My Mom's Boyfriend

[Voleurz]

Let me start by saying my parents got a divorce last December. At 17, it didn't phase me too much as I'll be gone soon anyways. Both of them are now in other relationships.

My dad moved 7 hours away and met a woman. I visit them almost every weekend. She's lovely. I love spending time with her and talking to her. It's as if I've known her my whole life. They seem really happy together

My Mom's boyfriend is a different story. Don't get me wrong. He's a really decent guy, he treats her right and he treats us right. He's kind and funny. He lives near where my dad lives now, so he only comes up on the weekends. I'm having a really hard time being around him. When he's here, I avoid him like the plague, and my mom notices. I talk to her about how I don't want to be around him, and how uncomfortable I feel around him. The worst part is that she tells him that, which has now made it even worse. I simply refuse to be alone with him. I'm not comfortable around him, but he hasn't done anything wrong.

My mom doesn't understand, and neither do I. Why have I accepted my dads girlfriend into my life but not him?

[Desuetude]

This is exactly how I was. Loved my Dads girlfriend but detested my mums boyfriend and although there were a few reasons to dislike him there were none that were actually valid enough to be how I was (side note: They are both ex's now -.-)

My mum told her boyfriend that I didn't like him, I think he figured it out anyway. There isn;t much you can do, if he makes her happy then try as best you can to be supportive, if you act out as i did and refuse to see him then it os only going to make things worse for you. It's only weekends so that isn't so bad, maybe try to arrange things with friends or go to see your Dad when he comes round, spend more time out of the house or just away from him. Yes, your mum may notice but I you are trying and I know how hard it is to try and get along with him.
How long have they been going out because honestly it might not even work out. My mum and her boyfriend went out for a year before she found out what he aws reaally like and now he is reffered to as "scumbag" or "Bastard" which is always nice to hear. Even if they are fine and get along really well they could still end up splitting up like my dad and his girlfriend had been going out 3 years and they were so loved up then just last week I find out they have permently split up.
i only told my stories so it could give you something to relate to and so you can know that even if she does like him now it might not work out and that's just what you have to look for.