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some guy123
March 31st, 2012, 09:44 PM
Hey guys, just need some advice...

I was out drinking for my birthday and i got pretty smashed. I ended up back at my college dorm and there is a room of girls across the hall. Anyways, me and 2 of my roommates go in there and only 1 of the girls is there, so we all chill in the common room. Shes a really cute girl too. So we do a few more shots, keep in mind its like 2 AM at this point. So we all start talking and I made a few flirty remarks towards this girl, who was also drunk but nowhere as bad as me. So my 2 roommates, hearing this both laugh and leave the room and shut the door. Next thing I know, this girl pulls me into her room and starts making out with me.

I was completely taken by surprise by this because she is an extremely shy girl. But this time she was just all over me. Anyways, we get out of our clothes and start to get things moving. She tells me she has only had sex with 1 other guy before, and I can tell she is inexperienced. The whole time though I could not get an erection. I have gotten erections before when I was tipsy, but I have never been with a girl while I was this drunk. We ended up just fooling around but it was embarrassing for me that I couldnt get it up.

So I end up going back to my room and go to sleep, and text her the next day to go talk to her. Basically I just apologized for how drunk I was and stuff like that and told her that I didnt want things to be awkward between us, and that I want her to not be as shy around me because I think she is a really cool girl. She said that she was glad that I actually came and talked to her about it with her, and that she didnt think I lot of guys would do that. That was the last time I've talked to her though and everything still seems very awkward. Like I said, we live across the hall from each other and it seems like we are trying to avoid each other. It really sucks because I kind of like her.

Now I dont know what to do, its been a week and I havent talked to her; havent even really seen her around. Like I said, she has always been shy but now its like she isnt even around at all, and it just feels like we are trying to avoid each other. I just want to make things better between us and I would really like a chance to redeem myself in bed because I feel like a jackass that i couldnt get an erection even though shes a very good looking girl. I dont want her to feel like it was something she did wrong. I just need some advice on what I should do. Thanks guys.

Truth
March 31st, 2012, 10:37 PM
Ask her on a date. Simple as that, if you want to get rid of the awkwardness. You say she's cute, cool, and she was totally down to fuck you - she sounds like girlfriend material.

If you aren't interested in dating (which would allow you more chances in bed + make it less awkward), see if she's up for being a friend with benifits.

If neither of those options are good in your opinion, I dunno what you could do.

Desuetude
April 1st, 2012, 05:49 AM
Yeah maybe ask her out even if it isn't on a proper date, just ask her for a coffee or something just to break the tension. The longer you leave it the more awkward it will get and you may both start thinking that you don't like each other or something. You say she's shy so I think it's best if you make the first move.
Just talk to her, purposely corner her (not in a bad way). Make jokes with her and act friendly, if you dont seem awkward then it's likely she will start to relax a little as well but if you are all tense then she will feel it.

some guy123
April 2nd, 2012, 10:18 PM
Yea, she is definitely girlfriend material. And I feel like if everything went smoothly then yea, it would be a lot easier to move onto the next step and ask her out. But things really didnt go too well thanks to my drunken retardation.... So even though she was DTF, I feel like because it ended up turning out bad that she probably lost interest in me and probably wont give me another shot to make it up to her. Do you think a girl would give a guy another chance with her if he made a fool of himself the first time? I mean she was drunk too so she definitely wasnt on her A game either, but still, I feel like it was more on me...

Stronger
April 2nd, 2012, 11:18 PM
Don't see why you should feel like a jackass because you couldn't get an erection, it happens. But I agree with the above, try asking her on a date, or something; things over text can get awkward since its not in person, but once your together it should be better. Just try and make things fun and none awkward, and just simply enjoy yourself.

plebble
April 3rd, 2012, 11:34 AM
Ask her on a date, tell her how you feel. Maybe even call her with your phone.