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[seamo34]

Hi
I came out afew monthes ago,
i one evening before going to bed i went into my parents and told them how i felt and they my mom started crying and that but she understood. they asked afew questions but it was ok. the next day i diod not fell great i felt down the hole day but the day after that i felt perfect! and now life goes on as normal im only out to my family but they dont want me telling anyone fore a while so ya thats my story :P

[Melodic]

I have had a pretty easy coming out experience. Everyone that is close to me has been really accepting of me being bisexual. I'm glad I chose to surround myself with more positive people this year.

[NotQuiteANerd97]

I'm a bisexual boy and I'm mostly out. The only people who I wouldn't tell are my older relatives (grandparents, great aunt, etc.) since they wouldn't understand it. On the other hand, my parents and a good chunk of my friends know and they're totally fine with it.

It started when I casually mentioned it in conversations with a few friends at different times, and they all just rolled with it. Eventually I decided that I should tell my parents, and they surprisingly took it well. They thought that it might be a phase, but they said that regardless they would still love me and support me unconditionally. I have no regrets :)

[Jinglebottom]

I'm never coming out to my parents or my family except for a select few. I'm going to be living abroad when I'm older so I don't think it's any of their business. Marriage, to me, sounds like nothing but a pain in the behind. I would rather just be in a committed relationship. I'm definitely going to be coming out to the friends I make in college since the ones at school are homophobes. I'm in a rough spot right now and I don't like it.

[Grisham]

So..i love a guy but we cannot stay together and often i'm sad and irascible. So one day, my mom talked to me and she asked to me what was the problem and why i'm sad and angry.
She asked to me if the problem was a girl and i said no. So she asked if was a guy and i starting to cry and say yes..ahah was embarassing. But she said that she love me and that's ok even if i could have some problems in my life because of the society and stupid people.
Now we don't talk about this argoument.. i think she is suffering but doesn't want to tell me. But i think that it's very important to be honest and to be myself.
Also i said about me to other friends. Now i would like to tell that i'm gay to all my friends but i'm little scared

[Rhys2001]

So for years I've always had homosexual feelings, but I would never have admitted it. Recently I realised and accepted the fact that I was bisexual. It took a while to accept as my parents are near homophobes, they don't mind lgbt people but they really don't understand that it isn't a choice; I don't think I will ever tell them, at least not until I move out. Over the past few days I have come out to about half a dozen people, all of which are my closest friends. I told one best friend first, a guy, at first he didn't believe me, but now he does and he is so cool with it. Next i told a good friend, she's bi too, I wanted to talk to someone about it; best decision ever to talk to her! I then told my other best friend, a girl, and she was also really cool about it. The other three people reacted similarly...
Coming out to my closest friends is possibly one of the best things that I have ever done, I would strongly suggest coming out to the friends you love most! I love my friends regardless of their sexuality, I just found out the love me the same.

[jdhud024]

I didn't have to come out to that many people because basically all of my friends and people I go to school with knew already. Like I legit texted my best friend one day and was like, "Hey, if I said I was gay what would you say?" and he replied with, "About time everyone was waiting on you to come out fam."

Only people I had to come out to were my parents and some family.

[four4four4]

I think I was in the kitchen with my mother and we were talking about my ass of a father who does not live with us.
She said something like "i think your father asked you sister if you were gay."
So I replied "Well I am gay"
And that was literally it. Granted, my mom is bi and her friend circle is like,90% lgbtq people,but I think her reaction (which was no reaction, like I told her I liked raspberries) is how all parents should react.

[Xxshan]

A lot of people I came out to over text message because I was seriously nervous to say it to their faces. Even my mum who was in the other room across from me lmao 😂. But I did come out to my friends face to face. I remember we'd been out in the town centre all day and we were all supposed to be going back to our homes and it was raining and we were laughing and giggling and soaking wet and just suddenly I got this huge burst of confidence and just went 'hey guys, I'm gay!' I remember they went silent and then screamed in joy before hugging me, in the middle of the street. Then we stood there, rang my other friend up and told her together and she was so proud. That same day we ditched going back to our respective houses and instead went to mine for a sleepover and I never felt happier gettin to go back home, open the door and say 'hey mum! They know!!' And having a group hug with my mum and my friends.

[Bluebyrd]

A lot of people I came out to over text message because I was seriously nervous to say it to their faces. Even my mum who was in the other room across from me lmao 😂. But I did come out to my friends face to face. I remember we'd been out in the town centre all day and we were all supposed to be going back to our homes and it was raining and we were laughing and giggling and soaking wet and just suddenly I got this huge burst of confidence and just went 'hey guys, I'm gay!' I remember they went silent and then screamed in joy before hugging me, in the middle of the street. Then we stood there, rang my other friend up and told her together and she was so proud. That same day we ditched going back to our respective houses and instead went to mine for a sleepover and I never felt happier gettin to go back home, open the door and say 'hey mum! They know!!' And having a group hug with my mum and my friends.

I've been waiting a while for another one of these stories. Congrats! I'm glad everything went so well :)

[garfield221]

it´s a great liberation

[johnmit13]

I sort of gave a massive hint to my mates but laughed off becuase i chickened out halfway through. I always act what would typically be seen as gay (I'm bi) and i just said i may aswell just commit to the bit and be bi. They asked me if i was seriously coming out and i became scared and told them no

[RavenTheGoddess]

I'm "out" but only to one person in my family. My mom. I came out to her several months ago, and I was surprised that she was okay with it. Of course, the first question she asked me was whether or not I was/would be still attracted to females and I replied with a yes. So basically I came out as both a female and a lesbian

[Yugen]

I'm out except to my father, I've always just casually slipped it into a conversation as if it were normal. I don't feel the need to make a big deal out of it, it's a part of who I am and I shouldn't have to announce that.

[Just JT]

I've known for a long time and was very ok with it. I told my closest friends a couple three years ago and they are cool with it. One of them is bi to, so so totally ok. But I never told dad. I knew he never would of accepted it. It's just how he was.

After he died I knew I could continue hiding it or let everyone know. I did neither. I just did as I pleased and let people figure it out for themselves. If asked I never denied it. But never announced it.

When my fostered figured it out they caught me and another boy in my tent when camping. They were cool with it. When they asked me why I never told them I asked them why they never asked. Although we've talked about it since, it's never been an issue.

I really feel it's an injustice for society to assume we're all straight until we come out. It should just be known that we're any number of any sexualities, and just accept that, and that it's nobody's business but our own.

[Yugen]

I'm out except to my father, I've always just casually slipped it into a conversation as if it were normal. I don't feel the need to make a big deal out of it, it's a part of who I am and I shouldn't have to announce that.

So I officially came out on national television during pride month... rip.

[SeansLittleBro]

I've known for a long time (since about 11 or so) that I was attracted to boys and not girls. I didn't consider myself gay because of limited experience at the time. However, I also have 2 older brothers who are gay. I talked with them about my feelings about what they felt when they first came to the conclusion that they were gay and found myself thinking/feeling/experiencing the same things.

At 14 -- nearly 15 -- I made the decision to come out to my parents. NOT because I felt that it was time but because they sat down with me and talked with me as they saw similarities with me that they had seen with my older brothers. Now, I am a twin and the did not talk with him about this, only me. It was very obvious that I was showing them the same signals that my brothers had so many years earlier. They flat out ASKED me and I confirmed it for them.

It was then a relief to me that they knew. My friends at the time had their suspicions and I felt as long as my parents knew -- my brothers, all of them knew long before my parents -- I could safely live my life the way I wanted. I did not make a big announcement at all. As a matter of fact I TOLD no one, but if I were asked, especially by my close friends if I were gay I simply told them yes.

I trusted my friends but I also knew that the word would get around and it did. There were a few problems at the beginning but fortunately at my school -- in a large metropolitan mid-west city -- it was not a major factor on how others interacted with me. My best friend was a bit shocked, but took it well. So well that now 2 1/2 years later he is my BF who I adore and who cares for me just as much.

Coming out doesn't have to happen but hiding a secret -- especially one that affects one's life as this does -- is very stressful and having to continually hide what you feel about anyone does no one any good. Be true to yourself and hopefully friends and family will accept you (and love you) for who you are not who you date.

[AmazingGay3]

Well, my family is first and foremost very religious. I actually denied being gay to myself for about a year, then continued to doubt it for another two before finally accepting it. I told my friends first because they know me better than my own family, sometimes, and they are either gay or bisexual themselves so they accepted me. Then came the hard part, my parents and family. I got a shirt that literally said "no one knows I'm gay" and they were both in the same room which made me say no because I was terrified. Later, about a month, I told my mother who then told my father because honestly I was worried about telling him. They accepted me, but we have agreed no one else in my family needs to know because they are strongly homophobic. My dad never says anything and still tries to say I have a girlfriend, but my mom talked to me about if and when I get a husband. So my best advice is to tell your friends if you can because they are a great help. Then tell the family member who you think will be more accepting. Good luck

[Brad.1.6]

Yes only come out once your 100% sure otherwise it gets a bit dodgy if you change your mind later on...

[JustMyHumbleOpinion]

I generally find friends very easy, for me it generally just came up in a conversation and i just casually mentioned my sexuality and they generally supported me all the way (though do prepare for some idiotic comments and some people acting weird around you)..

With my family i'm still a tad cautious; i've came out to a few members of my family who i'm really close to (like my brother who is Bi anyway) but i find my parents incredibly difficult.

I guess with coming out i would have to say just do it at your pace, as when i came out to my friends it wasn't planned whatsoever- same with my brother, it came very naturally.

Though TBF i think my parents might of guessed it by now anyways, when it comes to hiding my 'guy friends' i really wouldn't win a BAFTA..

[Bluebyrd]

It’s been a while since I came out now but I haven’t posted about it on here because I’m hardly on here any more. When I was on here regularly I thought I would never get the confidence to tell anyone so hopefully someone reads this and realises they can do it.

I have a friend that came out as gay and was out for about a year when I started to get quite close to him. I’ll refer to him as O. He never came out to me; I just found out through the grapevine and never talked about it with him. We have a friend who is typically gay (call him S) and there is this guy that we know that wouldn’t stop quizing S about being gay. Eventually S came out to me and O. With both O and S out, I was the only one in our friendship trio that wasn’t gay to their knowledge. They would talk about hot guys and stuff which made me jealous because I obviously wanted to join in. One night about a month after S came out, I had been out with my dad and sister and I was just texting O. I don’t know what came over me but I just decided that that was the night for me to tell him. We talked until the early hours of the morning. Countless times I typed out my message and then deleted it before sending because I was too scared. We stopped talking for about half an hour at about 2 in the morning. Then I decided to send the message. Of course he’d gone to sleep so agonisingly I had to wait until the morning to see what he said. I got about an hour of sleep. In the morning he replied and he was shocked but obviously totally fine with it. Then I realised how stupid I was for building it up so much because it wasn’t a big deal at all. I wasn’t too close with S but I wanted him to know I was gay so I told O to tell him for me. That’s how he found out. A week later O became my boyfriend and 18 months later we’re still together. At first it was only S that knew about us being together because I didn’t want most people to know I was gay. More recently though I’ve stopped trying to hide our relationship and that’s how most people know I’m gay now. Literally no one cares and it’s so good to be able to be myself. Still none of my family knows but that will come eventually.

[Cali_Dreamer_Girl]

I was so scared. I knew I was gay, but I didn't know if I could get the courage to tell my mom (dad is out of the picture). I sat down and wrote her a letter. I told her that it was something I was sure of and I hope she accepted me. I put it on the counter for her to see when she came home from work. I remember hearing come in the house while I was in my room. Her footsteps came closer and she opened the door. She sat next to me on the bed and told me these words, "I love you. I want you to find love one day. I support whoever that is, boy or girl. And I guess it's going to be a girl which is totally fine with me."

She later came out to me and told me she is bisexual. She has dated women without me even knowing. I guess we were both afraid to say the truth.

[Karalectric]

I was so scared. I knew I was gay, but I didn't know if I could get the courage to tell my mom (dad is out of the picture). I sat down and wrote her a letter. I told her that it was something I was sure of and I hope she accepted me. I put it on the counter for her to see when she came home from work. I remember hearing come in the house while I was in my room. Her footsteps came closer and she opened the door. She sat next to me on the bed and told me these words, "I love you. I want you to find love one day. I support whoever that is, boy or girl. And I guess it's going to be a girl which is totally fine with me."

She later came out to me and told me she is bisexual. She has dated women without me even knowing. I guess we were both afraid to say the truth.

A letter was a fine idea. So glad that worked out so nicely!! Yay! :)

I had been out with my closest friends and my little sister, who figured it out herself. But not my parents. Well, that changed last night!! *I told them i had something important to share. So I took a deep breath and was even kinda shaking just a bit, i was so nervous. And told them that I am bi and not only that i have also been seeing another girl for the last couple months. A short pause. And my mom replied "M?" I said, "YES!!!" I asked how long they knew and they said a few weeks back they figure it out. Here I thought I was playing it super cool but like I am beaming whenever I am around her, especially that night at my band concert when she gave that rose. Funny our subconscious emotions and ways we can act and not even realize huh? Besides, they said my sister mentioned it offhand. Like at one point i guess she was like, "Kara is out with her giiirlfriieennnd." Her and her big mouth!!! But anyways i instantly felt a weight off of me even though they hadn't really given me any real signs or made comments that they might not be cool with it or would disown me or whatever. I probably shouldn't have been worried. you know? They said they would love me no matter what. :heart:

[Cali_Dreamer_Girl]

A letter was a fine idea. So glad that worked out so nicely!! Yay! :)

I had been out with my closest friends and my little sister, who figured it out herself. But not my parents. Well, that changed last night!! *I told them i had something important to share. So I took a deep breath and was even kinda shaking just a bit, i was so nervous. And told them that I am bi and not only that i have also been seeing another girl for the last couple months. A short pause. And my mom replied "M?" I said, "YES!!!" I asked how long they knew and they said a few weeks back they figure it out. Here I thought I was playing it super cool but like I am beaming whenever I am around her, especially that night at my band concert when she gave that rose. Funny our subconscious emotions and ways we can act and not even realize huh? Besides, they said my sister mentioned it offhand. Like at one point i guess she was like, "Kara is out with her giiirlfriieennnd." Her and her big mouth!!! But anyways i instantly felt a weight off of me even though they hadn't really given me any real signs or made comments that they might not be cool with it or would disown me or whatever. I probably shouldn't have been worried. you know? They said they would love me no matter what. :heart:

It does feel great! I know a couple girls afraid to come out. I think we are lucky. One girl I know is bi. Her mom once told her, "bi is just wrong. Choose one." She's so afraid to come out because of that.

[Pultost]

A letter was a fine idea. So glad that worked out so nicely!! Yay! :)

I had been out with my closest friends and my little sister, who figured it out herself. But not my parents. Well, that changed last night!! *I told them i had something important to share. So I took a deep breath and was even kinda shaking just a bit, i was so nervous. And told them that I am bi and not only that i have also been seeing another girl for the last couple months. A short pause. And my mom replied "M?" I said, "YES!!!" I asked how long they knew and they said a few weeks back they figure it out. Here I thought I was playing it super cool but like I am beaming whenever I am around her, especially that night at my band concert when she gave that rose. Funny our subconscious emotions and ways we can act and not even realize huh? Besides, they said my sister mentioned it offhand. Like at one point i guess she was like, "Kara is out with her giiirlfriieennnd." Her and her big mouth!!! But anyways i instantly felt a weight off of me even though they hadn't really given me any real signs or made comments that they might not be cool with it or would disown me or whatever. I probably shouldn't have been worried. you know? They said they would love me no matter what. :heart:

I'm so glad they accepted it, and I can only imagine the relief. :D

[Karalectric]

It does feel great! I know a couple girls afraid to come out. I think we are lucky. One girl I know is bi. Her mom once told her, "bi is just wrong. Choose one." She's so afraid to come out because of that.

Yea it doesn't always work out so well. :(

I'm so glad they accepted it, and I can only imagine the relief. :D

Very much so! I hated the feeling of a secret relationship. I want to be honest and open about it. :)

[Cali_Dreamer_Girl]

Yea it doesn't always work out so well. :(



Very much so! I hated the feeling of a secret relationship. I want to be honest and open about it. :)

Never had a relationship yet so I guess my first one won't be a secret!

[Pultost]

Very much so! I hated the feeling of a secret relationship. I want to be honest and open about it. :)

Understandable, it's certainly not pleasant "baggage" to carry around. :)

[Kastanis]

I believe, that it is harder to "come out from closet" if you are a guy. At least where i am from.
Change my mind.

[Lucy G]

Never had a relationship yet so I guess my first one won't be a secret!

Yep that’s me!

[Cali_Dreamer_Girl]

Yep that’s me!

One day for both of us!

[Lucy G]

One day for both of us!

Maybe
I’m so shy it’s not going to happen anytime soon

[Cali_Dreamer_Girl]

Maybe
I’m so shy it’s not going to happen anytime soon

I'm shy too! Still hoping it happens though!

[Emilyfox]

A letter was a fine idea. So glad that worked out so nicely!! Yay! :)

I had been out with my closest friends and my little sister, who figured it out herself. But not my parents. Well, that changed last night!! *I told them i had something important to share. So I took a deep breath and was even kinda shaking just a bit, i was so nervous. And told them that I am bi and not only that i have also been seeing another girl for the last couple months. A short pause. And my mom replied "M?" I said, "YES!!!" I asked how long they knew and they said a few weeks back they figure it out. Here I thought I was playing it super cool but like I am beaming whenever I am around her, especially that night at my band concert when she gave that rose. Funny our subconscious emotions and ways we can act and not even realize huh? Besides, they said my sister mentioned it offhand. Like at one point i guess she was like, "Kara is out with her giiirlfriieennnd." Her and her big mouth!!! But anyways i instantly felt a weight off of me even though they hadn't really given me any real signs or made comments that they might not be cool with it or would disown me or whatever. I probably shouldn't have been worried. you know? They said they would love me no matter what. :heart:

So proud of you girl!!!!!

[nocturn dreamer]

I came out a Week ago.
I live in Nigéria, here homosexuality is valued to 14 years of prison (yeay)
But as i'm a forreigner, no worries about that.
The main probleme i'm facing is banalized and cultural homophobia.
People insult me Everyday and if i wasn't in the french school, i would probably get expelled (yeay bis)
I came out on insta, with pics of me with the bi flag on the cheek.
The main question you are probably asking yourself is : why the hell did i come out in such a Dangerous environment ?
WELL
I couldn't handle it. I was facing homophobia, and forced to keep quite if I didn't want anyone to be like "hey why are you defending faggots are you one ?"
Also, I wanted to keep control on my comming out. And, the stress on "what if they learn about it ?" was Killing me. I want to stand tall against hate, and defend LGBT+, I want walk pridly in front of the hate, and fight for my rights.

I am a pride bisexual girl, and you can't do anything to change that.

[Shiny Moon]

Mine was pretty straight (yeah, bad pun). I had a sleepover the night before with my friend Ema at home, we did it in my room and I told about it to my mom the next day during one of our "girls talk". She said it was pretty obvious and already figured it out because Ema and me were a bit loud :lol:

[HFrint]

My friend and I were eight at the time . We both hater girls and were also curious about sex.
We sat together in my room and looked up sex on google and saw our first porn images. Since we hated girls we looked up “boy sex”. The results showed images of gay porn. Of course we were partly disgusted by what we saw and partly fascinated. We saw pics of guys engaged in frottage. We decided to give it a try and we loved it. Since we hated girls and liked each other We decided we wanted to be boyfriends and we kissed.

I think at the time it was more of a curiosity thing rather than an actual gay thing but we called ourselves gay until we were twelve.

[camilaP]

I told my mom that I liked girls when I was 12, it was when I started kissing and making out with other girls. My mom is very liberal and accepting, so I didn't have any problem. At the time I didn't even know that I liked boys too. After I discovered my sexuality she was the first one I told that I was bisexual.

[Alexiswinter]

My sister knew that I liked all types before I realized it.

She saw the way I looked at one friend on the swim team and how I'd talk about her. She would be very encouraging to me and compare it to her exs. I should say that she is a lesbian.

When I told her she hugged me. She wasn't like "duh" or anything, that came later. She has always been very open when I had questions.