Need advice on this situation

[jhv222]

Ill there to make this brief so no one has to read a wall of text, even though I feel I have a lot to write.

-This girl and I are freshmen in College
-She has had a boyfriend for about a year and a half. He goes to a community college about 15 minutes away.

So I've been into this girl since the first semester, and still interested in her this semester. I DO NOT want to come in-between her and her boyfriend, but If they were to breakup she would be one of my top choices of girls I want to date.

We don't hang out or talk consistently. Kind of have times where we won't talk or text for like a week or two unless we pass by each other, but we are always happy to see each other. Sometimes, like this week, we hung out almost every single day for like a few hours.

When we hang out its usually like watching TV or studying (but we tend to drift off from studying and just talk about stuff). I try not to flirt too much because I don't want her to feel like I'm being to aggressive because she has a boyfriend. Ill do little friendly flirts like make strong eye contact, give her a hug when a see her, high fives, and "accidentally" brushing her arm or something

Two nights ago she left her hoodie and dorm room keys in my room after we studied and watched some TV. Im not sure if she did this on purpose so she could stop by the next morning (I like to think she did, haha but realize that may not be the case)

Basically I would like advice on what I can do now in-order to be a potential boyfriend if she were to ever break up with hers. I am not only focusing on her a potential girlfriend, but I feel like I have had a better connection with her than other girls that I'm thinking about dating. I don't know what to do because I don't want to be too passive and get stuck in the friend zone, but at the same time not so aggressive that she gets confused and loses interest in me. I also don't want to cut her completely off since I do value our friendship...but after we hang out for even an hour, she gets stuck in my head for the rest of the day.


Post kinda got a bit longer than I expect it haha, but id appreciate any input or advice about this situation. I can add some more or explain more if needed.

Thanks for the help!
Jason

[Thugboy101]

Well first off its perfectly normal to feel like that. second the only thing you can do is be your self dont change because what i think is goin on is she scoping you out she could be testing to see if you are going to be the same way and the same guy that she hangs out with however it could possib;y be that she jus seeking a friend the only way you can be a poteinal bf is to stay the same and to show her that you can and will be there for her as a friend and a boyfriend .

[Desuetude]

If you think that's a long post you should see some of mine, lol.

You seem like a really decent kind of guy not wanting to come between her and her boyfriend and trying to make sure you don't over do it so well done for that.
If they ever do break up then I think you should think about telling her you like her. Don't straight away say 'would you go out with me?' because she might think you've just been friends with her so you have a better chance of dating. Try to get it in as subtly as possible and don't push her on the subject. Getting friendzoned is hard but if she only likes you as a friend then you might have to just accept it. Tell her how you feel because she is likely to be more understanding if she knows some of what you feel for her but try not to freak her out because she might not trust you again.

[jhv222]

Thank you for the replays, just reading them helps me out a lot.

If anyone else has any input or advice I would really appreciate it. This has been something on my mind for almost my entire time at college and gets stressful sometimes.

My biggest concern is that I will end up in the friend zone and would never get a shot. So if anyone has tips about how I can avoid falling in the friend zone while she still has a boyfriend.