Straight friends

[jessehs]

If I come out to my straight friends can anyone tell me if they will treat me differently than before or show me outright hostility? And if I do what is the best way to come out to a friend?

[Stryker125]

That pretty much depends on your friends. Maybe they'll be cool with it, maybe they won't.

[Skeptical Bear]

Depends on your friends. I told 3 of my friends I was Bi once. Two of them are straight and 1 was curious at one point so he understood in a way. They all accepted me and that made me pretty happy to see that they didn't care. You should give it a shot and tell them. Start off a convertmsation and hint it off a bit. Tell them that you want to confess something to them and then tell them. Don't expect something to good or bad to happen but be optimistic.

[Eric57]

I don't think any of us can actually tell you if they will treat you differently or if they will accept you or not. It all just depends on your friends and how comfortable and how accepting they are about it. I think the best thing to remember is that if they don't accept it, then clearly they weren't a friend in the first place.

Most people I know of don't care if someone is gay, straight, or bi. When I came out to all of my friends, nobody cared. And it ultimately made my friendships stronger because of the fact that I was being honest and that I trusted them enough to share it. I honestly wouldn't worry too much about it. Your true friends will accept you no matter what. And the one's who don't, it's their lose. :)

As for the best way to come out to a friend... I don't really think there is a "best" way to do it. Just tell them that there is something serious that you would like to talk to them about and share with them. And then go from there.

[ImCoolBeans]

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To be honest, there is no real way to tell or be sure. If you want to do it you'll just have to go out on a limb and put some faith into them. Remember that nobody is making you do this, and if you're not comfortable with it then you don't need to go through with it.

[scottnesss]

there is no sure fire way to tell you if they will be accepting or not im afraid. Everybody is different. However, if they are not accepting then you havnt lost anything, as the experience will show you that your true friends wont care if your gay or bi, only that you are you x

[Jdawg91]

They may treat you differently but depending on how strong your bond is with them they wont be bothered.

[Tyryham]

If there ur true friens they will accept u.....I just came out yesterday over text and my best friend understood..just ask them not to treat u differently. Good luck tell me hoe it goes

[KarkatLuv]

It depends on the people, all of my friends know i'm bi, only one person actually started to avoid me (he found out he was the guy i liked)

[Lights]

Girls are usually better at accepting than guys are, but nobody on here can really make a judgement as to whether or not your friends will be hostile or not, because we don't know them.
You can probably gage for yourself how well you think they would take the news, judging from how their general attitudes are. To get an idea of how they feel about sexuality, you could try and casually ask them what they think of gay marriage or gay adoption. Eric put it quite nicely above, though; your friends may respect you more for having told them because it is a sign that you trust them.

There is no universal best way to come out, unfortunately. What may be the best way for you may not be the best way for someone else. If you're a shy person who's not very confident, it may be good for you to edge on to the topic of sexuality, and let them work it out for themselves. If they're at all perceptive, they'll start to pick it up from the way you're speaking and behaving about the topic of sexuality. Other people like to do it over text/online so then they don't have to see the person's initial reaction. It really varies from person to person, you just have to think about a way that would be comfortable for you to tell any of your friends. But in the end, you shouldn't do anything you're not comfortable with. Make sure it feels right.

Honestly though, if any of them did reject you (which is very uncommon from what I know), they were never really your friend in the first place. Anyone who cares about you will respect and love you for exactly who you are. Never adhere to other people's expectations of you; be who you want to be.

[OregonStateDude]

I told my one straight friend, and he was down with it. Mainly because he knows I will always give him a "helping hand".

[Iron Man]

If any of them judge you because you are gay, then they aren't your real friends, and therefore aren't worth your time. Don't be afraid to be yourself.