Annoyed at a friend

[Schnope]

So I have this mate and I've known him well for around a year almost and he is like a best friend to me. I know him in real life but most of the communication we have is through Skype.

We used to talk every night on Skype, we've been doing that for almost 9 months. However, recently he hasn't really been on. Not because he is busy, but because I know he doesn't want to. How? I know this sounds a bit stalkerish but he is always online on Facebook. I sound a bit obsessive, but I value our friendship and its weird for him not to hop on all of a sudden.

I have spoken to him about it, but every time I ask why he isn't on, he obviously logs on first and then tells me 'sorry im watchin tv, or watchin footy'. What I don't understand is that you can't be on Skype when you're already on the computer on Facebook. Yes, you may say he has other things, but he clearly doesn't and he has been on Skype while doing other things in the past.

It's pissing me off a lot, and I feel like he does not give a shit about me as he is trying to avoid me. We're meant to be best friends, does not fucking seem like it and I am just annoyed. I wish he would treat me the way I treat him.

I don't want to give him up as a friend, we get along really well in real life. Am I being a bit too obsessive? Because it feels like it. I don't know anymore. :what:

[farkingdom]

Here's my story... although it's a little different from yours. Last time, my high school best friend and I too chatted on Skype almost everyday. We hung out together and do pretty much a lot of stuffs together. This best friend of mine makes me really happy. We are intimate and I know I love him very much... I could risk anything for him.

One day, he got to college and we contacted less often. Meanwhile, I was drafted into a short-time national service, and what upsets me is that he didn't contact me much while I'm there. During my national service, I tried to text him with my stories and problems, but only to get a short or no reply. When I managed to log into Facebook, he had new college friends posting on his FB walls and photos and all happily commenting/chatting together. It's as if he didn't know or pretended I do not exist anymore. I gave up so we did not contact for months. It's painful.

Until the end of my national service, he contacted me and said he missed me a lot. He even said that I was still the best of his friends. Really? After all these months? But I trusted him simply because I missed him and loved him too much, so I reconciled immediately with my best friend. But things weren't the same as before, on Skype, he spends rather more time with his new found group of college friends. He even has this "girl" that I think is slowly replacing me. I tried inviting him for a hangout or a movie, but he rejected most of it. So, this is what I did to reduce the pain- don't log into Skype at all.

So I started college. I decided to find myself more new friends. Both of us, my best friend and I, didn't talk at all during my time in college but only the beginning of it. I supposed he was "busy" with his college stuffs. Honestly, I can't help to miss my best friend every single day.

3 months to be exact- we did not talk. Until suddenly one day, out of desperation, I went to poked him in Facebook. He reacted back by saying that he missed me and stuff. And that hit me- this is the same thing that is happening over again.

Here's my advice. Treat him well no matter how bad he treats you. That's what I did with my best friend and even though when we are falling apart, he will still realize and come back one day. If he doesn't, then it's time to move on.

[iallen]

give him space and he will come around