Fear of the Unknown, Why Does it Rip At Me?

[Biscuithead13]

So I know everybody has thier things that make them depressed, and for me its fear of the unknown :( Often I get depressed when I text or someone I really want to talk to (often because I'm already sad) and when they dont answer I always feel they suddenly hate me, but try to convince myself that they are just busy. Usually thats the case but it just rips at me when I wonder whats going on on there end. Theres also a guy I like, but he doesnt live here :/ We talk everyday but for some reason if he takes a while to respond I always assume he suddenly hates me , or if he doesnt respond I think its cuz hes ignoring me. A lot of times he texts me first but we are both on spring break and I know hes been busy so even I havn't been texting him that much but I'm not sure why fear of the unknown just kills me I wonder if he even likes me :(

[Stronger]

I sometimes get like that, where if I don't hear from the person, then they hate me, but if you kow you didn't do anything wrong, then just don't think about the negitives, that your being hated. As for your crush, he's probably busy, have you tried talking about his feelings about you? Maybe you should ask him; but sorta lead into, don't come out and say "do you like me?" I hope this helped but i you wanna talk more, send me a message.

[Gordo]

Hey Chris! I'm on spring break too and..... Lovin' it!

Once in a while I'll get down if someone doesn't reply to a text or doesn't get back to me, but I truly have never thought they hate me. It bugs me that whatever they're doing is more important than me or that they're having fun with other people and I wasn't included. Then...... reality sets in. Every single time I feel left out it ended up being something that didn't have anything to do with me or our relationship. Here are some of the things that I found out they were doing instead of getting back to me:

Went to a hospital for a family member, no cell phones used.
Cell phone and computer use was taken away by parents.
Out with their parents.
Out with extended family.
Parents volunteered their time to neighbors for yard clean up.
Family night.

Anyway, I felt excluded because I thought they were out doing something fun and every time they didn't get back to me it ended up with me not missing out on anything.

I talked to my friends about this and we all admitted we're that way even though it doesn't make sense. So we pretty much decided to quit being that way 'cuz every time we missed nothing. Never did we find out that everyone was hangin at someone elses house or the movies/mall etc.

I think that we think that relationships run hot and cold, like we're really into the other people or we hate them, but the truth is waaaaay less extreme. It's weird that we can get our selves going with just our thoughts even though nothing bad is happening to us.

IF ya can, keep yourself busy when you get like that. Maybe do something that your parents have been wanting you to do to build up bonus points with them or get in touch with your other friends or go shoot some hoops or exercise/run etc to burn off some of the angst/depression/concern. Nice seein ya on the boards. More love on ya man.

-m

[swimmerboy95]

I have felt this exact same thing before. It is normal, trust me. But the best thing you can do, if you are scared of the unknown or what will happen down the road, is try not to dwell on it. I know I am kind of over-simplifying this but you need to try and dwell on the here and now. And I have had the same thing going on with a guy I like. We do have something but he lives on the other side of the country. I haven't heard from him in a while but I know he is probably just busy.

Just give it some time ask yourself, "Have I done anything that could make him dislike me?" And the answer will probably be NO.

I really hope this helped in some way shape or form.

All the best.

--Alex