Help With Blackmailing Ex

[Kryzeth]

I'm not sure if this is the right thread to post this problem under, but anyways.
My friend told me that her ex boyfriend is blackmailing her with nude pictures she sent him through cell phone. He's threatening to send them to his friends, post them on the internet and stuff.
So far, he's been using them to make her give more nude pictures of herself to him. They're both underage, and she doesnt know what to do...
I dont know how to help either.. my only idea is to report the problem to the police, but I don't know if she might get in trouble for sending the pictures in the first place...
Please help.. She's a very good friend of mine, and I don't know what to do... I can only imagine how horrible this situation is for her...

[Jupiter]

I really don't know what to say.

However, has she thought about sitting down with him? Talking?

[Desuetude]

Wow. Like Eric said has she tried being reasonable and giving him a chance to explain himself? Do you know why he's blackmailing her? Apart from receiving more pictures but I guess that's what he wants?
Maybe go to an adult she trusts and tell them, they might be able to sort something out.
Im really sorry about your friend however the amount of times you get taught about this in school should have stopped her sending them in the first place. I know she can't undo it but it just goes to show the things they teach arnt useless things that dont matter, they need to be remembered.

[Kryzeth]

I'm not quite sure he would be willing to simply talk things out.. He doesn't seem the type to let it go.I have a feeling he's simply blackmailing her because they broke up, and he wants (probably) revenge, or something like that. He's mean, at the very least.

I could ask her to do that, the talking to a trusted adult, but I'm also pretty sure she doesn't have one.. But I'll see. Thanks for the help, it's greatly appreciated!

[christianteen]

Just go to the police. Even if she gets in trouble for sending the photos in the first place that's going to be a whole lot better than getting them spread all over the place, especially on the internet.

[CaliSublime]

Yeah I think she needs to go to the police and stop it now, once he spreads them out she wont be able to stop it

[gabzas331]

Your friend was coerced into doing it so I'd say she is innocent. As for the guy doing the blackmail, he's already guilty of soliciting and possession of child pornography, and if he sends these pictures to anyone then he'll also be guilty of trafficking and distribution.

[mrclutch1976]

Get his phone delete pics problem solved.

[Mirage]

Go to the police, it may be hard for you, but if you could tell us, chances are you can tell the police who will understand the situation. If she gets punished at all, it would be very little because of the situation.

Good luck!

[Weber_Swagg]

She will get in trouble for it but not nearly as much as he would. Maybe you could just tell him that if he doesn't leaver her alone you will go to the police. If you don't do something it will never end and may even get worse.

[Truth]

Just go to the police. Even if she gets in trouble for sending the photos in the first place that's going to be a whole lot better than getting them spread all over the place, especially on the internet. Oddly enough, she will be charged for child pornography just as the guy blackmailing will.

I'd personally suggest, if you know an older male... get him to forcefully take back these photos.
Another way, would be to get something even worse on the male in this scenario. Get a picture of him doing something just as horrible, and get the pictures back this way.

If neither of those options seem good, go for the police.

[kevkevkev]

not much you can do. eventually he might get bored and move on to another girl, not likely but possible. most likely he'll show his friends anyways though. unless she blackmails him back if she has pictures of him

[Drew5]

Unsend them

[scott757]

If she was to go to the police you could bend the truth.... dont lie but only tell them what is happening now... just say to them "he is blackmailing me into sending nude photos" thats all that is relevant here...

[therunaway]

Oh the blackmail, I sent pics to a chick I wasn't dating, and she ended up getting caught with them and police were involved, although they never called my parents, I was having panic attacks and my paranoia kicked in, I would say go to the police and face it, I'm gonna be straight up and honest, some states charge you as a sex offender for even sending them for you both being underage, he'll be charged with a little more, probably possession of child pornography as mentioned above, but also charged as a sex offender with counts of some sort of black mailing charges for still having them, best of luck!

[Tristar21]

so first of all she has to have her face or a defining mark on one of the pictures to even have the police pin anything on her. i think the best option would to warn the guy about the police and scare him or get some ody much scarier then the police. it will be much more embarassing. ut it will keep kids out or juvy and huge crime charges. tell her dad. im sure he would have a word or two to say to this kid. and all the pictures would be gone. i wouldnt advise trying to blackmail him back because then if anyone did go to the police this girl would be in more trouble. seeing as u posted this in march and havent commented back on it since im assuming its resolved... but if not, i hope this helped.

[Heatbomb21]

Police is probably the best option.

If she tries to talk or counter, he can go off and probably send them without even telling her he did, or bluff about it and send her into a massive paranoia attack.

I have no idea how her parents would react, but most parents tend to get very protective about this. VERY. and it's at an appropriate level. I wouldn't want to tell them and know that this boy is now sausage on his family's breakfast table after he went missing.

An earlier comment said to alert an older male to forcefully delete the photos. He'd know it was her.


The only way of retaliation that I think would work for her is if she either locked or destroyed his phone. screw deletion, Her whole rep can be deleted.


I know nothing about the possible charges, but tell the police straight.

There are ways they can find out anyway. Plus, if you tell them she didnt take them, they'll know because of the angle of the shot.
If you plan to tell them straight, then forget the destroy phone idea. The evidence will be taken away, and without that, there's nothing for her or him. And it's more in her favor.


Hope I helped.

[Dimitri]

I am going to say this once and one time only. I know people will get pissed but I think it needs said.

Hun, you are on your own. It is your own fault. You shouldn't have sent them anyways. You know it was wrong. In my eyes you are no better than he is.

I would go to your parents. I so not know why you sent them in the first place, it is illegal and I am sure you understand.