maybe I am just bi because I do like girls too and I hsve had girlfriends but maybe when I go away to college I can experiment and go from there? Any thoughts?

[Cognizant]

self explanatory i guess:
http://i.imgur.com/TX7LBNS.png (http://imgur.com/TX7LBNS)


I am scarex to come out but I dont know if I am gay yet. Maybe I am just bi because I do like girls too and I hsve had girlfriends but maybe when I go away to college I can experiment and go from there? Any thoughts?

You don't need to rush it. It took me a while to really identify myself -- i wouldn't even say im 100% sure im actually bi

just test the waters and you'll know who you're attracted to :)

[Alex_3869]

So I came out to the first person on Thursday, but first I'll give some backstory. I realized that I was gay in about September. I knew nobody in my school who was gay/bi/pan/all of the other sexual orientations. But once I started paying attention to people I noticed how many people actually are. And those are just the people out of closet. I don't see any hate crime or any of that kind of stuff, but there are some pretty hurtful slurs that fly around.

Anyways back to the story, there is a guy who transferred into my science class at the beginning of the second semester (January) and I kind of fell head over heels for him. So I looked him up and I found out he was bi. So I've kind of been hoping I can get a chance to tell him without a ton of people overhearing.

So now to the main part. On Thursday after class I had to stay after to take a test (absent) blah blah blah I'm rambling. Back to the point, after I finished taking the test I went to my dad's car and texted one of my friends who is in my science class. So I asked if the guy dislikes me and she says that she thinks he doesn't, and then I say do not tell him I asked you. She replies, is there something you need to tell me? And I say kind of but you can't tell anybody ever. So after a couple off messages of that I said I had a massive crush on the guy in our class. It took her a couple minutes to respond but she said she was completely fine with it and one of her best friends was a lesbian. Then she went on to say that she kind of suspected it. (Which, in my mind, is a good thing because people will be less shocked) by the way I dressed, and cared about my appearance and wore nicer clothes than most guys. Which is oh so true:yes:

After this she basically asked if I could keep one of her secrets and she told me, so now if one of us lets the other one's secret out then we both have dirt on each other:lol: she asked me if my parents knew etc. but I said I kind of wanted to be out by the end of the school year (to school not family)

I kind of shocked myself coming out to the person I did first, I mean, we are close but not the closest. This just brings us so much closer :D

And in the conversation she said "you know (insert name here) is bi right?" So yeah. I may have her talk to him or something but yeah that's how I came out for the first time!! If you read all of this I thank you, and back when I was accepting my sexuality (when I was more active on here) thanks for helping me through it. Even if you don't remember ;)

[CassnovA]

I dont understand why people 'come out' as gay. Its natural. People dont come out as straight do they? Id wait til you found a boy you dated then just let people see it how it is.

[ksdnfkfr]

My longtime friend and I came down stairs for breakfast after he spent the night.
My dad was in he kitchen and said to us "how are you two lovebirds today?".
I guess my friend had a shocked expression.
So my dad said that it was okay and that he and my mom and my friend's folks have known for a while.
I don't think we were doing a very good job of hiding our feelings for each other, especially probably me, but still tying to hide it. So I guess they decided it was best if they let us know that they know. Nothing has really changed since then. I think it's just we don't act like we have anything to hide anymore, but still act the same way we usually have around them.

[Bolwing]

I dont understand why people 'come out' as gay. Its natural. People dont come out as straight do they? Id wait til you found a boy you dated then just let people see it how it is.

"People dont come out as straight do they?"

I hate this argument. Straight pepole also aren't a discriminated against minority, I would like to remind you.

Putting my personal pet peeves aside...

Pepole generally assume that you're straight. Since most pepole ARE straight. That's why straight pepole don't come out.
And because of that, it's generally harder for someone closeted to find a date.

Not everyone in the world is tolerant. In many places, you can't "just let pepole see how it is". Many pepole still see homosexuality as something unnatural.

Also, letting your family know that you're interested in the same sex BEFORE you start bringing the said members of the same sex home is a rather good idea, in my humble opinion. Lessens the shock.

[reyago159]

I'm out to my family(mom, dad, sis), and a few if not all my friends.

The first person I ever told(came out to) was my mom. I had been stressed about the whole realizing I was gay thing, and pretty much was a mess. I'm religious due to the way I was raised and that's pretty much the reason I was stressed about it. At first, telling my mom wasn't easy at all, I even started to cry because I was so ashamed. My mom said she already knew and she thought that it wasn't good at all, right away she brought religion into the conversation and what not. After our talk we just kept going, I kept thinking it was wrong and that I needed to stop. Thinking like that got me to just be pretty much depressed. Seeing how I had been pretty down for a while now my mom decided to take me to a family friend who is a psychologist, she didn't tell me I was gonna go see him, she just took me out of school one random day and we went to his office. There we talked more on the subject of my sexuality and how I felt about it. I said that I had come to terms with it and that I wasn't worried about it anymore, and that what I was really worried about was what my mom thought of me. For some reason I had gotten the idea in my head that she didn't love me anymore, and that she was ashamed of me. My mom told me she wasn't ashamed, and that she loved me no matter what my sexuality was, she just wanted me to be happy.

And that's my whole coming out story/drama thing. Also, I don't want anyone to think that I'm bashing religion or anything. I'm still religious, I still believe in god and I pray and all that jazz. I hope that anyone who is going through something similar to what I went through can find a solution that they're happy with, and also even thought you don't know me and vice-versa, know that I support you and I bet pretty much everybody else here does too

[CelloGirl0031]

I'm not completely “out" yet, but I've told my cousin and older sister and thats really helped with confidence in telling others in the future. Find someone you really trust, whether it be a relative, friend, or maybe even your neighbor. Believe me, it helps to have someone you know is on your side and will support you. And if you know your parents won't be comfortable at all (and I mean seriously they are deeply religious or something like that) with your sexual orientation, do not tell them, especially if you risk being kicked out because of it. Stupid, but it happens. Having at least a strong support system of friends is a good start. And also I recommend telling them later because if you tell them when you're younger, no “fun" sleepovers with the same sex cuz they'll probably watch your every move. So generally, wait till you're out of the house to tell the parental units.

[grime]

Im new to the forums but I guess i'll share part of my unfinished story :D
I have known i was gay for awhile, it took quite some time to accept myself due to the fact I have been raised in a Christian home with very religious parents. Anyways after I finally knew i couldn't change who i am i figured my friends would have to know sometime or another. It went very well, it started as a normal conversation but i lead on and asked if i could trust them and such and told them that they had to keep it to themselves. This took a lot of courage but finally i said "Im gay" and a HUGE weight was lifted off my shoulders. But to this day I have not come out to my family, but i am planning on doing it soon. I plan to tell my oldest sister first because I have always been much closer to her. But yeah, im hoping for the best and that i get enough courage to do it! Thanks for reading and contact me anytime if you need to talk about it! :D :hug:

[Yugen]

I'm not really 'out' but I came out to a group of people that sadly I'll never see again in my life.
Basically we were playing the line game from the movie Freedom Writers. They asked who identified as male, who identified as female, and who identified as something else. I crossed the line for the last choice, as well as another question after when they asked who questioned their gender or sexuality. I was the only one who crossed both times and it was kind of awkward. I was really worried I was being judged but I ended up getting a thumbs up from one of the adults that were organizing the activities. Then afterwards I got a lot of hugs, congratulations, and other kind words. They were all completely accepting and supportive of me. It was such a relief and also it felt really good just to be able to talk about it and have people care enough to listen.
I haven't come out to anyone in my life at home and I'm not sure I plan on it. My parents don't understand gender identity and I live in a very religious place.

[Stronger]

Couple of weeks ago I unintentionally came out to a co-worker as bi-sexual. She was completely acceptable of it, I'm so thankful for her.

[KidStalion]

I am bi when i was 11 me and my friend jerked off together and that made me bi

[Mike-99]

I'm 15 and I came out as gay a year ago but my patents said it was a phase and still think that today.... This makes me afraid to be myself what do I do??????? Someone help me plz!!

[RyderIsAMonster]

My family is pretty much anti-gay. They make fun of gays, call my brother and I gay names, and downright ridicule them. This made me depressed and I started dropping weight. I weighed 130lbs and was quite muscular, and over the past month or so, I have dropped to 110 from being depressed. Food made me sick, my eyelashes were falling out, my grades plummeted, and I lost interest in my daily activities.

Friday, I had decided I was going to tell my step mom, because telling my father or my siblings, would be down right impossible. I told her we needed to talk, and I took her for a drive around town and stopped us at an abandoned parking lot. She asked me what was wrong, and I almost chickened out. I knew it was at this point, that I need to speak now or forever hold my peace. So I simply said, "I'm gay". My mouth dried up and I got really warm. She asked me some questions. I answered them and she became accepting. She promised not to tell anyone and that she loved me the same, if not more for opening up to her.

Today, I came out to my sister (actually yesterday) and some friends. They were all accepting, and one day, when I am a grown adult, I will tell the rest of my family.

[xoKaylaa]

My older brother was talking to my parents about thinking his roommate was gay, then he out of no where said "i mean i don't have a problem with gay people, Kelsey's bisexual"

so basically, my brother outed me to my parents before I was ready for them to know.
Luckily theyre accepting of it. :)

[Eth116]

I haven't come out yet. And i can't decide if I should. I feel like everyone pretty much knows already, they assume I'm gay and they're mostly right. I find a lot of guys hot but also a few hot girls. If I were to come out I would to my friend first. I might not tell my parents I might just show up one day back from college with a boyfriend and they wouldn't be very surprised. More like "how long has this been going on?"
I would like some feedback on this post please as I'm still not sure about this.

[RakshaMalayka]

My stepfather was in the livingroom calling my ex whom I was still close with a day, fruit cake, and a few other choice names. They were openly bisexual and had a tendency to be a bit more flamboyant while my stepfather is from a Catholic family and is extremely homophobic. I ended up feed up with his insults so I stepped up to him and said "says to his bisexual stepdaughter". His jaw hit the ground.
Probably not the best way to come out and inaccurate because I'm pansexual, but yeah.

[taylorht8397]

Like I've mentioned in other posts, i don't really want to go all out and dump my guts until I get a boyfriend. So far, i've told a close friend, for now that's enough for me. I would tell my mom because she believes in equal rights for everyone but then she thinks two guys kissing or two girls kissing is gross. I don't know what to believe anymore. My dad, forget about it. He's the biggest gay hater ive ever seen/ I'm not even bothering with telling him.

[lonely_gay_boy]

How do i come out to my friends and family that i am different? (gay)

[TheGentleHerbivore]

I'm a demi-panromantic asexual.

Meaning:
Demi: I can only fall in love with someone after developing a strong connection with them, like a close friendship for example.
Panromantic: I love people despite their gender, gender identity or lack thereof.
Asexual: I don't experience sexual attraction.

My family knows I'm pan, I had to tell them because I had a ftm boyfriend at the time. They think by pan I mean pansexual.

They accepted me and weren't too judgmental.

I didn't fully come out, I just said "I'm pan, deal with it. :metal: "
jk
I never told them I was asexual, and demi-panromantic.
I didn't give them the full desc. Y'know?
Just said pan.

I just feel like coming out about my asexuality would just be annoying having to explain what I am (because not many people really know what asexuality is).

Plus I feel like coming out as asexual is basically just saying "Hey, I'm not interested in sex. K bye."
My sex life just doesn't seem like something they need to know about.
And coming out as asexual is basically just saying "I don't have sex with any of these people that I date. Just in case you wanted to know that completely unnecessary piece of information."

I mean coming out as pan had to be done because I might end up marrying a girl or trans person one day. But I feel like coming out as asexual would just be an awkward and meaningless conversation.

So basically I've come out, kind of, and though my family is very traditional and stuck to conventional ways, they don't bash on me about it.

[Stronger]

Couple of weeks ago I unintentionally came out to a co-worker as bi-sexual. She was completely acceptable of it, I'm so thankful for her.

Update since then: I'm in a relationship with a guy, I came out to a family-friend, my brother (he knows because of the friend that was trying to help me), my sister, and my mother. Didn't really label myself though, I don't really prefer labels all that much.

A few other coworkers that we trust know of our relationship.

[ImCoolBeans]

Update since then: I'm in a relationship with a guy, I came out to a family-friend, my brother (he knows because of the friend that was trying to help me), my sister, and my mother. Didn't really label myself though, I don't really prefer labels all that much.

A few other coworkers that we trust know of our relationship.

Congratulations, Brandon :)
It takes a lot of courage to come out, even to people very close to you. It's a great feeling and I hope it went well for you.

[Stronger]

Congratulations, Brandon :)
It takes a lot of courage to come out, even to people very close to you. It's a great feeling and I hope it went well for you.

Thank you. :)

[Wafflenado]

So before I tell you my coming out story, I just want everyone to know that coming out for me was one of the best parts of my life. Regardless of the consequences, which for me I haven't had any negative reactions to it, the freedom that comes with it is probably one of the most amazing feelings in the world.

So It'll officially be 6 weeks tomorrow since I came out, and let me tell you, I didn't really plan on coming out then. I was basically dragged out of the closet by my mom, so let me explain. For about two months before I came out, I was not being my usual self. For one, I was sexting random guys on kik that I met online. I would talk to at least 15 new guys everyday, so at the 2 month mark, I'd talked to more guys than most people had talked to in their lifetime. I'm not proud of it at all. I was also treating my mom like crap for no reason at all.

So one day, I ignored my mom again, and she took my phone because she was fed up with me. I was terrified. There were so many incriminating things on that phone, and I didn't want her to know what I'd been doing of course. I was doing my homework, as usual, but then my mom comes in and asks me, "Who are all these guys?"

I was mortified. Instantly I felt ashamed and I could barely look at her when I said, "I don't know." Eventually, after she was done asking about all the details that she really didn't need to know, she asked me if I was gay. At this point I'm crying and told her that I was. She was completely accepting of it and she wished I had told her sooner. She was hysterical about the sexting though, understandably, and she had a good long talk about that with me.

After that ordeal, she told everyone else in my family, and everyone was also accepting of it, even my dad which was kind of a surprise for me. I think I did all those things because I didn't have an outlet, and for me, those people were my only way of expressing my sexuality. I was also very self-conscious and those people were constantly telling me how good I looked, etc. I was addicted to the attention.

After I came out, I was much better. I did slip up again and go back on kik, and that's a whole nother story, but I'm a lot less aggressive all the time now, and I feel like I'm a lot happier. I'm currently completely out at school, and so far, I have met no opposition whatsoever. Even though I didn't choose to come out, I'm ironically glad that my mom took my phone since I don't think I would have ever had the courage to do so on my own.