I have a mother, not a mom.

[jay_]

When I was 2 years old my mom up and left us - leaving my brother and I with out dad. Our dad has been amazing, he is my mom AND my dad.

I'm getting older and I seem to be getting more and more angry towards her, I keep thinking like how can somebody do that to their kids.. or their husband.. like leave them and never talk to them, or keep in contact with them.. I just don't understand it. I could never leave my dad or my brother and never talk to them again.. no matter how bad it got I would always at least know where they were..

I've talked to my older brother about it but he told me not to worry about it you made it this far without her - you don't need her. He actually hates her but it's understandable because he was much older when she left, he actually remembers her - I don't. I really can't stop wondering and I don't know why.. I wonder if she still loves me.. does she remember me.. does she care.. where she is.. what she's doing.. where she lives.. like I have absolutely no idea, she could be dead for all I know..

When I talk to my dad he doesn't really talk about her, he just assures me that he would never do that and basically the same thing my brother told me, I've made it this far without her.. I really want to know but my dad won't tell me anything about her.. he just says that I'm better off not knowing.. I asked her if she died, as of 2010 - no (but he won't tell me how he knows, all he said is a friend told him they saw her)

I've tried searching her name on Facebook but I don't know her last name, I've tried everything - I just want answers to my questions..

Does anyone else have a missing parent?

[honeybear]

I kinda understand how you feel but even tho you are hurt and angry if you don't let it go (at least partially) you're gonna make your life miserable. Maybe she had her reasons...maybe it was better if she left and not stuck around and made your life worse... I think you should keep trying to find her and get closure but don't let her decision ruin your life... enjoy the family u have <3

[Short Circuit]

You could start by finding your parents marriage certificate. On there it will tell you her maiden name and date of birth. You can then go to your local government offices and find out if she has remarried.

But can I ask why you are looking for her now? Do you think she will greet you with arms wide open and calling you her little boy? You could end up with a heap of pain, and a big rejection, you must be prepared for that.

[JJSSHH]

I havet had a parent leave or missing, but i can understand your distress. Even though you may not like what she did, you still want to know where you came from! Like other have said, marrige certificates are always a good way to go! Best of Luck!