Saving his feelings, losing mine...

[Smeagol]

I asked my crush out (a guy this time) and he went out with me for less than a day before I had to break up with him to save him from me. Ugh. And now he has his own perfect girlfriend who would never do such a thing to him, messing with his emotions. AND... AND... I still love him. I wish I could tell him that, but that would be really screwed up because... well, he has such a good relationship, and I don't want to hurt him. I love him too much to hurt him. So I am sitting by, wishing I could be stronger while he is with his girlfriend who he is constantly gushing to me about. Oh, she is so pretty, smart, etc. So, yes... I feel like a fail. I'm so dead inside, like dry leaves. It sucks, seriously, it does. It is just so screwed up. I love the guy who I broke up with so that he wouldn't be hurt. I am a depressed little pinhead who is going off to boarding school who he never sees, versus a stable, reliable girl who will always be there for him? No competition. None at all! Any advice/moral support?

[plebble]

to save him from me

What's so bad about you? You can't be that bad of a person, if you really liked him that much you should have stayed with him and given him the choice if he likes you or not. I think you should talk to him about this honestly, no lying to him and no hiding things. Good luck :)

[Smeagol]

Well... I am not a bad person, it's just that I'll be gone and I am depressing and I am not popular or anything good for him. And theres the other girl, who he likes more and therefore should be with. I don't want to screw his relationship up. Apparently its on the rocks now, but I don't want to mess it up, and I've been giving him advice which he asked for to get her back. I want whats best for him...

[plebble]

Well... I am not a bad person, it's just that I'll be gone and I am depressing and I am not popular or anything good for him. And theres the other girl, who he likes more and therefore should be with. I don't want to screw his relationship up. Apparently its on the rocks now, but I don't want to mess it up, and I've been giving him advice which he asked for to get her back. I want whats best for him...

That's very sweet of you, you should tell him all this and how you feel about him!

[Buranri]

Very little annoys me more than a girl who breaks up with someone they have feelings for because of something they think is wrong with themselves. Let your boyfriend decide whether it's a big deal, don't make both of you upset for something you're imagining.

[plebble]

Honestly just be honest with him and tell him how you feel. It's his choice in the end what he wants but seriously just talk to him. You really don't seem like there's anything wrong with you, your feelings towards him show how perfect you really are, so don't worry about yourself :)

[Smeagol]

He's already dating somebody else...

[Buranri]

He's already dating somebody else...

Well yeah, not much you can do now. But just general advice.

[plebble]

Still, just tell him how you feel, he might consider you in the future

[JasonFlagmaster]

First off, tell him that you don't like how he's "gushing" about his current GF all the time.
Because, since it upsets you, and you don't talk to him about it, the anger and sadness will build, and you'll eventually blow up (not literally!).

Second, never feel bad about yourself when it comes to relationships. Don't think that there's something wrong with you, if there was, he wouldn't have said yes too dating you in the first place.

Third, like what everyone else has stated, you need to talk to him, explain to him how you're feeling and that this is causing a lot of grief and sadness trying to bottle it up. Don't do it in a "Oh pity me!" just say it how it is. Be confident in yourself. Confidence will get you further in life, then bashing yourself on little mistakes.

[Jmihas]

It's life, you can't get all what you want and you did the right thing for your own sake. No sarcasm or mean, it's fact.

[plebble]

No, don't deal with it like 'Jmihas' said, telling him how you feel is the best option

[Smeagol]

Ok, thanks for all of the advice :) I actually think that I am over him though. He's went his way, I mad a bad decision, but he's happy and I guess I can move on.