How does it start? How do you know when?

[canadaski]

Ho do gay relationships typically start with two closeted or one closeted and one open partner? I'm in love with a friend of mine and pretty confident that he's gay.


How do you know when to or if you should make a move? Do people just lean in for a kiss out of the blue or something?
Do friends typically come out to each other before a relationship?
If a friend knows you're gay and is into you as well, does that necessarily mean they'll make a move?


How does this work? How do you minimize the risk of losing the friend if your instincts are off?

[Abyssal Echo]

Ho do gay relationships typically start with two closeted or one closeted and one open partner? I'm in love with a friend of mine and pretty confident that he's gay.


How do you know when to or if you should make a move? Do people just lean in for a kiss out of the blue or something? you just get feeling and then try and kiss him if hes into it things will progress from there. if not then he wiil stop u either before or after the kiss. then its time for you to appologise
Do friends typically come out to each other before a relationship? in my case yes
If a friend knows you're gay and is into you as well, does that necessarily mean they'll make a move? maybe maybe not they don't know if you are interested in them till you say or do something


How does this work? How do you minimize the risk of losing the friend if your instincts are off? ask some questions first kinda feel him out to see how he feels about gays and gay sex or about guys messin aroung with other guys if hes cool with it hes prob approchable if not then drop the subject.

[canadaski]

ask some questions first kinda feel him out to see how he feels about gays and gay sex or about guys messin aroung with other guys if hes cool with it hes prob approchable if not then drop the subject.

Wasn't exactly what I'd asked but that's okay. I have a former (different) friend that was shit talking gays and I audibly set him straight, my friend I'm into was noticably more relaxed around me after this and even came over to stand besid me during the argument. Also, a lot of the stuff he says and does is shockingly similar or identical to stuff I said or did to hide my sexuality in the past.

Furthermore, his interest in women is lacking and whenever he does mention women's attractiveness it always seems forced or very uninterested (never calls any women sexy or hot or talks about having sex with them, but instead uses "attractive" and "gorgeous" in a seemingly weightless manner.

I went out with him today and I swore he said "guess who's getting dick tonight" as a joke in a funny accent. I didn't want to ask him what he'd said because I didn't want to embarass him so I laughed.

Also, he keeps bringing up situations where someone called him a fag or something. It feels like he's searching for a reaction or something as these typically come out of almost nowhere.

It would be so much easier to just ask if he's gay but that would be rude and I know it's a very hard question to answer for many.