going from private to public school

[jay_]

This year I decided I didn't want to go to private school anymore so I switched to a public school. I wanted to switch because I didn't like the people there, sure I had lots of friends but the people there were fake and we were all at that age where drama was starting to happen, people cared about what clothes you wear. My brother did the same thing as me and he advised me to do it as he said it was the best thing he's ever done and he doesn't regret it a bit.

I really like pubic school, I'm quite popular and I've made a lot of friends. The best part is, nobody knows my personal business. Nobody knows where I live, nobody knows my family.. I don't have a mom, It's just me and my dad. Sure have a mother somewhere but she left us when I was 2 and I haven't heard from her since. (that's another thread)

I'm keeping a secret from my friends, it's not bad or anything but I really didn't want to be that kid that comes to a new school in their Mercedes and show up to school in their designer clothes and act like a snot and magically have friends. I went to school with those people, I wanted to escape that. Basically, I want to fit in, not stand out. I feel that when people know where I live and know what my dad does they aren't going to like me for me, they're going to like me for the things I have.. I don't want to be used by "friends" and I'm scared of that happening. I want to have people over to my house for a sleepover or pool party maybe but I don't know....

I just don't know what do to :whoops:

[Mirage]

Hopefully there are some people that have almost the same situation as you and those are the people you should try to seek out. They will lie you for you, and not your possessions. Even if you cannot find similar people, there will always be people who appreciate you. Even if it looks like things aren't going so well, you will find real friends that you won't need to put in quotation marks. Good luck, and Godspeed!

[jay_]

Today is the day.. I'm having people over tonight.. my brother is home so he is picking them up then dropping us off at the house and going out with his friends. My dad is going to the to his friends house down the road to play pool.. Should be fun!!

[Destructive Impulse]

We all keep secrets from our friends. The worst thing people at my school know about me is I'm suicidal. Only a few know that and that's barely scratchin the surface.

[Stronger]

That can be a tough situation, but if they truely were your friends then they should like you for you and not your possessions. I wish you luck with the party your having, but should your friends start to show signs of wanting you for your money, then its time to move on from them before things get out of hand.

[Carly011]

You dont have to tell everyone everything. You can pick and choose which friends you want to tell these things to. Maybe tell only your really good friends, that way some people know but not everyone

[Destructive Impulse]

Wait a sec is your secrete that your families well off? Are you trying to hide the fact you don't have to worry bout money?
If so you have no idea how much I envy u

[DerBear]

Wait a sec is your secrete that your families well off? Are you trying to hide the fact you don't have to worry bout money?
If so you have no idea how much I envy u

Look at it from this scenario

You have a big house
You have a new/recent car
You have designer clothes
You have a slight attitude towards others (possibly due to your up briniging)
You don't value money like others do.

So others see your fancy car
Others notice your clothes
Others notice your parents new or recent car
You invite friends over to your house. Big house.
People at school notice you don't have the same attitude towards things that they do.

Soon people realize you have things they don't

This leads to two things

1. Jelousy/Anger[ Why does he have new things, that I don't? How is it fair he has money and I don't
2. Friends that are only with you because you have money.-not nice for you is it?

Money causes problems and as the only time I ever attended public school was when I was in France and Nobody knew me. I was never really seen as having money because I adapt.

OP.

If people notice your stuff, you don't have to tell them anything.

You don't lie just never talk about yourself.

Act like you don't care. By the sounds of it you don't. If you don't act better than anyone (your not in the first place anyway) then there is no problem? is there?

You will have enemies but what kid doesn't?

Best of luck

[Destructive Impulse]

...my parents are kicking me out of the house the day I graduate. There's only 11000 dollars in my college fund (the rest of the money I need to earn through scholarships). If I dont go to college I don't see a penny of the 11 grand and Ill be livin on the streets. Sorry i cant exactly feel bad for yall XD. I feel like it's appropriate to envy jay a little. Besides if people find out how well you don't change you as a person. Ull still be the same guy you were yesterday. Its only when people act better than others and take everything for granted that i get pissed off

howd the party go btw

Please don't double post, use the edit button to edit your original post -FullyAlive