Scared :/

[loganbenson]

Hi everyone. This is my first time posting in here. I am 15 and my brother is 13. My parents are 48 and 46. I am scared. I am scared about school, I am scared about death, I am scared about everyhting in life. I cannot connect with people because I am scared. I am worried about my parents dying and when I die. I am worried about my grades and I am worried that all this being scred is going to cause me to go into depression. I sometimes cry myself to sleep about this, I talk to my brother and all. I am scared and am wondering what I should do. Please help:(

[Stronger]

Why are you so scared thought, has this been going on your whole life? Just start recently? I mean everyone gets scared about death and parents dying, but why do you let it consume you? At these kind of times, you gotta say to yourself, Hey why dwell on the negitive, when I can look forward to my whole life ahead of me. Just think, one day you can have a sucessful life and what not. I can relate a little to you, cause sometimes, I get those moments where I worry about death, but you just gotta tell yourself, to look forward to the positives in life. As my dad always told me, life is wayyy to short to worry about, just remind yourself that, and just remember, live life to the fullest. <3

[Carlyle]

This might be harder than it sounds, but you need to let go. Its okay to be worried about dying, its harder for some people to wrap there heads around the concept. Its harder to accept the idea of someone you're close to dying too. But you need to relax and talk more about this to people you know. Worrying too much just stresses you out, and I'm sure your parents alone have a good 20 years or so to go, you even more than that. When it comes to grades, you just need to work harder or ask the teacher to help you if you can't understand something, especially if its that harmful to your classes overall grade. Try not to let this stress you out too much, its more of a bother than anything. Think about it on occasion and try to realize that it will be a while before it happens, that its okay. Just don't get yourself all worked up over it.

[Mirage]

Welcome to VT.

You don't need to be scared, just think! We are all like family here, you can tell us anything and we will help you through it. Have you been scared all along, or has this started recently? Is it because of school?

If you answer, I would be willing to help you out :)

[loganbenson]

I don't know why I am scared. I get good grades. I have been bullied in school and people do not respect me a lot. I don't know how to gain respect? I am just lost

[Desuetude]

I don't know why I am scared. I get good grades. I have been bullied in school and people do not respect me a lot. I don't know how to gain respect? I am just lost

Gaining respect is a tricky one. Some people become bitches and bullies just to stay top dog but that's the wrong kind of respect. If you want friends then you just need to be yourself, socialise and get to know people, respect is something that is earned so you need to work on it with people but being grow up and mature usually gets more respect from peers. Do you know why you were bullied? Im sorry if it's a hard questions but if we know what people picked on you for then maybe we could try and help you overcome that and help a little?
Teen years are all about finding yourself and who you are. That includeds friends, likes, hobbies anything from the trivial to the important so don't feel as if you have to know right now, you have Time to find out.

[Stryker125]

Don't worry man. Life's really not that scary. It's actually quite beautiful. Feel free to PM me if you ever wanna talk.

[Jmihas]

Don't be scared, think of positive stuff and future. :D

[Sudds3]

Well about a year ago, I had dreams every night (nightmares really) that my parents would die unexpectedly, my friends would die, then I would kill myself because I couldnt stand life anymore......ive had over 50 of those dreams and I wake up crying and sweating and cold. I wake up believing that everyone is dead so I curl up into a ball and cry until I hear someones voice. I run out and find everyone is ok. It got me afraid I would lose everyone and myself, I think I might be able to help you since i know a little of what your going through. PM anytime, ill get back to you ASAP. I hope you get better and live happy



-Adam

[swimmerboy95]

Alright just breathe for a minute bud. All the things you are scared about most likely won't happen for a very long time. Everyone our age is worried about grades so thats normal and to be scared of death is also pretty common.

One thing you can do to maybe help is set some time aside each day just for you. Don't do anything school, work, or family related during this time. Sit down, put on some good music that you really like, put in a movie that you enjoy and just watch the movie. Try not to think about anything if at all possible. If you go with music, go with music that you know the words to by heart. This will help occupy the part of your brain that usually thinks about things and it will do it without you telling it to. It will help you to calm down and relax.

I know i kinda just rambled but its whats on my mind about this. I really truly hope that this helps you in some way.

All the best!

--Alex

[Carly011]

Take a DEEP breath!!! its OK to be scared. Just don't let that fear take over your life! maybe write all of your fears down so you can get them out and hopefully move on. Also therapy might be an idea so you have someone you can talk to about the fears and give you coping skills

[Skyotic]

Just know that life is death is all just a natural process witch should not be thought apon specially at a young age like you. Also for your Grades. Just try your hardest. Not much you can say on this then, dont let mind over matter consume you.

[Drew5]

Idk, I get scared about a few things too, but you have a lot of worries. Maybe get counselor at school? Easy to say hard to do.