Help :(

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It's a long read, but please help :(...

I met this girl on the internet in June 2011 and we have spoken every day since (we haven't properly met). We got together as boyfriend and girlfriend in October 2011 and things were going so well, we felt so close and trusted each other. We'd talk on the phone, talk on MSN or Skype and even go on webcam to each other, everything was perfect. I loved her old personality, she was funny, witty, silly, beautiful, cute, and amazing in every way.

But in mid-February this year she started acting a little different, by different I mean "moody" or something. She wasn't on her period or anything. And this went on for a few weeks, some days she'd fall in love with me again and some days she'd act strange. A few weeks ago she started an argument with me about something, she was really really angry at something and took it all out on me and she's been in the worst mood ever since. On Wednesday last week (21st march) she said she's sorry for acting like this to me and she's going to make an effort, I accepted that. Then the day after (22nd march) she decided she doesn't love me anymore and hates me again... I got really upset, I have no idea what made her like this, we were honestly the cutest couple in the world. Now she hates me so much, she blocked and deleted me from MSN, doesn't use Skype and changed her mobile number! I don't know what I've done wrong and it made me cry quite a lot and I've been so depressed, I think it's weird for a 16 year old boy to cry, so that shows that I was really upset. We were so close and loved each other so much, now she hates me and I don't know why! :(

I really want to talk to her and ask her what I've done wrong, but all she says is that I'm annoying and creepy, I don't know what I did, she was fine with me before, she's changed. I want to get back with her, I know that she is a really nice person really, dunno what's got into her. She told me that she has a new boyfriend, but I'm almost 100% certain she's lying...
Btw she's actually been really really horrible to me recently, she said things like "I hope you die alone" and "fuck off" and called me names, told me I'm ugly. And I have never ever been mean to her, I have always been lovely to her and she told me I'm perfect before.

This has made me so depressed because one minute we were in love, the next she hates me. I haven't eaten much food, haven't had much sleep, I keep worrying at school and I just feel really ill because of depression. I really want her back, she is a lovely girl really and this has broken my heart, how can I show that I still care?
Please please please can someone help me on this? She was my first girlfriend and the only way I can contact her now is Twitter, which she doesn't use much anyway. I want her back :(

Click Here (https://picasaweb.google.com/109987758342934020353/30Mar2012?authkey=Gv1sRgCJTzkvOB-rSYaQ#slideshow/5725752108455540146) to see a bit of our chat we had on Twitter, see, she really doesn't like me anymore and I don't know why :( (updated 30th March)

[Thugboy101]

welll first off online relationships dont ussaly work out like that 9 times out 10 but but theres a probability that she may have fouind her someone in her home tow you really shouldn't get upset about a long distent relationship, the best thing to do is try to find someone local that you can phiscally be with thats another reason shes acting like that she may need physical effection that she3 know you can't give her.

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welll first off online relationships dont ussaly work out like that 9 times out 10 but but theres a probability that she may have fouind her someone in her home tow you really shouldn't get upset about a long distent relationship, the best thing to do is try to find someone local that you can phiscally be with thats another reason shes acting like that she may need physical effection that she3 know you can't give her.

I perfectly understand what you're trying to say, but no she hasn't found someone I just know it. I think she's just going through one of those times when teenagers randomly change emotions. Honestly we were the most perfect internet couple ever and I promised her I'd go see her soon when I can drive, she loved me so much. I want to know how I can get her back.

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Update: my ex has recently started hating her best friend too :/

[Desuetude]

Maybe she's just going through a hard time at the moment? Do you know if she is having problems with family, school, anything that might make her behave differently? That's the problem about internet dating, it's pretty easy to lie and although you might have had a very close relationship she could have kept things from you to keep you from getting hurt? You need to think about how much you really know her, I mean you can put on a totally different persona talking to someone over the internet and be anything you want.
Maybe try letting her calm down for a while if you really want to try it again. Don't be clingy and always try contacting her. If you know her address then after a few days try sending her a letter explaining how you feel and just explaining how much she means to you. However if you can't meet up with her then I don't think it's likely to go anywhere yet, it's just the intamicy isn't there when you talk over chat or even skype. Try to meet up with her if you can contact her, If you do then you can move on from the stage you are at now that seems to be going no where and actually start moving forward which is what you and her want but I have to warn you that if you are quite far away that could be a reason against why you should be together because it will unfortunatly affect things. Just think about if you can actually make it work.

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Maybe she's just going through a hard time at the moment? Do you know if she is having problems with family, school, anything that might make her behave differently? That's the problem about internet dating, it's pretty easy to lie and although you might have had a very close relationship she could have kept things from you to keep you from getting hurt? You need to think about how much you really know her, I mean you can put on a totally different persona talking to someone over the internet and be anything you want.
Maybe try letting her calm down for a while if you really want to try it again. Don't be clingy and always try contacting her. If you know her address then after a few days try sending her a letter explaining how you feel and just explaining how much she means to you. However if you can't meet up with her then I don't think it's likely to go anywhere yet, it's just the intamicy isn't there when you talk over chat or even skype. Try to meet up with her if you can contact her, If you do then you can move on from the stage you are at now that seems to be going no where and actually start moving forward which is what you and her want but I have to warn you that if you are quite far away that could be a reason against why you should be together because it will unfortunatly affect things. Just think about if you can actually make it work.

I suppose I could give her time. I sometimes talk to her best friend and I've been asking her what's the matter with her and she doesn't seem to know either, I don't think there are any family troubles. She's recently started going out with her friends again after school which she hasn't done since about August. She also told me to never send her anything in the post as her mother gets involved and mocks her for having a boyfriend and stuff. She is also bisexual, so she might be curious about girls at the moment I really don't know, but I don't think that this is the end although she hates me more than anyone in the world and I am a "nasty twisted boy" (I'm not mean to her at all, I'm actually nicer to her than anyone else, I don't know what's up with her). So that's upset me. I think I'll just wait a while.

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Today is the first day we haven't contacted each other since June 10th when we met :(

Edit: She's spoken to me on twitter and she really doesn't like me, I still love her an awful lot :(

[Renee]

Aww... I have an online relationship and I'm so afraid it'll end this way. Sometimes it's so easy to act cold to a person you've never really met. It's probably not even your fault. Maybe you stopped complimenting her enough, i don't know.
Did you suggest something to her? Did you get too serious?
Still, it sounds like you're not the problem. Do what you think is right. Read your past chats. Maybe there's a clue there. Meet another girl.

[Sudds3]

I feel bad for you! It sounds like she is bipolar or something.....I would just let her be, I think of it that if one half of the relationship isnt happy, the other half is. If one half wants to break up, the other half must comply. If one half doesnt want to see the other half anymore, the other half needs to accept it because it wont work out! She just isnt the girl for you

[plebble]

Aww... I have an online relationship and I'm so afraid it'll end this way. Sometimes it's so easy to act cold to a person you've never really met. It's probably not even your fault. Maybe you stopped complimenting her enough, i don't know.
Did you suggest something to her? Did you get too serious?
Still, it sounds like you're not the problem. Do what you think is right. Read your past chats. Maybe there's a clue there. Meet another girl.

We were so perfect, i was complimenting her all the time

[Renee]

We were so perfect, i was complimenting her all the time

Maybe she just can't deal with a long distant relationship. Probably it's more than that. Maybe the friends she's started to hang out with think it's odd to have a boyfriend you've never truly met. Maybe she's just gotten too comfortable- sounds like you're perfect to her. That's easy to take advantage of.

[Kavin34]

Leave her alone, forget it, you will find your love!

[plebble]

Maybe she just can't deal with a long distant relationship. Probably it's more than that. Maybe the friends she's started to hang out with think it's odd to have a boyfriend you've never truly met. Maybe she's just gotten too comfortable- sounds like you're perfect to her. That's easy to take advantage of.

It's not that at all, her friends don't know I exist. Yesterday she told me she's upset about something but she wont tell me because she hates me, and she's recently fallen out with her best friend who she's been best friends with since she was 2 or 3 years old.
i dont know whats the matter with her :(

[Jmihas]

Now you see why I never tried date online although I like someone.

[plebble]

She's realised how she's been recently and she's apologised. We're having a break from our relationship for a bit until she feels she's back to normal again, in the meanwhile we're just friends. So that's a good start :yes:

[lipstick_kisses23]

The way she was speaking to you was just wrong, you don't talk to someone that you supposedly loved like they never mattered. Forgetting about her is going to hurt, a lot. But I really think it's what would be best for you. I'm 100% positive you'll find someone around you who will absolutely adore you inside and out just because you put so much love into them =]. You seem like a really good kid at heart and lots of girls would kill to have someone to give them the attention you gave her. Just be strong and stick it out for you. <3 good luck sweet heart. Lots of us are here if you need an ear.

[Truth]

Long distance relationships don't work.

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Lol this is just becoming a blog now of our 'relationship'.
So recently she's been sick and not feeling well, she came online on windows live messenger earlier and the first thing i said was "are you feeling any better?"
and she replied "stop talking to me!"..
What have I done wrong? I showed her I still care :/ :(

[Kiss]

Lol this is just becoming a blog now of our 'relationship'.
So recently she's been sick and not feeling well, she came online on windows live messenger earlier and the first thing i said was "are you feeling any better?"
and she replied "stop talking to me!"..
What have I done wrong? I showed her I still care :/ :(

Tell her that, you don't understand where this is all coming from and you still want to talk and be idk something with her. Tell her that you'll always be there for her, if you will, and try giving her a bit of space and maybe she'll talk to you again? But since I'm not patient what I would do is just talk to her until I understood and then maybe leave her alone.
It would hurt, but woo that's love, how lovely. Try to not get even more attached it'll just be worse, message me if you need, good luck :)

[plebble]

Tell her that, you don't understand where this is all coming from and you still want to talk and be idk something with her. Tell her that you'll always be there for her, if you will, and try giving her a bit of space and maybe she'll talk to you again? But since I'm not patient what I would do is just talk to her until I understood and then maybe leave her alone.
It would hurt, but woo that's love, how lovely. Try to not get even more attached it'll just be worse, message me if you need, good luck :)

I've told her that, she just says I'm just making her feel guilty so then she hates me more! :/

It's been about 2 and a half weeks now, I still love her