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jhv222
April 4th, 2012, 02:04 PM
Ill try to keep this brief, but can add more info if needed.

-We are both freshman in college.
-She broke up with her boyfriend of about one and a half years.
-Ive had feelings for her since the first semester.
-I hung out with her and texted her a bit, but not too much since I didn't want to get to close since she did have a boyfriend at the time.

Now she's broken up with her boyfriend and it makes me sad to see her sad. Since I don't really see her in person, I don't know the best way to comfort her.

I was thinking of calling her and inviting her to watch a movie or something with my roommate and I in our dorm room (don't have a car). But I am worried that she will be too depressed to want to hang out or do anything.

Also I want to let her know that if she needs someone to talk to that I am there for her, that she can call, text, or come over whenever.

I really want to date this girl at some point, but at the same time I want her to get back to her old happy self. How can I influence her to hang out with me to get her mind off of things? Also when and how should I make a move? I feel bad making it too early when she is vulnerable, but at the same time I don't want to turn into just a friend, or be a rebound.

Any advice would be much appreciated, thanks.

Kaius
April 4th, 2012, 02:22 PM
Before jumping in and asking her to do something talk to her. Ask her how shes feeling and let her know you're there if she needs to talk to anyone, asking her straight out after a relationship of that length is likely to scare her off a bit. Waiting shows your patience and commitment.

hpq666
April 4th, 2012, 03:29 PM
Ask her if she wants to talk about it over some coffee or something.